Is it wrong to want to adopt a child who is the same race/religion as you/culture?

Question

Will adoption agencies support it?I personally will love to adopt a child who is my colour/origin as I feel the child will fit in better an I want the child to learn our cultural music/dance and fit in with his/her brothers and sisters.Is that wrong and selfish?

Answer 1

I dont think it is wrong... I understand the need to have the child "fit in" with your family and not feel like the odd man out.  It would be wrong if you felt that a child outside of your race is not worthy of being a part of your family.

Answer 2

Yes it is wrong and selfish. Are you adopting for you or to help a parentless child?

Answer 3

I'm intrigued by the religion bit

How many 2 yr olds have chosen a religion?

Or does your local adoption agency file its kids under their belief structure. i.e. "what about little little Jimmy, he's 18 months old and is a very keen Christian, a democrat and particularly vexed about NAFTA and labour mobility issues"

Answer 4

No not really.

Answer 5

Its not wrong, but if you look on the other side, if more people chose to make the noble act of adopting outside of their own race, I think it would help society more as a whole.  I know of several children whom were adopted by other than their own races (im a teacher) and they fit in just fine.  In fact, they seem more adjusted, mature, and tolerant of other races or people different from them than the other kids.  It would build tolerance and you have a chance to teach that child about your culture just as well as learn about the childs native culture.  It would be a great learning experience for both of you.  

Statisically children of color do not get adopted as quickly as anglo childen, and they remain in the foster system until theyre 18.  Also, many pregnant women of color turn to abortions becuase they know their child is not likely to be adopted.  This is sad.

It would help society out a lot if you did, but it's understandable that you want to stick to your own race for your comfort.

Answer 6

No it is not wrong. It won't be so clear that he is adopted. Some little kids may ask " why are your parents white " and it might make the kid feel bad.

Answer 7

I don't think there is anything wrong with that.  Adoption agencies would accomidate a deaf couple wanting to adopt a deaf child if it were possible, I don't think they would be scandalized that you wanted to adopt a child with a shared ethnic background.

Answer 8

It is most common for parents to want their adopted children to be of a similar heritage to their own.  I don't think that it is wrong or selfish- you are talking about taking a child into your home!  There is nothing selfish about wanting to care for a child who has had the unfortunate chance of being in the system.

The people who generally adopt babies or children from foreign countries have to go through a lot in order to get it done.  It costs a lot more than regular adoption and is very messy with lots of red tape to go through.  

It isn't selfish of you to want a child from your race.  I think it's just wonderful that you're willing to share your love with a child.  Many people aren't able to adopt.

Answer 9

it is not wrong. however, someone of a different race and culture will promote ethnic tolerance and the fact that everyone is the same.

Answer 10

I don't think it's wrong but who says you cant teach these things to a child of a different race? I think it could be a great expirience for that child. Just think of how much more he/she will be informed about a race not their own. And religion? This is a chance to raise someone up in what you belive to be the right way of god who may not have been otherwise. Did you ever look at it that way?

Answer 11

It's not selfish to want to adopt a child, no matter what. Does the child not deserve to be adopted, because of their race/religion/culture? No. It's great that you are adopting a child.