Is loving the Military till death do you part, and obsession, or true love?

Question

I would like to know what the Military thinks about this, because I feel like I might be obsessed, and in love, and I don't know if it's both, or just one. Tried the Army, but in 1987, didn't get accepted because of disability. I surround myself with everything military, and even people who want, or wanted the same thing I did, and do, to be one of you. It's too late for me, but sometimes I feel like I might be trying to head others in your direction, perhaps to live out my dream that couldn't be?

Do you think that's wrong, and are my deep feelings obsession, or love?

Please be honest, I can take it! Thanks, Mates!

Answer 1

I agree with SFC, I think it's more a call to duty because of the pride and unity you feel for this country.  

Answer 2

Maybe its just pride.

Answer 3

Well everyone has an interest/hobby/dream.  

Answer 4

I spent 22 years on active duty in the Army. I do not nor have I ever loved the Army. I do and have always loved my country. This is the only reason for our military to even exist. I wear my retired rank as my official title today, not because I loved the Army but because I earned the title.  

Answer 5

Xenypoo----you manifest a spirit and love of our country that is far far greater than the average bear----so this was your great unfulfilled dream----I am proud you and your son do what you can to bless our troops----if more of us could do like you do they would feel more love from home---they give their all for us----they deserve everything we can do for them. I know you as a single mother have little yet give freely of your time and resources---I vote for true-love---with a dash of obsession. LOL

Answer 6

Perhaps it's more of a lack of acceptance. Is going in the army the only way to fulfill your dream? How about working as a civilian at a base or in a  VA hospital. Or maybe come up with a new dream? If you are happy in what your doing, obsession or not, there is nothing wrong with it. Your deep feelings may stay with you for life. If they are not hurting you then dont worry about it, just keep doing what you love.

Answer 7

When you join the military to serve your country, that's a special kind of love. It's not necessarily love of the military, or of a specific branch. You are volunteering to lay down your life for your country.

You develop a kind of love for your brothers in arms. They can and often do save your life -- and you, theirs. They have a better grip on what you go through. You can be the last person they see before they die. You hold their hands and they crush them in pain. When one of them dies, you die a little. That's a special bond.

I was in the Navy for 25 years, and I honestly don't recall anybody saying they joined to die for the Navy... or any other service.

Perhaps it's by extension based on a love for your comrades in arms. Perhaps it's out of what your branch does to protect the country you love. But if you don't have that affection for your country or the buddies who would lay down their lives for you... if you love only the branch, or the military in general,  you might have a problem.