Is love an illusion?

Question

Is love an illusion?

Answer 1

Absolutely, sadly and unfortunately yes.

Answer 2

I answered someone else's question but I will give you the same answer because I find it applicable:

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Yes, love is an illusion. We are impelled by our primal will, which ultimately does not satisfy our INDIVIDUAL passion; instead, it satisfies the call of the SPECIES.

That is, an individual's existence is the agency by which the species achieves immortality. A man dies, but the species does not--this is accomplished by the noxious and insidious agent we call "love" (which is only a pretext for sexual intercourse).

let us examine the matter a little further:

(For humor, I will assume we agree on a common term for "love")

Love is the pretext whereby so many people crucify themselves to the arrangement of marriage, relationships, and commitments, for a reason no better than mere obsession. Love is necessitated by a sexual impulse, no matter how much we try to restructure or "tame" it. You can spend 5 hours listing the "necessary" qualities of a "soul mate," but all those qualities are for naught if they do not contribute to sexual arousal. (This is why the "nice guy" is abandoned by society).

If man were to think logically of this arrangement, he would spare himself the burden of irrationally committing his life (and sacrificing so many freedoms) to another, in a relationship that will insidiously produce pleasure in the beginning, and pain or insanity in the end. The purpose of this arrangement is instrumental not to individual happiness, but the production of offspring.

If one were to think logically of relationships and love, 70% of the marriages that end in divorce in the U.S. simply would not be.

How much of a woman's discourse is preoccupied by the topic of "relationship problems"?

How many arguments do you hear regarding problems of love?

You need only look at the Singles and Dating section in Yahoo! Answers to confirm my statements --how irrational are all these people? How miserable are they? Most of the threads posted are of a problem--one that often leads to unimaginable despair... confirm this for yourself. See what nature's design has in store for the individual: insecurity and lack of fulfillment.

Love is the Sundew of humanity. It will provide the sweetest nectar and the most beautiful display, only to kill you in the end.

Simply put, Love is not for the individual; it is for the propagation of the species.

In short, there is no logical reason for the arrangement of relationships. It is a mechanism of evolutionary efficiency. We call it "love."

I know so many girls who are being cheated on by their men but have no clue.

Love is just an interpretation of human sexuality. But human sexuality is infinitely difficult to control (let alone to control by fidelity), this is why many relationships fail--nature only designed the means (s*x), not the ends (faith and commitment) because the latter is not necessary to produce offspring, only the former.

Sorry to shatter your hopes. I would make the wager that most of these girls that are talking about love have been cheated on but have no clue.

Answer 3

Being "in love" is a chemical as well and emotional state. As the chemicals and emotions change, the state of being "in love" may change.

Love, on the other hand, is defined by its behaviors.  If the concrete behavior is loving, the love is real.  If it's all talk and the actions are not loving, then it isn't really love, and could be seen as an illusion.

Illusory love looks only to the nights together. Real love gets up everyday and makes a shared life.

Answer 4

no love is a feeling of care and trust when you love someone you want them to be with you you feel for them.

Answer 5

Love is the single most real thing in all creation. It is the foundation for a truly happy life, for if you love yourself you can be happy regardless of outside influences. (I didn't say you'd always be in a good mood, I said you would be happy.) If you are fortunate enough to love someone else then you have the greatest blessing in life and eternity. And it's not love unless they love you too. Love is real. Everything else is the illusion.

Answer 6

No, it isn't an illusion...but most of the perceptions that the world attributes to love are.

Love is,besides an emotion, a judgment. It is one human judging another for the purpose of granting an emotional response. The same with hate, adoration, admiration, reverence, revulsion, enmity......

Answer 7

Love is a dazed state of mind that fails to anchor itself on rationality...... unfortunately, it is real and overly hyped.

Answer 8

Dear Friend,

                     Love is not an illusion. It is the Greatest Gift that Nature has given this Universe. Love is the Inherent quality which is keeping this Universe afloat.

Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.

As an abstract concept love usually refers to a strong, ineffable feeling towards another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more."