Is my boyfriend too old to have Kids?

Question

My boyfriend and I are seriously talking about getting married and starting a family. He is 35 and I am 26. I want to wait at least three years to start having kids and he is saying he wants to have them now. Is 38-40 too old to have kids?

Answer 1

No. I'm 38 and my husband is 46 and i'm 6 weeks preg. we also have a very healthy 20 month old. good luck. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

no, that is not too old.  

Answer 3

Im 26 and my Husband is 35 as well.  We just had a baby boy 4 weeks ago, and no its not to late at 38.  Although personally I would of loved meeting my Hubby earlier and starting a family earlier, but it worked out great anyways.  Believe me when you get married, you will most likely change your mind about waiting the 3 years.  Good Luck and have fun.

Answer 4

get cracking! lol in my opinion 40 is too old for having babies, when the child is 20 he will be 60 and would possibly miss out on them getting married and having babies.

Answer 5

No. But it depends on the person. Seeing as he is 9 years older than you his frame of mind is different..

Answer 6

Of course not. Men can father children into their 70's and 80's ...sometimes longer.  

Answer 7

Not at all! My husband was 38 when we had our first son and will be 43 when our second baby is born.

*actually that is a perfect age because they are mature and ready to settle down.  

Answer 8

Physically no. But mentally, if he doesn't want to be that old and trying for babies, yes. What if you can't conceive right away? Then that will push the time frame even further. He may be considering how to spend his older years relaxing, not chasing a toddler. Sounds like you guys need to talk more and make some compromises.  

Answer 9

My fiance and i are planning on conceiving next year.  I am 29 and he is going to be 39 in December.  He wants to have a child by the age of 40.  Which is fine by me because i wanted to be around 30 when i had my first.  He just doesn't want to be to old and not be able to enjoy activities with him/her.  Maybe that is how your boyfriend is feeling.

Answer 10

I'm 38, my husband will be 38 in December and we just got pregnant this year.  It is more the age of the mother you have to worry about than the father, however, there is some evidence that men over the age of 40 tend to have a higer incidence of having babies with Down's Syndrome.  Women over 35.

Answer 11

my mum had my baby brother when she was 38 my dad was 41 my mums now coming up to 42 and is about to become a nanny lol x

Answer 12

my daddy turned 40 a month after i was born and my mom was 30.

my uncle had his second when he was 44 and she was 42.

you're finee :)

Answer 13

My mom and dad had me, their last child of 5, the day my dad turned 41. So I'd say no.