Is me being fat the reason I can't get a boy/girlfriend?

Question

I'm going into 11th grade and I'm wondering if the reason I've never had a boyfriend is because I'm fat. I'm not that huge, just maybe 20-30lbs overweight for my height (5'3";158-160lbs). I've had a girlfriend before, but that was in 8th grade and she was as weird as me.

I flirt with the people I like. I even told him I liked him, but he never did anything. He'd still hug me all the time and poke and tickle me though. The guy I liked was my friend. We've known each other for almost two years now.

Answer 1

Do not ever think that.  Be yourself.  You are the person inside and your personality.  Never think you are fat.

People need to love and care for someone for real reasons, and weight is not one of them.  Be happy

Answer 2

Men/boys are slower to mature sexually that women.

So that could be a reason for this particular boy that you are interested in.

But, if you are dressing appropriately for your size, not a size 2, and you have confidence in your self as a good person, smile, enjoy life, radiate kindness, You will attract people like moths to a flame sweetie!

Answer 3

What's stopping you is your belief that you can't get a boyfriend or girlfriend.

You obviously have found one in each case already.

Where there's one, there's more.

Answer 4

It's probably due to a lack of self-esteem/confidence. Keep up with hygiene, eat and sleep well, wear cute clothes and always believe in yourself.  

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a very low self esteem. When a person has negative feelings about themselves, it is usually projected out to others. Just maybe because of the way you view yourself causes you to close the door of opportunity of meeting someone who is interested in you.

LET ME SHARE THIS WITH YOU, 5'3 AND 160LBS IS NOT FAT!!!

I WOULD PERHAPS DEFINE YOU AS PLEASINGLY PLUMP.

Answer 6

I agree with the other answers...Even if you weighed 200 pounds, there is a shoe for every foot, as they say...

Just carry yourself like you know you're hot (even on those days when you feel blah), expect that people will be attracted to you and they most likely will be. :)

Answer 7

I hate to be blunt, but your young and insecure. You CAN get a boyfriend, so stop making your weight an excuse.  

Answer 8

no, its never the reason, the reason is that you let that fat idea get into your head and destroy you completely i have a friend who is 3x larger than me literally and she has like 5 boyfriends already,it doesnt get to her, many fat women out there like queen latifah know how to dress up, know how to say the right things and really think and read books and study and not crowd their mind with useless ideas,

on the other hand i had a 34 waistline before and i did taebo for about 7 months and cut down on food and now my waist is 25, it does feel better to have a lighter fit body but it didnt change a thing, im still not looking for a boyfriend:) , i simply do not want to and simply dont think being in a relationship is what could make me happy.its loving the self that matters.

Answer 9

your probably also self conscious, relax