Is my brother getting treated better than me? or is it just me?

Question

well, a couple nights ago me and my brother were sitting on the couch watching tv, i was on the computer and he was watching a tv show. suddenly he shouts OWE! sam stop hitting me! my mom comes in and yells at me to stop hitting him, and i say that i didn't in defense...she doesn't even ask my brother anything! 10 minutes later my brother does the same thing but this time my mom takes my cell phone, again not asking my brother any questions. the next time my brother does the same thing exept my grandmother sees him just faking and tell him to stop! my mom comes in, snatches my laptop from my hand, slams is shut, and yells at me, even after my grandma said i wasnt doing anything. its been about 3 days and i havent seen my cell phone or my laptop, i havent talked to my mom or my brother so i could give them time to cool off. what should i do?? things like this have happened before and this time im even more mad! my brother is totally playing the game of being younger and my mom keeps giving in!

other examples: my brother is 7 years old and my mom feeds him his food

my mom tells me to help him with his homework and when i do she gets mad when i goes slow, its because he doesnt think and he keeps repeating "help me! help me!" i do help him the best i can but i refuse to give him the answer because it is not going to help him

i was hungry and went downstairs to get oreos, they come in packs of two and my brother asks if he can have one, i said that if he told me while i was downstairs to get one i would have bought him one, he is old enough to get it on his own (its on a shelf, not high) he says fine to me, then tells my mom and i get yelled at because i didnt share with him!

i could keep going but i wont....

so is it me? do i need to share more and just be nicer and give in?? or is my mom babying him too much??

Answer 1

Well, it sounds like your brother is a brat and your mom should listen to her mother at least occasionally.  It usually all works out in the end so hang in there.  Where is your dad in all of this?

Answer 2

It is always difficult - I know my younger brother was jealous of me, although I don't think he needed to be. My parents did not favour him, but my obnoxious behaviour at the time did not help. (We are adults now and get on OK).

To find out, why not talk to your parents about this? They may not realise how you feel or how their actions are making you feel? If you cannot talk to them, how about another member of the family? It is important that we can talk to each other in families. I understand that most problems arise in families thro a lack of communication. I also know that I would be upset if I found out that I was upsetting and hurting my children in this way, even inadvertently. However, I would be more upset and hurt, (and cross with myself), if they felt that they could not talk to me. Even if what you have to say causes a bit of upset, (do try and discuss it calmly), and even if your parents do not seem to agree with you, the very fact of raising the issue will alert them to it and I strongly suspect that they will be keeping an eye on it in future.

I hope that helps. Just remember that we parents aren't perfect and we do make mistakes. Good luck

Answer 3

....YOUR MOM IS SO UN FAIR even after your grandma saw and nothing happened she still didnt belive u?omg if i was u i would rebbeling agaisnt them by now but i say dont do that what i say is have a friend or something over so they can also watch then when your mom comes in your friend will tell(make sure its a friend your mom likes and trusts) i hope that helps =) and i know thats not the nicest or cleanest thing to do but thats the way i am ...if u do try it mail me and tell me if it worked or not =) and if your brother dosnt do that in front of your friends get your friend to hide and watch like spying but your brother wont find out so he will act the same way he does since he wont know anyones watching like i said mail me if u do it or not :) :P

Answer 4

Talk to your mom alone. Tell her how you feel and what is really going on. Your brother probably wants attention and maybe wants to spend more time with you. I know I am a younger brother.

Answer 5

yes your mom is being evil try talking to her and explaining if things get worse put a camera in the rooms he fights with you in and film his lying show your mom this message she is being a crazy mother who babys her son too much and its never gonna change unless you fix it p.s say it nicely first before yelling or doing anything stupid either that or stoop to your brothers level and say oo hes hitting me mom he wont share with me and see how it makes him feel

Answer 6

Hun, you did nothing wrong.

It's just because he's younger.

Yes, she definitely is babying him too much..it sounds like she treats him like he's three..

Parents will do this...but when it gets too far..that's when you gotta let them know somehow.  If  I were you, I would talk to a trusted family member about this or when your mom cools off tell her everything. Tell her exactly how  you feel and what your brother does when her back is turned. Good luck.

:) Hope I helped.

Answer 7

OK FIRST OF ALL YOUR MOM IS BABYING YOUR BROTHER WAY TO MUCH.....YOU SERIOUSLY NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH HER BECAUSE OF THE WAY SHE IS TREATING YOU........TELL HER EVERYTHING AND MAKE HER REALIZE WHAT SHE IS DOING IS WRONG....

Answer 8

Well to be honest, there are always two sides to a story and we are only getting one side. From what you have written, it seems your mom favors your brother more than you. Try not to be too depressed, it happens all the time.  It happened to me all the time growing up. I am about to turn 40 and my mom finally has figured out what my sister was doing to me all those years. (Yes, even after I moved out of the house, she was still horrible at family functions) My mother actually told me she was sorry that she didn't notice earlier.

  Don't think that just because she favors him more that it means she doesn't love you. I am sure she does, but she just doesn't see what he is doing. somehow her brain can not accept that the baby in the family is acting so evil. Eventually she will realize what he does. Some things to protect yourself. If you get a goodie for yourself, always pick up twice as much, that way if he wants one, you can give him one of his own. If he doesn't want one.... more power to you! YOU GET TWO! LOL

  Also, I think with the homework, I would tell mom that he is trying to get you to do it for him and you are just not comfortable doing that. Tell her before you even start for the day that he is always trying to get you to do the work for him. That way, you have told her before he starts with the "help me" c**p.

If he is sitting there acting like you are hitting him, move to the totally opposite side of the room or leave. that way he can't blame it on you. I hope this helps and I hope eventually that your mom sees what is happening. Also, since grandma has seen it, talk to her about it and see what she thinks. Ask her if there is any way she can help with the situation.

EDIT: Just so you know. Even though I was the "Bad kid" growing up, I have become the one they all come to when their lives are screwed up. LOL Yes, even my mom! It will all turn around eventually and you will come out better in the end. Being babied like your mom is doing to your brother is only going to make him less able to handle situations in the future. You will be the one who can adjust and handle various situations and he will not.

Answer 9

i think your mom is babying him way to much.i think you should talk to your mo, about it when she is calmed down and in a good mood.and dont yell.just sart a conversation then tell about what has been happening.

Answer 10

He's in a very bad bratty stage and there's not too much you can do right now.  It does sound like your brother is being babied a bit too much by your mom.  Just do your best to share more.  

Try talking to your mom about how you're feeling, and if you have to have your grandma there too for support.  Let your mom know that you are trying to be nice and share with him and help him as much as you can but he's faking alot of stuff right now.

If your mom refuses to listen or understand, just keep talking to your grandma about it so you don't blow up and can at the very least get it off your chest.

Answer 11

i think ur mom is babying ur brother :/

if ur not comfterble to talk to her about u should talk to ur grandma sinc she saw him faking, and maybe she could talk to ur mom about it

good luck

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