Is life a bunch of "open doors", or do doors shut in your face when you least expect it?

Question

i think people will be there and they are not.

I think they will care and they do not.

I think there are options available and there are not.

Family may treat you like a stranger (when you expected a warmer response)

Have you ever felt like the rug was suddenly swept from under you?

Do you perceive that you have many options in your life or do you feel like a beggar / inferior?

Answer 1

i think every person has felt that the rug was swept out from under them but the key is getting back up. when people aren't there for you, be there for them. it shows a dedication and a kindness that they will pick up on. With the family thing, even if they treat you without kindness remember to be kind to them.

a lot of times all of the things listed happen to me but i know that to become a better person i have to get up and not let it bother me. i dont know if you are religious or not, but i pray. things can get tough for me but i always make it through knowing that jesus is on my side. if this is not an option for you, you have to find a way to make it through. doors can close in your face but you have to open them up. show kindness and respect to all people you meet and you will get it in return. start at the bottom and work your way up, build respect and trust and be kind to all whom you will meet along your journey. things will start to look up. again i dont know about your religious background but my suggestion is prayer. start anywhere, god can and will help you. it may not be in the way you want it to be but he gives you all that you need.

good luck.  

Answer 2

Oh yeah, rugs are going to get swept under your feet, d**n near daily.

But, keep your eye open and your self ready.

Doors will shut in your face but sometimes they shut in your face because of no action towards getting through that door.

But yes, I understand about the unexpected door slamming.

It will happen all the time but don't give up, just check the next door, then the next, until you get to the end of the hallway.

Answer 3

You can't expect people to always be there for you. They have their own problems to deal with. How often are you really there for them? People often expect others to show them how they feel all the time, which is emotionally draining. Why is it that you feel they dont care? Because they don't jump through hoops to show you? How often do  you really work at "showing" someone you care? You should accept people care and leave it at that. There are always options open, bliding ourself is something only you can change.

You say family treating you like a stranger but then yo usay expecting a "warmer" response. Meaning there was a response. They didn't throw their arms aroudn you and welcome you back as if they had thought you dead.

Family should be like.. oh hello. that's it. They raised you, they took care of you. Why should it be a welcoming home party every time you enter their door? Makes no sense.

Life is only about ups and downs. Long and steady is boring. To me, it sounds like your expectations are far too high for anyone to meet. Also sounds way to much about just you. I love my son dearly, but i can't be there for him every minute of the day. There are other things that have to get done, not to mention my own needs. When he stops around i don't feel the need to rush to him and jump on him as if i hadn't seen him in 20 years. Sometimes i am busy and can barely get in a hello. He doesnt' expect these things either. In a crisis, he knows i am there. A real crisis and not one that is a weekly problem.

If you feel like an inferior, that is your own problem. You need to get councelling for it. No oen can make you feel that way, you simply make yourself feel that way. Or think that someone feels that way about you and give it credence. I am inferior to none, i am superior to none. It is my choice.

One has to stop shutting their eyes to see options. One also has to look inward if people are starting to run away. What have they done to push these people away from them? Are you so emotionally needy that your needs truly can't be met? I've had friends like that that i've had to let go. Broke my heart because i cared deeply for them. But i can't be emotionally blackmailed to show them how i care every time i turn around. It isn't healthy for them or for me. Caring should be implied unless told otherwise and not something people should have to try to show or prove to you.

Options aren't just sitting there either. They have to be made. They have to be thought of. Every moment of every day is an option. Will i take an insult to heart or will i toss it in the garbage where it belongs. Will i take that person compliment for face value or try to see hidden meanings in the negative. Will i chose to be happy when i wake up or unhappy? You face a multitude of choices every day, you make your life what it is. If it's horrendously bad, it's something you have chosen. I grew up with terrible parents. I chose to make my life as good as i could figure out how too. I did. Every choice i made has led me to here. good or bad. They were my choices. So are they yours.  

Answer 4

yup.  I've come to depend on nobody but myself.  I can only control me and my actions and ultimately it's me that will make myself happy.

So, since I've done that, it seems doors open back up, and things aren't so lonely.  I'm there for my friends, I care for my friends, I'm open to my family, and hope that one day they'll all be able to do the same for me... but don't worry since, I do my best, and thats all I can control.

Answer 5

I always seem to find when doors shut in my face, I look for an open window, and there usually is one.  It may take a little more work to crawl through, but I still get there!

Answer 6

I wish I could feel that the rug was swept out from under me, or that doors have been slammed in my face.

I feel like my life has been like trying to swim up a waterfall. The doors are WELDED shut, always have been. The rug was never there to begin with, and I can't seem to stand up to even start.

Answer 7

expect doors to be shut in your face, frequently. that is,unless you are very, very lucky.