Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

Question

well their is a few things he does which is, alot of the times he does not tell me where is going or doing, he tells me sometimes he has to go out and thats it, yes he is sectretive most of the time, he has come home late from somewhere, yes it has been 16 months since we last had s*x, and no i can't trust him really, cos i have been cheated on once before and i can't trust another guy it's had for me to, and yes i do want to trust him, bit he has told he has cheated once before, i have a gut feeling about something that there is something going on behind my back, and the relationship has changed abit in the last 2 years, he has made feel suspicious towards him.

Answer 1

yea

Answer 2

well then why the h**l are you with him if no trust forget it leave him RIGHT NOW and I mean it NOW#

Answer 3

Sounds like your nieve. The answer is right in front of your face!!! Maybe you just need to see it in print from a bunch of stranger. Sounds like this relationship is out of control and is going down a steep hill fast and will not recover. Get out now while you still can!!! Don't ever be in the position of having to depend on another in order to survive. Good luck!

Answer 4

No one can tell you that he is for sure.

It's not any of my business why its been 16 months and there could be a good reason for it.Has he always been secretive? Did he act the same way whe he cheated before? It's hard to trust someone being so secretive,You need to talk to him.

Answer 5

hes either cheating or hiding something we men usually dnt like to tell our gf where we goin bcuz we want them to not think were cheating but to just have them thinking but havent had s*x in 16 months thats way to long me and mg gf have been together fro 1 year and the most weve went with out s*x is 2 months.the only wasy to be sure is to jst come out and ask em

p.s.-cud you answer my question ur help wud be greatyl appreciated if u can help me.thankz

Answer 6

u can never be certain if someone is cheating nless you can prove it with evidence...but it looks as if your not happy in the relationship so i think you should dump him...whether he is cheating or not the point is that you can do a lot better than him. if he cnt find time in his day to spend with you and is leaving you on the back burner, than you need to get out of the relationship fast...hes totally not worth your time and there are a lot more amazing guys who will see you for what you really are....i hope this helps...good luck!!

Answer 7

16 months since you had s*x?  if your not havin s*x with him, someone else is sweetie.

Answer 8

Whether he is cheating on you or not is not really for anyone else to say although it would certainly appear that way. However that really isn't the main issue here you guys obviously have some big problems and need to address them whether you try counselling, talking to each other or simply breaking it off. You obviously don't trust him and don't feel happy or secure with the relationship therefore you need to do something about it. If it were me personally I'd probably call it quits but everyone's different and without knowing the whole story I couldn't fairly advise you to do that.  

Answer 9

yea he is

Answer 10

yes girl im sorry to say but yes. i had this happen to me 2. NOT FUN! im sorry to tell u but yea he is. lets hope its a miracle that im wrong but i hope for the best 4 u girl

Answer 11

ok i would like totally spy on him but i do have the same feeling for you im sorry that happened :( maybe  you should get ur friend to come with you in her car so he dosent notice its you and floow him were he goes

Answer 12

Umm i think he probably is cheating but then again it could be you being insecure...but i dont know a man who could go 16 months without having s*x...thats crazy but umm i always go with my gut feeling so if thats what your gut is telling you then yea he is cheating

Answer 13

wether or not he is cheating on you, this is a cruddy relashionship that isnt going anywhere and should probably end unless he lets you in on his activity more and proves himself trustworthy

Answer 14

Honestly if its been 16 months hes getting it from somebody. And being so secretive about where he is at and what he's doin is a red flag. The signs are clear I think you know he is trust your instinct!!!  

Answer 15

"yes it has been 16 months since we last had s*x,"

Um what? Sounds like something happened here and there is something you need to address first. Trust issues sound like the second thing you need to think about, and if he is cheating, then maybe this relationship isn't going to work.

Answer 16

Yes he is doing something he shouldn't be doing. You have a right to  suspect about him. He is putting you on a need to know basis and that's never good. The fact you two have not had s*x in 16 months means even more. I am afraid you could have a cheater on your hands. If you are sure he is, get rid of him. No man or woman that cheats should be allowed to get away with it. You know you can do loads better. You have no or very little trust in him as well and no relationship can last when there is no trust.  

Answer 17

Those are some major tell tale signs that something's up! How is he acting toward you? Is he quick to change subjects? Does he not talk to you as much as he used to? Does he snap on the littlest things?? Those are big signs there as well.

Your best bet is to just break it off and move on as quick as possible. The longer you sit and think, the more time goes by, and the more it's gonna hurt you. If I were you, I'd think twice about playing detective, because in the long run, it will hurt you much more.

Answer 18

...well it would be hard on him if u are acusing him .. bcoz ur scared its gonna happen again ...but that isnt his fault ... plus 16 month girl wat are u doing??? ... if u cant trust him then dump him dnt put him thro no s*x for 16 months ... he probably doesnt have that conection sexualy towards u anymore.

... if he is cheating ... i dnt blam him ... and i hate cheaters believe me.

girl u need to trust him or get rid or him ... if he is still here after 16months that must show u that he loves u have u ever herd a guy that would stick around with no s*x???

girl u reali need to look in a mirror and reali see wats going on!!

im sorry ...  

Answer 19

d**n.. if it has been 16 months since you have had s*x, you guys are not in a relationship. He is definitely cheating on you. Break up with him before he breaks up with you or just continues to use you. You deserve someone better than him. Good luck!!

Answer 20

Heck yeah he's cheating on you or ....maybe your realtionship has BEEN over and you're just his roommmate anyway ....16 months ...what's up with that ?

Answer 21

dump him

Answer 22

No s*x in 16 months ?

Most guys cant go more than a few days.

Sounds like hes cheating, all the signs are there. Once a cheater, usually they cheat agian.

Answer 23

do a little espionage. take a friend's car (so he won't recognize you), and follow him. Not too close, so you don't raise suspicion, but not so far away that you lose him when he makes a couple quick turns. When he parks, park around the corner. If it's another house, find out for sure who lives there. If it's another lady around your age (assuming he's not a pedophile), simply walk in. DO NOT LET YOURSELF GET CAUGHT! If he's not doing anything wrong, and he spots you, he'll probably not trust you anymore, and you'll have to explain yourself.

It's risky, but necessary.  

Answer 24

I know you don't honestly expect anybody on her to know the answer to that.

If you want to know the answer, just ask him right out of nowhere.  Sometimes people crack like that.    

I kindof think that you keeping your suspicions from him isn't fair to him either even if he is cheating.

Answer 25

From a guy, then yeah. 16 months without s*x from a girl you have had s*x with and is supposedly your girlfriend. He's definetly having s*x with someone else at this point. Most guys I know can't go 16 days, heck 2 days.

Answer 26

The fact that you have not slept together for 16mths should really tell you that there is something seriously wrong with your relationship.  Very good chance he is cheating on you however if you wont this relationship to continue you really need to look at the problems and get some help or relationship coucelling perhaps.  It sounds as if you are really just good friends, s*x is a hugely important part of a partnership for male and female and unless there is some medical reason for not doing it then you need to ask yourself why your not.  Sometimes it is easier to stay in denial about our situation then it is to face it and go through the pain, we only see what we want to see.  Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 27

i think he is cheating and starting to move on but doesn't want to hurt you.