Is my child lazy or is there another problem?

Question

My daughter is 6 years old. All she wants to do is watch tv, so we put her in cheerleading. She says she loves it, but when I came early for her practice I noticed she was just standing around doing nothing. She does the same thing at home with everything and doesn't try. Is it just laziness or am I dealing with something else. I hate it because I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old and they are all over the place. If you get them to play a game they work hard at it to win but my 6 year old doesn't seem to care. What should I do?

Answer 1

She is the oldest and needs more attention from you. She may feel left out because 3 year olds and almost 2 year olds take up more attention and time. Set aside a one on one day out with just you and her. Trust me she's fine!

Answer 2

There might be a problem that we aren't seeing.could be that she feels you don't love her,and the others are  getting all the love.In a case like that the child tends to give up.they feel that if they do nothing ,they are safe in doing what

they been doing.TAKE HER OUT ON A SPECIAL child date.get her all dressed up pretty

AND TELL HER IT'S  GOING TO BE HER DAY JUST YOU AND HER TO 6 YR. STUFF WITH HER MOM after a fun time  kinda ask her about why she is so sad.if you get a good answer you could make it twice a month if she likes cheer leading ,and kinds helps around the house.

YOU CAN CHANGE IT AROUND TO SUIT YOUR TIME.

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Answer 3

She could just be more advanced with life. Take her to the doctor and have them test her. A week or two before bringing her to the doctors try only giving her 30 minutes tv time. Then have your wife bring them out side to play out side games with her. Like throughing the ball back and forth. Ask her to do flips and make it really fun for her. You might see a change in her and then if she doesn't change bring her to get tested

Answer 4

Probably just a personality trait, look for things and activities that engage her cause her to be interested or challenged. Is she EVER excited about anything? How about friends? Just because the other children are all over the place don't expect your daughter to behave similarly, especially if the others are boys who are completely different in terms of activity levels.

Answer 5

Cheerleading may not be her thing. Try paying attention to the shows she watches and what do the kids do in those shows. My daughter tried Cheerleading and I volunteered I discovered it wasn't what she wanted to do, she was just doing it to make me happy. After asking her what she'd like she said soccer. Now trust me she's not the best on her team but LOVES IT! We are looking to try Tae Kwon Do this summer in a mini class the city offers and she also wants to try a kids hip hop dance class at our church. I just have to ask her and try things out. Sometimes a small session works best that way she's not stuck long term in something she hates. Keep trying you'll find out soon! :)

Answer 6

She is crying out for guidelines and scheduling. Time for you and mom to get to work making a weekly/daily schedule for her for things to do like schoolwork, extra activities, screen time, and free time.

She'd also probably love some parent time.

Answer 7

many things could be the problem!  Low iron, low thyroid, heart issues.  All of these could be a problem.  I would voice your concern with her Dr and have a physical done.  Also, talk to her cheerleading coach.  Maybe she participates more when she isn't being watched.  She may feel judged.  Also, not everyone wants to win.  She could just not want to be the center of attention, and if she won, she would be. And she may have a fear of losing, which would keep her from participating fully.  She if you can't get her to pick a family activity.  Maybe if it was her choice, she would be more involved!!

Answer 8

She might have something that could be causing her to have low energy. You should bring her to a doctor for a check up.

Answer 9

your daughter is lazey

Answer 10

take her to yall local park

Answer 11

I can't imagine that your 6 year old could possible be lazy. How is she with other children her own age? Is she shy? Once she connects with kids her own age she will get up and moving. Encourage more time outdoors (and not with her younger siblings, invite a friend over) and limit TV to certain times of the day when outdoor play isn't possible. Things like side walk chalk, jacks, or jumping rope are all fun to do outdoors and are still girly. Maybe your daughter isn't athletic and there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 12

1st of all what do u mean doing nothing? what do u want her to do??? 2nd if u mean she seems withdrawn and not fully into what shes doing, then u need to do something

Answer 13

I'm wondering if she is lazy or lethargic?  Does she feel like running or playing boisterously ever? Perhaps she needs a doctor's exam, maybe to check her thyroid. It just seems so odd.

Even if there is no medical problem to deal with, you need to get that child moving.  Lack of exercise can lead to obesity as well as depression.  Exercise also improves how well you think.

She's so young that I'd try taking her to the playground to swing on the monkey bars, play chase and climb the play structures. Get her a jump rope. How about going roller skating or ice skating.  It's time for a first bicycle with training wheels.  Then you and the family could go out bike riding together (just put a child carriers for your littler ones on your own bikes).  How about a tumbling class?

I think people tend to underestimate how important a father's attention is to a daughter. It sounds like you are conscious of that.

Answer 14

Suggestions:

-->  If she has a TV in her room, take it out.  Limit her TV to an hour a day.  

-->  Set aside an hour (or what ever works, since you have other little ones) to spend with just you and her.  

-->  Get her to go for walks with you and the other children (exercise is a mood lifter)

-->  Have her contribute to the household (laundry, cooking, etc.) to see if it will boost her confidence

Answer 15

Try giving her a few chores around the house to keep her busy and disciplined.  Keep her day fairly structured.  Some children just need a little push.  Limit her tv watching to a set time per day or even week.  Maybe even no tv on school nights...that's, of course, up to you.  Talk to her cheerleading teacher and make sure she is staying engaged throughout the lesson.  Little by little these things will help improve her sense of motivation.   Also, check her diet to make sure she's getting a balance of protein, carbs, etc...  This could contribute to her energy level.  Good luck

Answer 16

Try other activities until she finds one she really enjoys, keep the tv off, and limit the hours watched, get her to do crafts and activities, or try a group play date.

Answer 17

give her some red bull

Answer 18

My daughter is 6 years old also, and is a TV-holic.. I guess you could say.. I would say my daughter is lazy.. But Its my fault.. Here are a few things Ive done to help her..  I decided to enroll her in soccer and dance class.. It gets her out of the house and doing something that requires her to move.. If not She will just lay around doing nothing..

I also just started walking her to school... With the nice weather we are having, Its good time to talk with her and just have that quality time.. I take my 16 month old along and we have fun.. She complains saying shes tired.. But I think she really enjoys the time we spend together..  I hope these things help you out..

Answer 19

i think tv should only be on the weekend, personally i don't even have a play station or xbox.. none of that stuff in my house.  i teach my kids the the only job they have is school that is their job after school is a snack and i talk to them about their day, after that is home work with or without me whatever they want, then playtime baths then supper and after all that is done and we still have time i will let them watch a little tv with me before bed, i just think that that will help the spend time doing kids stuff and playing ( exercise) you know and studding these days are just about a must as im sure you know.. maybe you could get a better routine together and help you kids play more that seemed to help mine. and they are just 8, 5 and I'm 4 months prego now. good luck and lots of prayers to ya!

Answer 20

get rid of the tv.

Answer 21

The first thing I would do is limit her tv watching. Get her involved in other activities. She is being lazy and if you don't nip it in the butt now, your going to have your hands full. My eldest granddaughter just turn 8 and has always been encouraged to try different hings. She is in 1st grade, takes guitar lessons once a week and dance once a week. She also sings in the talent show at school and likes to be in plays. She loves to be outside and my son spends a lot of time with her playing ball, swimming, sledding, hiking and etc. He also plays the drums and guitar and loves playing with his daughter.

Try new things until you find something or several things she likes and get involved with her with them. She sees her parents involved then she'll want to be involved.

Answer 22

My brother was like that,

He still is kinda,

But he is starting to grow out of it.

Do you have any neighbors with kids her age?

Maybe she would play with them outside?

Good Luck

Answer 23

i think u need to spend more time with her because then she might be happy,and put more effort into the things she does.

Answer 24

she may just be a very laid back person in general but its ok to encourage her 2 participate a bit more 2.....no worries