Is money what men care about most?

Question

Reading through many of the complaints and questions posted by men about women, marriage, children, divorce, etc. I see that the main issue always seems to be about money. Is money the most important thing for men? (I know that people are individuals and yes, I am generalizing here, please don't think it's necessary to point out the obvious.)

So are men primarily concerned about money? Why or why not? What other things do men deeply value?

I'd like to believe that the men's movement is really about wanting to cast off the shackles of socially proscribed masculinity and living more authentically as parents, nurturers, lover's, and partners. Unfortunately what I see is that men want custody so they don't have to pay child support, not because they want to be loving fathers. Men seem angry that women "have the upper hand" in marriage but it's really all about money.

Answer 1

No, we think about s*x too... s*x and money, that pretty well sums it up. And sports, we think about s*x money and sports. That's it, we don't think about anything else. And cars, we think about about s*x, money, sports and cars. We don't think about any other things. We don't need anything else, not one other thing... and barbecue... we think about we think about s*x, money, sports, cars and barbecue. That's it. That's all we think about... and lawncare...

Answer 2

No, and I wouldn't stand to be with a woman if money is what she cared about most.

But as long as we're generalizing, men ARE concerned with protecting themselves and their money, because women ARE concerned with finding a man who is able to provide resources for a potential family. This has evolved from physical strength in the era of hunters-gatherers into wealth in the era of industrialization.

Answer 3

Sure a lot of men care about s*x BUT money makes the world go around. s*x doesn't pay bills and it doesn't put food in the fridge. It doesn't buy a new car, pay rent or pay for a vacation. Money does and more.

Answer 4

No way i  love women, stability, children and all that ..of course money does matter..specially if the male is the families primary source of income....but money is no good if you have no one to spend it on.

Answer 5

That's right, Rude, that's why I have been celibate 3 yrs. I refuse to be robbed, manipulated and controlled by t*ts, *ss and p*ssy. Doing very well without it, never going back, rosey palm & daughters are holding the fort just fine.

Answer 6

LOL.  I liked Mr. Morbid's answer,  but money isn't ALL that most men or men in general care about.  It's not even the one thing that most men have in common, it's just in general men get upset over women taking our **** out of a divorce or taking it because of b*****d children.

You might not know what it feels like to have someone take what you never worked for, or at least feared that it could happen to you, so you might not understand.  But, if it ever does happen to you, then you'll know where men are coming from when they ***** about women and money problems.

Answer 7

Actually, far from it.  Most guys really don't care how much money a woman makes.  They'll date her, even marry her.  They just want a woman to love and enjoy life with.

On the flip side:

Most women wont even consider dating a guy who doesn't have money.  And heaven forbid he lives with his parents or something.  If he drives a junker car, he's totally SOL.

If women didn't have this lust for a man's money then a divorce wouldn't entail the acquisition of his money and assets by the woman.

It's my money, they're my things, I earned them.  Which means I should be keeping them unless I willingly give them away.

I have quite a few assets and a lot of money with plenty income.  This makes me very in demand when it comes to women.  It's petty, superficial, and shallow that so many women are this way...  but that's the world we live in.

Answer 8

Money is what most people care a lot about.  It's definitely in the top five.  After all, Marilyn Monroe didn't star in the movie " How to Marry a Wal-Mart Associate".

Given that Social Security and Medicare will likely be bankrupt by the time I'm at retirement age, I don't apologize for not being any different.  Until then, I've got my mind on my money and my money on my mind.

Answer 9

I think that freedom is the most important thing but in this society, without money you are a slave. I don't want to be controlled by someone because the law gives them control of my finances.

Answer 10

Money is important to men only because b***s, ***, and p*ssy are important to men.  In order to gain access to these things, they need money.  The more money, the better their chance of accessing the punani they want.  

Ok, in all seriousness, money is important to men because there are still so many women out there that won't date a guy who doesn't have a lot of it.  And the reason they won't date a guy who doesn't have a lot of money, is because they are lazy bird brains who've been raised to believe that men are supposed to take care of them.  So I don't know where the problem began, but it's going to take ALL of us to solve it.  And there's nothing that is more of a turn off to me than a single father who doesn't care how much he sees his kids - I see it all the time.  They just leave it all to the mom.  How irresponsible and immature.  Of course not all of them are like that.  Thank god.

Answer 11

no i would take love over money any day.

Answer 12

You make very valid points. But we all know that these guys on here are just whingeing women-haters and so don't take their questions seriously at all.

It's pretty sad that some guys project the focus of their marriage failure towards berating women rather than rising above it and nurturing their children & being the best they can be. It's extremely selfish when they make it all about the money. If that's the focus of all their complaining then it says a lot about how selfish they really are.

I wonder if men would prefer to have full custody of the children instead.....

Answer 13

Awh wow your story is so lovely, it must be so nice to marry such a close friend! 14 years, wow! I hope you two have a great life together. Personally, I don't think the majority of men are money driven, but it does seem true for some. Some seem to think, since they are so involved with money, everyone else must be too. I don't really wish to be rich, just able to support myself and my family, and everything I've done so far has been catered to do this. I would never seek to be supported by a man, I'd feel unaccomplished...I mean I'd rather be with a man who's dedicated his life to charity than say, a lottery winner. What really confuses me is that the men who complain about money-grabbers and whatnot, often also complain about feminism, which allowed women to work for the same money as men. So what do they want? Us to earn our keep and support ourselves or be a depending little trophy wife?

Answer 14

The short answer is "No".  Most men want to be a good provider, a decent father, a builder and occasionally, to have a good time with the boys.

In today's world, we need to value money in its proper place.  Money offers choice, and that in general, is a good thing.  But, while some is good, more is not necessary better.  In fact, one could argue too much of anything (in this case too much money) is dangerous.

Answer 15

Men want s*x, the bitterness is cause they're realizing they're not gonna get any.