Is marriage really all it's cracked up to be??

Question

I hear some people say marriage is the best thing ever. And some people say after a few years you just want out of it. What's the truth??

BTW......my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and are getting married next year. We have a very strong relationship and are very loyal to each other and I think we'll have a great marriage.

I just want some opinions from people that are actually married.

Answer 1

my husband and i have been married five months,

and i have truly never been happier. i know we're

still considered newlyweds, but i wouldn't change

a thing. as long as you genuinely love each other,

everything else will follow suit (honesty, loyalty, etc.)

laugh and communicate as much as possible!

i hope you two are as lucky and happy as we are :)

Answer 2

At times it's like having a room mate.  It has  good and bad days.   Even for those of us who are not happily married.   It wasn't always so.   At one time we liked and perhaps loved the person we're with.   With time little problems turned to big problems.   We tend to idealize  marriage.  That this is our life partner.  Therefore it should be us before everything else.  And when that isn't so, we regret.    Depending on ones beliefs,  is how much we are willing to tolerate or for how long.

Answer 3

Marriage is what you and your partner make it.

Answer 4

Best thing that ever happened to me.

(My wife is watching me type...)

No, seriously.  It was the best decision of my life.

Answer 5

congratulations on your upcoming marriage!  I have been married almost 8 years and I love my husband too.  It is so nice to hear from happy folks.  I was married once before and stayed single 13 years and I have finally found love.  3 1/2 years together means that you both have had time to know each other.  Thank you for the wonderful news and many blessed year together!

Answer 6

I am sorry but that whole BS about it being "hard work" is actually true.

Which is why it is not for me (divorced shortly after marriage.)  

Personally, I really don't have to spend my life in a constant power struggle just because I don't want to die alone; and some people will stay married to Jack the Ripper versus being independent and happy.  Lots of the latter are on this board.  

I advise you to stop reading Y!A if you want to remain naive of the horrors of marriage.

Answer 7

Like all things, its what you make it and it takes two.

Answer 8

I have been married 5 years.

I love it,we are great together, it was the best decision I ever made.

Answer 9

My husband and I love being married. Our marriage is great! Been married a little over a year but together since 2004

Answer 10

Being married can be great for those who work at it. For others, it can be an atrocious nightmare.

Answer 11

I am a recent widow.  I have had 3 marriages.  The first 2 were a disaster and should never have happened.  My 3rd husband was the love of my life.   We were incredibly happy and loved being with each other.  I depends on if the two of you are right for each other.  

I wish you luck.   If you both always put the other first you will work out.

Answer 12

As long as you are with the right person who love you and respects you, then yes, Marriage is even better than you could ever imagine.  I love being married.  

Answer 13

Being married is not all its cracked up to be. . . please trust me on this one, cause I am speaking from experience.

Answer 14

my marriage was good for four years then it all fell apart, I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but I wouldn't recommend marriage to anyone

Answer 15

All marriages are different.  Both answers are the truth in the eyes of the people who are telling them.  I have been married 8 years and I love being married.  Is it hard at times?  Yes.  Do I dislike my husband at times? Yes. We make it work.  It isn't easy.  There are many who do not marry someone that is good for them, someone who it is impossible to be with.  They think marriage will change their bad relationship for the better and it doesn't.  Others marry and just give up too easily.