Is it wrong to want a baby?

Question

I'm 14 almost 15. My boyfriend and I have been talking about having a baby. . My boyfriend and i both love each other and he is for sure if my mom kicks me out i can stay with him and his family.I live with my mom and she would flip if i got pregnant but i really want to. I heard though that if your mom really loves you she won't judge you. is that true? .But i don't know what to do. Any help?

Answer 1

Honey it is completely normal to want a child. I wanted one when I was 15 too. But the truth and fact is that you need to wait until you are older to have a baby At 15 you aren't even done with high school. You and your boyfriend would not make enough money to support a baby. There is no rush. I know it is hard to wait, but finish school, get married, buy a house and become independent and stable first. I recommend you watch the show "The Baby Borrowers". It's about teenage couples (like 18 and 19) taking care of babies, toddler, teens etc. These kids were older than you and they still had a hard time. It's not all fun and games. Wait at least 6 years. Enjoy your youth right now. Worry about kids later.

Answer 2

Enjoy life while you can without the responsibility of a baby. It is a decision that will change your life for at least 18 years!  You have plenty of time to have fun and date and be with your guy.  Sorry if this sounds judgemental, but you need to think of yourself right now.

Answer 3

No, its not wrong to want a baby, most little girls do.  But to actually act on those feelings and try to get pregnant or actually succeed in getting pregnant... that is where things get sticky.

Having a baby is the hardest thing you will ever do, trust me.  My son is now 4 weeks old and I'm so exhausted!  No only is there the labor and delivery part, but the whole going home thing is scary as h**l!  I haven't slept more than 2 hours at a time for the last 4 weeks and I only have enough time to myself to take a shower about 2 times a week.  The constant feedings, changings and such are extremely draining.  In this time I've spent over $100 dollars on diapers and other necesities and I'm not even bottle feeding!!

It basically comes down to this: what can you as a person offer your baby right now?  At 14 (and 15) you are no where mature enough to really handle a baby.  I know its hard to see and imagine, but think of it this way.  Since you're still so young, lets just say 5 years ago.  Compare yourself how you were at 10 to how you are now at 15.  In a few short years you've matured so much right?  Now just think how much more you will mature in another 5 years at 20 or so!  You just can't compare!  I know you think you know everything and are really well equiped to handle the world, but trust me, coming from someone who is 25 you are not!  I got married at 18 because I thought I knew everything about the world and I was very sadly mistaken!

There are so many issues to say that would take forever to write down, but just wait.  Wait to grow up yourself, wait to have time for yourself, wait to enjoy yourself!  Don't get tied down with a baby too soon as its not something that you can take back!!  You're going to be "stuck" with that decision forever!!!

Answer 4

Yea you're too young.  Get an education...  

Answer 5

it is true moms should not judge their daugters. But if you want one and if you and ur bf are ready for that big of responsble for a life of a human beings. Than yes ya'll should do what you feel is right for the two of you. Sometimes when Mom's say that they dont wont to be a grandma.

I hope I have helped you,

Sherri (*Shorty*)

Answer 6

Your only 14! You are still a child yourself you sould at least wait a few years yet

Answer 7

You have your whole life ahead of you and you want a baby.  You have a boyfriend at the age of 14 and how long have you been dating this person.  I would never let  my sons girlfriend or daughters boyfriend come live with me under no circumstance.  Why would  you hurt you mother like that when you know she wouldn't like it.