Is my best friend making a bad decision?

Question

At the beginning of this year my best friend met this guy. And of course she claims to have fallen in love with him. She spends every waking moment with him and when he is away from school she spends the whole time talking about him.

He has totally transformed her. She thinks my friends and I are really boring and she continuously asking us whether or not she should ask him out despite the fact her parents say she isn't allowed to date for another two years. She is always asking us if he likes her even though we have no clue since we barely even see him.

Whenever we are around him and her they both totally ignore us and I don't really think he is good for her. He has turned her into a total biarch and I really don't want to lose my best friend over a guy.

She continues to ask me why I don't like him - she thinks I'm just trying to hide that I have a humungous crush on him which I don't. He is a total d!ck head and he's making her just like him.

Everyone can tell she likes him as well as him. I am afraid he's just luring her in and intending to totally break her heart in the future. I don't want this to happen. Please tell me what you think, I don't want to lose my best friend!

Answer 1

Oh the joys of infatuations. Your assessment sounds reasonable. But we each have to make our own mistakes. It's easier to learn that way compared with someone telling us not to make the mistake.

As for losing your best friend . . . it's like in a romantic relationship where sometimes you have to "set them free and if they come back, they're yours."  Set your friend free. She's too wrapped up in this fantasy right now to see what you see. If she gets her heart broken then hopefully she'll have some perspective after the fact and come back to you and say "Amu (if that's your real name), you were right about him all along."

And you missy, sound like a sensible and caring young lady to me.

Answer 2

it kinda seems like ur a little jealous. don't get mad b/c your friend has a new guy that she's crazy about. if you continue to act this way ur gonna lose your best friend. just be happy for her.

Answer 3

Your friend is totally in her own world right now, so it's up to you to show her what a ******** he really is being.  Otherwise you guys could just leave her for a while.  Eventually she'll miss you guys and come to realise that she values you guys more than her boyfriend.  You can also set her straight before you do this.  

Answer 4

Must be young love. It won't last if he's a d**k just start making plans with others let her know that your life don't stop because of her romance. let her know that when he disses her and she needs a friend you'll have an open ear and some new party shoes to go dancing!