Is it wrong to share my poetry with a married male coworker?

Question

I have recently written some really good poems that I want to share with a very creative & intelligent married male coworker of mine, as I have so few friends as creative as he is who will appreciate my poetry. I am a new poet, and I want to see if someone creative thinks they're good poems. I want to publish them one day. I have to say, I want him to be impressed by my writing, as I can be rather attention getting, but I don't want him to get the wrong impression, as he may have a crush on me. My poems are on a variety of topics, but I won't share my love poems with him, as I know that is inappropriate. I will just share a couple of my poems that are about music, as he sings and loves music like I do. Is it inappropriate to share my poems with a married man when he is a nice guy who, despite may have a crush on me, is very respectful towards m? Does it sound conceited of me to share my poems with him, given I've heard him sing before, impromptu at a party we were both at?

Answer 1

bad idea, actually, a very bad idea...it might lead to something else, especially, if as you mention, he might have a crush on you...even if neither of you want it to...

my suggestion, find someone else, a person of the same s*x (female), to give you advice on your poetry and stay away from married men...no matter how innocent it might seem, no matter how creative and intelligent he is, etc...it just won't end well at all...

please believe me...i'm someone who should know...

Answer 2

If some lady shared her poems with my husband, I'd probably hunt her down and run her over with my car...

Answer 3

You know it's wrong. You're trying to get close to him and share an emotional bond over music/lyrics/poems.

Look up poetry websites on the internet if you want to get people to read them and offer their opinion.

Answer 4

If you feel that he has some type of crush on you then you need to limit the contact you have with him unless you two have an understanding that it is platonic.  It is good to want to share your work but you want to impress him why? Poetry is something that you may impress one person but another thinks you stink.  I know I am a poet also.  Do whats right have a real grown up conversation with him and see where his head is at. If he isn't interested most married committed men will let you know straight out the gate that they don't want you.  Then go from there.

Answer 5

I think you are the one with the crush! Back off, he's married and don't use your poems as an excuse to get close to this guy.

Answer 6

If your  not  doing this on his  work or  your  work time at  the job and in public it is OK. But it  may lead him on. He is  married so you know its wrong.   Perhaps you can get your  poems evaluated  somewhere  else.  Take  a  poem/writer course.  

Answer 7

Of course it's okay. As long as you are not trying to purposely seduce him or anything to get him away from his wife... He will most likely interpret it as a friendly gesture rather than anything romantic if he appreciates creativity as much as you say he does.

Answer 8

Awe., how sweet both of you at a party together, with a cute little crush.

Just keep waving that I think you are a great guy flag in his face, and share your feelings and art. Why should poems have to respect any marriage when you need him soooo much?  Keep giving him something and someone to think about besides his wife. You both love music.., how lovely. Why should he have his mind and his heart on his marriage or his wife when you have something to share?

Answer 9

yes, it seems inappropriate at work and with a married guy to boot!