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Is it wrong to want to adopt instead of having kids?

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is it wrong to want to adopt instead of having kids? im too scared to go through pregnanacy... my mom and grandma had high risk pregnancies. so im too scared of what could go wrong. so i want to adopt. when im older. im feeling guilty though.

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  1. i think you are a great person to want to adopt, to give a child a home. but you must also take your partners thoughts into concideration many people dream of the day they will have a child of thier own.


  2. I think it's a good thing, get kids out of the foster homes and whatnot, they're overcrowding as it is anyways.

  3. Instead of feelin' guilty, you should feel proud. It takes a real good person to accept someone else's children into their hearts and lives. It takes courage too. Much love!

  4. Not at all! Think! You could be a lost child's little angel :)

    Do not feel guilty at all.

    You are saving lifes.

    It is rather a smart move of yours to not risk losing a baby, because that would be tragic.

    But yes! I am all for it! Be their angel!

  5. You need to man-up and have a child of your own.

    It is better for you and you can relate more with the child.

    Nothing against adoptions though, they are awesome

  6. My dear "Simple g"...

    h**l  NOOOO !!! On the contrary my dear, it's a very honorable thing to do !!! Just imagine, you'll give a "lost" child a beautiful home, your care & dedication he/she would NOT have without you !!! What an humble & characterful thing to do !!! I respect that a lot & "take my hat off" !!! There is  NO WAY  you shouldn't feel "sad" & NEVER anything "near" guilty !!! On the contrary, you should be more than PROUD of yourself !!! And I am as well...real proud of you ! The world should have more ethical people like you !!!

    Wishing you all the best for the future ! Greetings from Germany with lots of love & care....Annette***

  7. its not wrong. its actually good. u are helping a kid(s) start a new life, no matter what age. and u will provide a good home and be a parent who is there for the kid(s). u shouldn't feel guilty what so ever. if u would rather adopt then u should adopt. its ur choice.

  8. No, it's not wrong~ It's very unselfish and giving of your heart to take in a child who has felt abandoned and lost in this world ~ Good for you for knowing the risks of having your own babies ~ this way you will be healthy and happy when your adopted new arrival comes to stay !  Congratulations on your "new arrival",  in advance! :>)   

  9. There is no reason for you to feel guilty. Wanting to adopt is a noble thing and takes a big person to want to care and love for someone else's child... there are thousands of children out there that deserve to be loved by someone who would love them back.  

  10. No, it's not wrong. Both my brothers are adopted. My mom wasn't looking to adopt but when my brothers were very young kids, they're home situations weren't exactly ideal, so my mom adopted them. I'm glad she did because I think everyone is better for it. My brothers are so great to me and I would do anything for them.

  11. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. it makes perfect sense for you to be worried due to the high risk pregnancies in your family. and by adopting you are taking another child that is already on this earth and giving them a good home. so, no, there is nothing wrong with wanting to adopt. its perfectly normal and u shouldn't feel guilty about it.

  12. No but adopt american kids cuz they need parents just as much as chinese ones. i dont blame you for not wanting to give birth

  13. I want to the same thing. I want to adopt.

    This is really your decision, it's your body, it's your life. You will be the one to deal with it all. If it's what you really want then I say you should go for it.

    After all there are many children out there that need parents. Why not you?

  14. theres nothing wrong with wanting to adopt instead of having your own children. but it wont be the same. if its when your older, then just wait and see how you feel then. everyones different, just make sure you want it for the right reasons

  15. It's definitely not wrong. There are so many children that need homes and don't have them.  I think that you would be changing a child's life(childrens lives).  

  16. NO of course not. Its not wrong to adopt. Orphans need parents , your just helping a child have a family. So fi you dont want to take the risk of having a kid. Then adopt :)

  17. I think you should do whatever you want to do.  Some people are afraid of the pain, and like you said, risks, so they adopt.  Adopting is a great thing to do for a child who is in need.  I think I want to experience child birth and adopt.  Good luck in your decision!

  18. Well you shouldn't feel guilty. Think of all those kids whose parents didn't want them or couldn't take care of them. You would be doing a really good thing by adopting.

  19. no it's completely up to you, medical science has come a long way and such high risk pregnancies can be handles alot more effectively  

  20. No its not wrong there are many ways for people to build their family. If someone is fine with adopting thats great imo. Why bring even more people into our already over populated plant when there are so many kids already here that need good loving homes. Nothing wrong with having natural kids but if someone is willing to adopt and wants to go for it.  

  21. It's just not right, if you want a kid it should be from you, And s***w those people for leaving thier kids at the orphanage. Thier mistakes are your kids what the heck is that??? WRONG WAY OF LIFE!

  22. ABSOLUTELY NOT, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.

    Although I bet once you get older you may take that chance in having a child of your own.

    It is scarey especially when it is your first child and you have never experienced it before. You need not worry though. With todays technology and medical advances you would be very surprised at the turn out.

    If you choose to adopt then that is a choice by you and your hubby at that time, don't ever let anyone tell you it is wrong. There is nothing wrong with loving someone elses baby, when there is no one else to love or care for it.

  23. NO! I THINK THAT IS GREAT! AND YOU NOW WHAT IT TAKES ALOT OF GUTS!! IT  MAKES ME FEEL GOOD TO KNOW THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE WHO WANT TO HELP OTHER CHILDREN! THINK OF IT THIS WAY YOU CAN GIVE A CHILD THE BEST LIFE EVER! I LOVE THAT IDEA! CONGRATS AND GOOD LUCK!!

  24. Don't feel guilty there is nothing wrong with adopting!!  I have 2 children that i gave birth to but it is a very scary thing to go through and even more so if you have high risk pregnancy problems.  There are a lot of children out there who need loving parents and I'm sure when the right time comes you will find the right one or ones to add to your family.

    More power to you!

  25. It's admirable to adopt, no matter what the reason!  If your reason is "I don't want to lose my figure", well, who cares?  You're taking a child in need and providing them with a better life.  That being said, I hope you know it costs upwards of $20,000 to adopt.

  26. There is nothing wrong with adopting at all in fact its beautiful that you think that way.  You're gonna save a soul and raise it like your own.

  27. ABSOLUTELY NOT. you are actually helping children have better lives. I am actually going to adopt after i give birth to my twin girls. I know. It's dumb. Lots of kids and i'm  single. But i do love children. I used to be one, you know.

  28. Of course its not wrong to want to adopt. Why should you feel guilty? There will always be children that need to be adopted and when you adopt, you're doing a service for the child, the community, and to yourself since you may be saving your own life instead of risking it by pregnancy. You should never think its wrong to adopt and good for you for asking!  

  29. Why would you be feeling guilty when you're thinking of doing something so selfless?! I think it's amazing, there are so many children out there who don't have families and need someone to love them. good for you!

  30. How wonderful for children out there who will have a warm and loving home.  No,  its not wrong, its too bad that more people don't feel that way.  There are so many children who need a place in this world. good luck sweetie.

  31. go for it, kids that already exist need loving homes
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