Is it wrong to want to be a single mum?

Question

No I wouldn't be living off benefits

This would be intentional? I'm not a single child myself so have no experience how this may or may not effect the child?

Although I live alone I have lots of friends and family around me, is this enough? Or is it cruel for the child not to have a father

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Answer 1

A lot of times kids do benefit from having both parents but sometimes having both parents can be much harder on the kids because kids sence when the parents don't really love each other but are only there for the kids so I say follow your heart and you will be fine.

Answer 2

I do think a child needs both parents but sometimes that just can't be.

I'm a single parent and have been since I was about 6 months pregnant, would I choose to be a single parent? No.

However I am, I work, I don't claim ANY benefits and above all else my 6yr old son is happy, well adjusted, has a lot of love and support from family and friends, he also, this week received a glowing end of year report and I couldn't be prouder of him!

In answer to your question no it's not wrong, maybe not desirable but most definitely not wrong.

Answer 3

There is no right and wrong. Circumstances can arise that impose situations upon us. If your child is receiving love, affection, discipline and education, what more can another parent give? I suspect from what my wife tells me that it is harder because you have no-one to share the burdens with and to talk to. She was a very successful single parent, then I came along and made her a stressed wife and parent! You can only do your best. So long as you can look back in later years and say that, what more can you do?

Hope that helps. Good luck.

Answer 4

Umm no, I'm going to be a single mom, sometimes we don't have a choice, my ex left me when I got pregnant, and I'm excited to be a single mom, I get to make all of the major decisions in my baby's life and I'm going to embrace this with all my heart.

Answer 5

It is so tempting to say "yes" but quite honestly, if your child is born to a single mother, then he/she won't know the difference.  Bing a single mother isn't easy - there's no one to share the joys and lows with you.  I do believe that every child deserves an emotional and stable family life, with his/her mother and father.

But life doesn't work out like that, and unintentionally I was a single mother for seven years.  No matter how lonely/desperate I was, I never regretted having my children.

It is up to you to decide how to compensate for the inadequacies of a single life.  Your child will long for a father - but then, so many children do.

Answer 6

well yeah what kind of parent are you let the poor kid grow up with no father

Answer 7

As long as you can emotionally and financially support that child, then NO, it is not wrong and fully within your rights.  Dont let anyone tell you any different.

Now, if you plan on living off welfare and food stamps, then its wrong to have a child no matter your relationship status.

Answer 8

It would be better if there was a mom and a dad but my sister did it for alot of years and my neice is fine

Answer 9

Yes, a child benefits MASSIVELY from having two parents, as an aspiration its seriously wrong

Answer 10

Why would you WANT to deprive your child of having two parents? These days you NEED two incomes unless you can provide for YOU and ALL your CHILD's needs. Plus, it's twice the love and twice the attention and I don't know. I just think it's better. YES, you can BE a single mom...but It's better to WANT and TRY to be with the father....

I agree. boys need a FEMALE and MALE role model. As do girls need a MALE and FEMALE role model. A child will sometiems SEARCH for a female or male rolde model (wichever they are deprived of) to replace what is missing. s*x is one way. Drugs are another.

Answer 11

Not wrong, just really strange. It's not easy being a first time mum, let alone being a single mum.

I think that it would be unfair on the child if you deny them the right to have a father figure around them.

Answer 12

My personal opinion says yes,it is wrong all children have a right to both parents.

Answer 13

Yes. You'll live off me and my fellow tax payer for 20 years if you are anything like the standard single mum but that is a judgemental approach.

My opinion is that couples should have kids, because there needs to be a female role model and a male role model. Boys without fathers become confused and Girls without mothers can't become women.

EDIT - There is a big difference between someone getting pregnant and then braking up with their partner and someone who just wants to have a child and bring it up on their own.

Answer 14

no, different people want different things

and some people have different opinions on different things

if you want to be a single mum, it doesnt matter, everyones different. ur choice of how you want to live your life

xoxox