Is marriage a load of BS or what, help me I'm TRAPPED and I want to die!!!?

Question

I hate being married. I secretly hate my wife. She's a really needy, insecure, demanding drunk, and whereas I get wild and funny when I'm wasted, she turns into a psycho and starts insulting me and trying to pick a fight. She will actually invent things to be angry with me over. I can be sitting there minding my own business and suddenly she'll be screaming in my face about what an @sshole I am and how she's going to take me for everything I'm worth. Tonight she told me she has always had a crush on one of my brothers for godsakes. And then she asked me to go get her some booze, so I left and said "OK I'll be back around 5am" LOL this was at like 8pm... So I'm back a little early but anyway, I can't stand this. There's at least 3 other women I'd rather be with than this freak, I've cheated on her and I know she cheats on me with lord knows who, probably my own family members. I can't get a divorce or she'll have me sleeping in an alley, plus it's against my religion and we have a little daughter who I am NOT leaving with my drunkass wife, so what can I do?

Answer 1

this is so high maintenance - and can't be good for your kid either. i'm sure adultry and systematic drinking are also against your religion, and divorce sounds like the lesser of the evils here - unless you think yhou can both get help.

Answer 2

Divorce is against your religion? So when you took your vows did you miss out adultery? If you don't love each other move on, its as simple as that, there is no making it seem pretty and me telling you that you will come out on top. because there are no guarantees. Sit down, tell her you don't love her anymore, and you will do all you can to help her find somewhere else to live and you will take care of your child whilst she sorts her alcoholism out. Or go to relate counselling, they are fantastic. Alternatively, play at her at the divorce game, fight her til the bitter end for everything you have and ruin your childs life in the process, you have to do this as civil as possible to save your childs feelings.

Answer 3

take her and go see a doctor.. a psychiatrist may be...

Answer 4

As Paul Simon sang "there must be 50 ways to leave your lover". I spent 26 years just like you. I wasted 26 years before I said to heck with it. Tell her how you feel then LEAVE.

Answer 5

I know (light bulb) STOP DRINKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

There is only one person I feel sorry for and that is your daughter who has a drunk for a mother and a dad who thinks he's amusing when he's high.

Poor kid! You know what is really sad? You have to get a license to have a dog, but anyone can have a child.

Answer 7

Your fault for marrying her lol!

You both need to grow up and sober up.

Answer 8

It sounds like you both like to drink and possibly she is a scary drunk. My brother in law was Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde when he drank...he finally drank himself to death at the ripe age of 37. Your marriage is in a vicious circle it appears 'cause you are cheating (suspect she is) and she drinks herself silly demanding you to get her more...If you both don't realize the drinking problem, your relationship will likely reach much more lows...Trust me when I say...you have not seen the worse alcohol has in store for you. The only way out of your relationship is wanting to fix it...but that (drinking) does not happen with a typical high success rate. I feel sorry for you and more so for the child you guys have. Sad to say that if you don't correct these problems, you will not be happy. Just remember one thing...we all have to make our beds and sleep in it. If you don't make your bed and its a mess all the time...you have yourself to blame...Take Care

Answer 9

I feel that it is much easier to get out of the relationship when kids are not involved.  It is time to make a decision and that is to pack your bags and leave or stick around and take the beating. Unless you have wife-beater syndrome you might choose to stay but if you are sane then you should consider leaving.  Sometimes people stick around because they are too afraid of change and hopefully you're not one of them.

Answer 10

Wow, it seems like you like to pick and choose which parts of your religion you are willing to follow.  Did you consider that perhaps YOU are the one who is miserable to live with & that's why she resorts to boozing it up & messing around?? It sounds like you BOTH have issues which need to be resolved.

Answer 11

your main problem is alcoholism , here. solve thta first and solve the rest of the problems little by little ...if you feel you need booze cause life just gets to you, you'd be better off taking prescribtion madication that a proper physitian gave you ...but the thing is you actually dont seem to belong together, you are both better off in separate ways.

Not all marriages are the h**l you describe.

Get help, before you end up dead and on the news.

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against your religion????? d**n !! and being so hostile and making each othe miserable, insulting each other  and damaging your kid psycholagically and emotionaly isn't againt your religion? what about substance abuse?? and adultery? suddenly when it come to doing the right thing  your religion is an obstacle????

well sort out your priorities!!!  SOBER UP, GET CLEANED UP, AND THE CUSTODY WILL BE YOURS, NOT YOUR DRUNK *** WIFE!

religion is obsolete and innecesary to humans!

Answer 12

I Have my doubt's to whether you are being serious here!

If you are, get out and take your Daughter with you.

Your wife needs Help, but she has to be the one to seek

it.

If as I suspect you are jesting,then you are very lucky.

as this scenario is very real for so many!

Answer 13

Before the two of you decide to have children I would just get divorced.

If you do not want that then she needs to go to alcholic annomys and you need to go to alanon

Answer 14

That child should be taken away from you both. If you think for one minute that your better then her you are crazier then you claim her to be. You house don't have to be one wheels to be trash!

Answer 15

seems like you are with her for security reasons, definitely not love. If she's an irresponsible mother and you can prove it then you can get custody of your daughter and get her the h**l out of there before she gets hurt. Unfortunately for you divorce is the only solution, she seems to have the upper hand here so fix yourself up and make your next and wise move DIVORCE!