Is it wrong to plan your own baby shower? Isn't getting exactly what YOU want & not relying on others?

Question

I plan to plan my own with my husband. Something simple such as renting out a place with caterers and music. Simple. I dont plan to put my expenses on my parents because they simply dont have enough money! Why should I expect or wait for someone to offer? I can do it on my own. I believe it would be alittle better cause I get everything exactly the way I WANT IT ;) lol My family comes from middle class people, we are not rich. So I have never liked putting anything on them! I have my own job and so does my husband. Is it wrong to plan your own baby shower in your opinion?

Answer 1

It's a little tacky to plan a party where people are giving you gifts.  That's just my opinion.  When I got pregnant with my little one, I had to dip into my savings to buy her the things she needed (crib, car seat, etc).  It hurt me financially, but my perspective is, "I'm having thebaby...I have to provide for her".

Now, if someone OFFERS to throw you a shower, that's another story altogether.  My bf's mom gave us one, even though we made it VERY CLEAR we didn't want one.  We got some clothing, but we had already purchased most of the things we needed.

Good luck, and congrats!!!! :-)

Answer 2

I don't think so. I had specific wishes for my first baby shower (no children, certain foods and location) but I did let someone else do it for me. However the only thing that I would consider rude is if you demanded specific gifts or expected them.

Answer 3

No, I don't think it is wrong or "tacky" to throw your own baby shower. When I was preggo I threw my own, with the help of my mom.... I didn't think it had anything to do with getting exactly what I want, I just wanted to celebrate the fact of being preggo...

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Being a part of the planning? No. Planning it completely and also throwing it for yourself? Yes, that is a bit tacky. I was a part in the planning of my shower. I was able to tell them what games I wanted, what food, etc. However, my mother and best friend threw it for me. That way it didn't look like I was throwing a party for myself and still asking people to bring gifts.

Answer 5

No, don't. It would be very egotistical to put on a baby shower yourself. If you are going to put out all this money, why don't you just buy the stuff yourself and forget it.

Answer 6

I do not think it is wrong or tacky.As long as you are ok with it,it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.If you wanna throw it,by all means go for it.Anyone who doesn't like it,doesn't have to come.Or you can plan it & just say that your mom,mil,sil threw it.Whatever you want.I got to plan mine,but my SIL threw it for me.

Answer 7

I don't see why it would be a problem, but I'd let others help out with stuff if they offer.

Answer 8

haha cool we are about the same in pregnancy. i'm 15 weeks on wednesday with my number one! actually, i was thinking about the same thing. i would want to throw it because i know what im looking for and im the type of person to tell people what to do anyway in the type of event so why not just skip the demands and do it all myself? it sounds like i'm a controlling "dog" but, it should go smoothly. people have diff opinions of a baby shower, but if it was such a bad thing to want to recieve gifts, then why was it invented in the first place? it's generous for friends wanting to help out if you can't get everything especially on a first newborn. now if it was number 2, that's different because you've experienced baby life and shouldn't need the help. good luck and hope you do it yourself because if you wanted to do it in the first place no one should stop you! :D :D