Is life really that hard??

Question

Have you ever gotten to the point that your heart is so remotely broken? You can't find any reason for it to stop breaking every second of every day. Every second you think about that one person you love more than anything whom you once thought felt the same about you? You're to that point nothing seems to pull you out of that fookin S**t hole you want to climb out of. You're so scared to look into your kids eyes for fear they will see every little ounce of pain within them? Counterless hours of tears and heartache within a matter of 17 months. You think you've picked yourself up, helped yourself gotten on with your life and been happy spent hours of happiness with the one person you never dreamed you find.... only for it to come crashing down on you harder than ever before..

I guess I broke.

Dad of 3 of the best kids ever!!

Answer 1

Yes i have and life can be a b*tch!

Watch your kiddies to get your mind off things! My daughter makes me feel loads better!! I could sit for hours and just hold her! Its hard cause you have to put on a brave face and try your hardest not to show these feelings to your kiddies..

Stop and think about this for a while... You have the greatest gift on this planet! In fact you have 3! There is always someone out there who is doing it alot harder then you! As hard as life is just think of the rewards like your children..Or when they say 'Daddy i love you'.. Think of the happiness they will bring to your heart each and everyday that passes! They may no longer have 2 parents but they have YOU! Some children grow up being wards of the state and have nothing!!

Its hard but you are very lucky in many ways! After all YOU have unconditional LOVE! what more could a man ask for???

Days will get better but only if you let them! She doesnt know what she is missing out on! And your kiddies are not going to miss out on anything because they have the endless love from their father!

i am a single mother and i am still facing facts that i may never find love again but you will come to realise like i did... As long as you have your children there is nothing your heart could desire more! And as long as your children have you there is also nothing they could want more!

The greatest love in this world is the love we have for our children.. No love can beat this!

Yes, be sad today but tomorrow is another day and life will go on, just remember you have 3 miracels that love you unconditionally..

If you ever want to chat feel free!!

Answer 2

oh yes... trust me.. being dumped by my girlfriend...i loved her so much...its all gone..she love another guy now... and she dont even care...its the worst thing you can imagine...

Answer 3

i'm having that feeling now.  I'm married and i thought we were going to  be together forever. but he's  not "into" me like he once was.  He looks at me differently, almost to say "leave and don't come back". my whole life, my reason for being, reason for living and working was for him and our daughter.  My heart is broken and i don't think it's going to heal. I have been so hurt by him and so betrayed. I can't seem to find myself and I think I lost my soul somewhere in the heart of my daughter, because everytime I see her, i'm seeing him and she's my everything now.  I have to learn to live for her now, breathe for her, be everything for her.  

But how can I go on?  I just can't.  but as a mom,  i force myself to get up and be happy.. for my daughter. she's so young, but i don't want her to see my pain, my hurt, my broken soul.  

Answer 4

aww now im sad

my mum got cancer a year ago and that was really really hard

but everythings better now

when i got really depressed i thought about the people in the world who were about to get stabbed or something

naahh thats not really a comforting thought...

Answer 5

It sure does feel like you are the only person on earth that has ever felt that unholy pain of a shattered heart. thats how i felt man for a good five years of pain. Time heals all. and it helps to have someone around to just listen to your thoughts which is harder to find then most people think.In the end you just have to remember that the pain you feel and the depression that accompanies it  are chemical addictions in your brain that have abruptly been cut off leaving you feeling like the world is coming down around you and its hard just to find a reason to make it out of your bed let alone feel and look happy like you once did. you need to get active you need to exercise long cardio like a mile run a day is awesome for ya get out in the sun and find a new hobby. and slowly things will start to change and that black hole in your chest and the cloud handing over your head will be gone and stay gone, trust me man your going to make it, you just need to will it that way.  

Answer 6

Life sometimes really is that hard. Unfortunately. And reading your post, it shows a little fraction of how deeply you got hurt. You are clearly in a lot of pain.

Life's a real ***** sometimes, I fully agree. I've had my share, maybe on different ways then you did, but hurt comes in many forms.

The thing is, no matter how deeply you got hurt, there comes a point where you need to get control again. I do not have to tell you this, you seem to have tried, but it's just very difficult to get over the pain and probably the anger.

Have you considered to look for some help? So you can find a way of relieving yourself from the deep emotions that are still in your way?

I went through some therapy myself and for me it really worked. It helped me to free myself of the emotions, and also helped me to get my grip on life back.

If you didn't consider it, then I suggest you do. Because, not only do I think that it would be good for you, I was also touched by the last words of your post.

You say: "As much as my kids need a "motherly" figure... I guess they lose out in this life time."

Okay, you don't have control about their mother and her actions. But you do have control over your own.

Your children don't just need a motherly figure, they need a fatherly figure as well. That, and a safe place for them to grow up in. A place where they feel safe to show their own emotions. Where their dad is not afraid to show his, and also takes responsibility to do whatever he can to stabilize their (and his) world.