Is my Mom a feminist or not...

Question

I'm curious to if my Mom is a feminist or not, I use to think definitely not! However lately I wonder. My Dad has always controlled everything, she wasn't allowed to work at all nor drive beyond the city, she tried to leave once when us kids were young but he told her he could and would get custody and she'd never see her kids again! So she stayed. However, growing up I always recall her saying that women had no place in the military and that if a woman is going to go get drunk at a party with a bunch of guys then she has no business crying she was raped. Lately though she's been telling me that a man who counts women as second class are just as*h*les and that just cause someone has a d*ck doesn't make him first class. She's also been telling me that just cause a man is a man doesn't make him always right and that lots of times a woman has a better answer and therefore a man shouldn't get automatic lead in a relationship. Is she a feminist? Thoughts? *is confused*

Answer 1

Only your Mom can answer that question. For your sake, I hope the answer is No.

Answer 2

Maybe it's just the menopause.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like she's disappointed in the man she married, and it sounds like she became a feminist because she became fed up with being treated like less than a person.

Who could blame her?

Answer 4

Wow, your dad sounds like a total d**k!

Answer 5

Like Molly said, I think she is just very realistic and strong! Not necessarily a feminist, because she still has some traditional views. She has a very responsible view of things and she thinks that women should be treated equally but that it doesn't exempt them from being held accountable for their actions. And about women in the military, I think she believes that because she realizes there's a physical disparity between (most of) us and men and she wants to keep us safe!

Answer 6

she isn't feminist, she is just sick of the way men are treating women (or how her husband is treating her). Your dad sounds like an idiot! No offense or nothing.

Answer 7

No, she's just a loser who married a control freak.

Answer 8

Take a lesson from her and don't marry a controlling a*****e. It's too bad she realized so late in life the sorrow of marrying a man who thinks his wife is his property. THIS is what giving someone utter control over you leads to. THIS is what "submission" leads to. It warps the person in the dominant rule, and crushes the person in the submissive role. Don't let it happen to you.  

Answer 9

No, the second lot of things she told you are things that everyone knows, feminist or not.

She might be worried that you will end up with a controlling a*****e too.

Answer 10

no, your mom is not a feminist. she is just reacting and adjusting to a very confusing enviroment that has been planned out for her. she has been manipulated and controlled most of her life. people were not created to live under that kind of domination, we have a free will but hers was violated. hence her flipping back and forth between different ideals. again, no she is not a feminist. i don't recommend that you or her become either. that won't solve the probelms of the past or future. its actually a lame cop-out. Love is the only answer that will heal the heart of a woman :)

Answer 11

Ask her if she regrets making those comments about the military and date rape. If she does, then she's probably a feminist to some extent.

Answer 12

your mom can kiss my a**,who the h**l is she  to say how men are.Men should always be the boss.

alot of times men have better answers than women,yes she is a evil dragon.

Answer 13

dont know

Answer 14

The reason you are confused is because honestly, your mom is confused. Your mom was for a long time a very very submissive woman who is honestly someone I would never respect. Now she is finally getting fed up with this and getting some sense but she is still a little back on her olden days, too. She is becoming a feminist, thank God.