Is love marriage...?

Question

Prohibited? I mean i know that interaction between the opposite s*x is very much discouraged as in pyhsical but what about just speaking and i also know that when 2 people are alone, satan also accompanies them so what if they are in a crowd?

My parents are not the type who would force me into a marriage or even force their opinions on me but would let me choose as long as they have the first say and the final say in it Lol so i was just wondering whether having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship haraam in islam? What if these two decide to get married and settle down, some of my cousins have had love marriage and their relationship seems to be going good.

Answer 1

You can get to know him in many different ways, let your parents know and make sure if you do meet you are accompanied by another person, or in a public place, but all that touchy stuff refrain from it and  any words which are not good too which may lead to wrong doing.

The laws of Allah cannot be changed just because some people adopt different methods, who is to say even if you did have that type of relationship you would end up marrying each other....? Dear do not let any one exploit as that is what comes out of these relationships! You want to stick to your modesty and Chasity.

Answer 2

LOVE-ie is a many splendored thing as the song lyric says,but for my opinion Love is'' Giving,giving love Care caring Devotion meaning devoting yourself to be a good example not a person that will cause people to be harm and if you said Sacrifice what type of: not the one that Bad people do" Sacrifice is a Devotion that you will do something Good and not to harm innocent peoples,animals property,and that is LOVE.  and you said Love is Marriage? not absolute truth because there are some went into marriage into a personal gain or interets only like an alien want to stay longer in this Country choose to marry a citizen for immigration purposes and others belief if they marry a Tall dark & Handsome and Rich male could be their Dream come true" and if you said an opposite s*x get married if they truly like and care for each other that is LOVE" Love w/o Care,but only likes or just liking him/her is LUST'' and dont ever ask if i agree on same s*x and like and care for each other and get married--sorry to say'' it is not Love' but it was a "Sinful Lust"  and Abomination to the Eyes of the Almighty, Goverment, Community,Churches" Unimaginable Swine of Sodom and Gommoranh.  a Gayguy should marry a L*****n because the L*****n will think that the g*y is a Girl and they We're Compatible  

Answer 3

Sina is still in love with that man! Lol.

How sanctimonious. OK to insult but never to be insulted.

Answer 4

Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is not haram, having s*x outside of marriage is. The best relationships I know of are a combination of the 2, where parents have arranged meetings between the kids and left them to work out the rest. Parents should not have any say at all in whom their children choose to marry. What better way to prove one's faith than to resist temptation when it's put in our path, keeping out of temptation's way is the cheat's way. It's all down to freedom of choice, one must freely choose the right way. A normal marriage, as you call a love marriage, is a blessing from god. s*x without love is rape.

Just look at all the thimbs down on this page. Anyone who makes a sensible point gets one. Just goes to show what sheep these people are.

Answer 5

Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is haraam in Islam.  As you already know satan is always there looking for a chance and what if you decide you didn't want to marry this person.

Answer 6

Wow! I can't imagine anything worse than being married to somebody you don't love and being expected to be intimate with them. Surely if you were in a relationship like that you would feel like you were being abused. Gross!

Surely you must be allowed to have friends and build good relationships with boys and girls. It's only natural and normal. I don't believe in Satan, but there's also nothing bad about love. Surely it's a good thing. If we all loved each other there would be no more hate, wars, fear...

Best Wishes

Answer 7

having a boyfreind/girlfriend is haram  

Answer 8

Why would you want to fall in love before marrying your actual partner? and in order for you to fall in love with someone, you have to be pretty close, which I'm sure is not permissible in Islam. That's what the westerners do(fall in love) prior to marriage, and you just have to look at their divorce rates.

One must get to know their partners before marrying, but to an extent, then you have so much to look forward to when marrying. But if you've "allegedly" fallen in love prior to marriage, then really you have nothing to look forward to. Because you'll know 'everything' about them, hence why you would fall in love with them in the first place.

Let's say you do fall in love prior to marriage, you might not even end up with this so called fiance. And that's the reason so few people are capable of intimacy today is because that spiritual centre of union with another person has been scattered in bits and pieces all over their previous partner's lives.

So if you fall in love after marriage,  it will no doubt improve relationship building.

EDIT: Love is a word men use to get laid, you will never know whether he's serious or not. It's like the saying: "Girls can fake orgasms, but guys can fake a whole relationship"...You might be clear about your intentions 'No s*x before marriage' but he may have other ideas. Women are vulnerable, and guys are convincing, and satan flows in a man like blood flows in him, the persistency, and consistency eventually pays off for the guy. "Oh we're going to be married anyway, let's do it" and the girl eventually falls for it.

EDIT: Serenity, the 'decent' men refrain from such pre-marital relationships in the first place. When I say 'pre-marital relationship' that's exactly what it'll be- or else, there's no chance of you 'genuinely' falling in love. You will have to spend lots of time alone with eachother, constant phone calls, txt messages, day trips to the cinema etc.. it's the only way you will 'truly' fall in love.

Some say, 'true love' happens after many years of marriage. A lot of people just delude themselves into believing they're 'in love' ... Sometimes, love can be an obsession,  when love becomes an obsession it become pathological and a destroyer of the lover and his/her beloved. Remember, love is without ownership, sometimes you think you love them, but then you discover the illusory nature of the experience and the selective or deceptive nature of your perceptions.

Answer 9

Haifa: may Allah forgive you

Ameen

Answer 10

I would go with the answers provided by: Ninja&Ducky, and Ranoush.

Also, bear in mind that counsel that Pakistani Chap gave you.....He is indeed right.....You should pray to Allah that He finds you a suitable partner....May He bless you, and all of us.....Ameen

Wassalaam...

EDIT:

I particularly appreciated this sentence from Eme Z's answer:

".....a Gayguy should marry a L*****n because the L*****n will think that the g*y is a Girl and they We're Compatible....."

LOL!!! That was a good joke!! Must have thought of it! Congrats man!! lol!! That sentence made me laught for nearly 3 whole minutes!!! LoL!

What a great solution to homosexuality.....!!! lol!

Answer 11

I never thought I would say this, but I agree with p**i Chap. There is no such thing as "love" you can only fall in love with some one after spending years with them. What we call love these days is merely an infatuation.  

Answer 12

SINA  homo sexuality is sin  

Answer 13

tell me sth:)

if someone saw me,and he was attracted to me,...told me he does,and i am attracted to him too,and he wants to see my parents...

and he meet them and we get engaged,and through our engagement we got to know each other(we talked with a mahrem with us),and liked each other more,and we got married..

isn't this a a love marriage?

and halal in everyway?

so ''love'' is not haram in Islam,it is the haram things that it's done in its name,like having a bf and holding hands and being alone and all that.

so once u saw someone u think u want to marry him/her(in case u r a man) u should propose,not talking and flirting and all that...and u have the engagement period,to know each other...if Allah has destined for u to be married,so be it,if not,u can break the engagement and everybody moves on.