Is it wrong to worry about this?

Question

I always hear about people having affairs, and I'm not married, but I'm afraid that if I ever am my wife might cheat on me or try to leave me for another man, or that I might do something terrible if she tried to. Like this man in Wales who murdered his wife because she was planning to abandon him and their two children for another man. I keep thinking about it and its getting to me, what should I do?

Answer 1

If it happens, no one is worth going to prison for. Just get a divorce.  

Answer 2

I used to let Envy get the best part of me, but no one has the right to control someone else's life by taking it away from them, don't you agree?

Since you aren't married, don't worry about it. Before I got married I too would worry about how devastated I would be if I were married and someone left me because I hate being lonely and forgotten.

I've gotten "older and wiser" since and now that I'm married I realize that you support the one that you love. When my husband "messes up" I just take a time out and try to send him more love. If he wanted to leave me I would have to let him because you can't make someone stay. I would try to not let anger destruct me. I've worked too hard to let life's inevitable turns bring me down. Don't worry, you will get over it. It's a control issue- you will outgrow it if you are a wisdom-seeker.

Answer 3

Not all people should be married.

Sounds like you're one of them.

Answer 4

there is no law that says everyone MUST get married and/or have children. just meet many women. no need to even have s*x, just have friends and meet people. just chill and if you really feel serious about someone share your views on commitment and that person may feel the same as you do. Stay up!

Answer 5

That the thought came to you isn't wrong.  But if you find yourself obsessing  about it.  Then it can become a problem.  It can cause you to distrust women for no reason.  And will cause problems in  relationships you have.  If you start accusing a woman you date,  of her possibly cheating on you.  We all have worries at times about things we can't control.   All you can do to avoid something like that from happening.  Is by marrying a woman you trust,  and that thinks cheating is wrong.

Answer 6

Don't get married, Mark. It's not worth it.  

Answer 7

The idea is to date until you find someone that you can trust enough to not worry about stuff like that.  Dating is to find the right one and just make sure that you are choosy.

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Answer 8

Its a big risk I think if you love her and she loves you and your dating and she cheated youd prolly kill her too

Answer 9

I'm sorry, but if your worried that you have the potential to kill someone over something that may or may not happen, you need to get yourself some professional help right away.

Answer 10

I would find my own way to regroup my thoughts about the fear of being cheated on.  There is no way a relationship will work if someone goes into it with negative thoughts.  

I have been cheated on, and I told myself over and over that I had to go into the next relationship with an open heart and an open mind knowing if I allowed my fears from the past to enter that relationship with me, that it would never work...  

Answer 11

i think the worry of you're other half cheating on you is a natural care and worry.  now what you should really be worried about is the thought that that man Wales could be you. maybe you should make sure you're emotionally steady enough for something so serious as marriage. make sure you really love her and that you're just not obsessed with her because that's what happened with wales. an obsession can drive someone already on edge clear off the edge you understand? so check out yourself and see what the issue is. that doesn't sound healthy.