Is it wrong to move out of my apartment after 1 month living with a person?

Question

I've been living with my roommate for 2 weeks and it's my apartment but I want to move. She splits half the rent with me but I want to find a new place. We don't have a written or verbal agreement on how long she would live here. She seems very aggressive and doesn't want to let me leave. Is this wrong? I feel really bad but I just can't live with her.

Answer 1

Talk to her.  Since your name is on the lease, you are screwed if you try to break the lease this early.  It is better to kick her out and find a new roommate than you leaving.

Answer 2

if the apartment is in YOUR name with the landlord.  YOU!!! are still responsible.  You can move, but you are still responsbile.  Unless you can get the landlord and the other roommate to both agree to redo the lease in her name.

Answer 3

It's not wrong but you don't need to leave someone high and dry.  So give that person notice and just tell them it's not working out.  Pay your half of everything.

Answer 4

While in an ideal world, you and your roommate would live together wonderfully, sometimes this just doesn't happen.  The trick now is to move your attention away from "being right or wrong" and instead invest your energy into finding a solution that will meet both your needs.

Likely, her primary concern is being stuck with the entire rent if you move out.  This would naturally put her in a very bad position.  Make a commitment that you won't let this happen.  Instead, you might help her find a new roommate to take over your share of the rent.  Try posting ads to Craigs list and help her arrange meetings with prospects.  Knowing that you won't move out without first giving sufficient time to find a new roommate will go a long way towards setting her mind at ease.

Also, if you move out, you'll need her agreement that she and her new roommate will take over your lease.  Remember, your agreement isn't just with her, but with your landlord, and you need to honor that relationship as well.  So if you're moving out, the burdon is on you to provide someone willing to take over your lease.  If you don't do this, your lease may indicate you are liable for rent until your landlord finds a new tenant.  Since you need your roommate's cooperation for this, it's all the more reason to make sure the solution you find works for her as well.

Alternatively, it might prover easier to assist her with finding a new place.  Again, you'll do well commiting yourself to finding a solution that is a win for both of you.  The better job you do in ensuring the breakup works for both of you, the better off you'll be personally too.  This might involve imply helping her search online for comparable apartments, and then offering to help her move her stuff one day over the weekend.

Ultimately, it's about finding a solution that works, rather than worrying about "who's right and who's wrong".  If you play your cards right, you can make it work for everyone involved (including you), which is a skill that will serve you in other areas of your life as well.

Answer 5

you have two problems;

one, your lease [if you have one] with the

landlord--if no lease, you only need to

give a 30 day notice and pay the last mo

rent.....and be there for the walk-through

so you can get all your deposit back in 15 days.

YOU did not indicate if she moved in under your guise--umbrella; if you are her landord or the regular landlord is hers too.

if she is known to him, as  a regular tenant,

you have no obligation to inform her

of anything.

If she is your tenant, you must inform

her of your leaving.