Is my boyfriend jealous of my family?

Question

My boyfriend is upset that I'm not going with him to a family function this weekend. But I already told my mother I would help her out that day. Also, my father is ill and possibly has cancer - so he is unable to help her and I'm the only one she has.

I hung up on my guy because he acted immature and said "Fine, I'll never invite you to another family function again!"

How should I approach this?

Answer 1

This is actually pretty common in relationships now at days. One person always feels betrayed when their is family things going on in the same weekend and whats happening is.. Although he knows your family is important he wants you to spend time with his family and although you know his family is important you want to spend time with yours. Sadly you will never love his family as much as your own and vice versa. The thing here to do is rationalize. Split time in half if that is possible. You spend a special weekend with his family and he spends a special weekend with your family. You need to be able to work through problems like this because its the type of problem that is probably going to come up again even in another relationship. I am sure you are feeling betrayed right now but I am also sure that he feels betrayed too. Just try to talk to one another. Try to rationalize and try to be there for one another and for the both of your families. Best of luck.

Answer 2

no he is just selfish

Answer 3

Find out if you can change the day you are to help your mom. I mean, why not, if you could still go with your bf AND help your mom? Family is important to BOTH of you - not just you, as you are seeing.

Answer 4

obviously your boyfriend is being selfish. he needs to grow up and stop being a baby.  

Answer 5

First of all, did you tell him that you had already made other arrangements before he told you about his family function? If not you should explain the situation to him and then compromise like you go help your mother this time and then go to his next family function. Or if possible, you could leave early from your mother's and go straight to his family.

Answer 6

YOUR BOYFRIEND IS VERY SELFISH AND SELF CENTERED AND OBVIOUSLY NOT VERY FAMILY ORIENTED HIMSELF.  WITH YOUR FATHER BEING SICK AND YOUR MOTHER NEEDING YOUR HELP HE SHOULD BE MORE UNDERSTANDING. I WOULD ASK HIM TO COME OVER TO TALK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU CARE ABOUT HIM BUT YOUR PARENTS ARE IN NEED OF YOUR HELP.  IF HE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND HOW IMPORTANT IT IS FOR YOU TO KEEP YOUR COMMITMENT TO YOUR FAMILY THEN HE NEEDS TO MOVE ON (SOMEDAY HE MAY NEED YOU AND DOES HE WANT YOU TO BREAK YOUR COMMITMENT TO HIM)