Is my dad an alcohlic?

Question

He drinks a lot of beer and this stuff in big glass that is brown. He will get mad and yell sometimes cussing a lot.. a coupel of times he broke a few things.he lost his job recently and started drinking more. I love my dad but I want him back normal.

Is there anything i can do?

Answer 1

geez like my UNCLE HARRIS!! loll

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Answer 2

just talk to him sometime and tell him about everything that is happening. he will realize it, chances of him realizing it when he actually does it are slim because hes drunk, but just sit down and talk to him sometime and tell him the side affects of his heavily drinking. hope this helps! =]

Answer 3

heyy

i understand how hard this is for you because my mom is an alcoholic.

what you should do is tell family members or a close adult friend that could hellp you talk to your dad about this

what he should do is find an aa meeting close to the neighborhood to visit.

or have him go to rehab and have an intervention:]

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Answer 4

take him to an intervention and the brown stuff in the bottle is probly vodka it might be not sure. get all of the family memebrs to trap him i na spt and make (talk to him) to stop

Answer 5

you sound like you're still school age...if I'm right, you need to get some other adults in your family to help you help him. Talk to someone you trust in your family about getting him to go to Alcoholics Anonymous. To start off with, you might want to write a letter to your dad, telling him how you feel when he drinks and that you want him to know you love him and miss the way he used to be. I'll be praying for you. I'm also proud of you for wanting to help your dad...you're very brave and a very loving person--always remember that.

Answer 6

i think he is an alcoholic, hes got the whole profile, but the worst is that he doesn't even know and the more you tell him you're worried about him, the more he'll get upset, he needs to realize that he actually has a drinking problem and from that point go on into making things better.

Answer 7

It sounds like he may be one.  Unfortunately, when someone is an alcoholic or drug addict there's not much other people can do to make them stop.  The person themself needs to be able to stop.  When anger gets in the way, it's even harder.  You could try and convince him to go to AA.  You and your family could go to al-anon groups which is for families of addicts.  It's very supportive and you can learn more about how to cope and what to do there.  It's free as well.  Good luck and I hope things get better.  Try looking online for some local groups.

Answer 8

Well I don't know how old you are but, I don't think that is your responsibility. I know you love him and want to help but you are his child.

What about another relative, like grand mom, uncle, aunt, an adult who can confront him about this situation and get him help.

If you said he yells and breaks things the last thing you want to do is p**s him off. You don't want him to come after you.

Answer 9

Address the topic while he's sober.

Talk to him. It will be hard, and he may not want to hear it-- but tell him you want to be there for him, but that you see he is not himself lately.

Good luck

Answer 10

Yes, he is an alcoholic.

Talk to the rest of his friends/family to see what they think you should do.  Every person/situation is different.

Ultimately, he'll only stop when he decides to (or he does something stupid and goes to jail).

Answer 11

He needs help...and I'm afraid he may end up doing things to tear the family apart. You need to approach him when he's sober and tell him how you're feeling. If he fails to understand and continues the habit, he will need to get professional help for himself.

Answer 12

If not an alcoholic, very close to it. Just talk to him to let him know how you feel and see if that works. I know it's hard because my father is an alcoholic and it affected me while growing up, so be strong.

Answer 13

He may be.

Try telling him how you feel.  Let him know you're concerned and scared and you'd like for him to get help because you love him, and want him to be around for a very long time.

Hope this helps

Answer 14

Too complex to answer on here.

Feel free to message me if you want a conversation on this one. Addiction is tricky to understand for someone in your position and his.

Best regards

Answer 15

sounds like he may be. My dad is an alcoholic. I'm 22 and his alcoholism seems to only get worse as the years go by. My dad is a violent drunk, so I've been through it all. My dad won't get help...so I know what you are going through! If you want to talk to anyone, you can always email me! Because of what my dad is, I am a better person because of it (I NEVER want to turn into that)! You should talk to your dad and tell him how you feel when he is sober because if you tell him while he's drunk he's not going to listen and may become violent.

Good Luck!

I'm sorry you have to go through this!

Answer 16

When he is knocked out cold, flush beer down the toilet and hide his keys. Tell your mom about your concerns.

Talk to him about it and say it hurts you when he drinks, Idk what else to tell you other than my prayers are with you.

Answer 17

you can confront him and explain to him how it is effecting you.

My Mom was like that and I didn't  know how to stop it too.

I still don't. I live with my Dad now.

Good Luck.

Answer 18

i think that you should ask your mom or someone if there is something wrong with him or whatever. Also i think that you should just believe in him and that he can stop or maybe even get help if it is something seious!!

Answer 19

Hun, I am so sorry to hear this! Try to talk to him when he's not drinking, tell him that it's really bothering you and you think he may need some help. I know this is a very difficult situation, because my cousin had to go through the same thing with her father. It's probably just a very hard time for him & I promise you everything will work out in the end.

Answer 20

Yes he is very alcohlic. Umm... maybe you could sit him down and talk to him how you feel or talk to anouther adult. Have you done that yet?

Or maybe just tell him "Dad, I think its time to stop drinking"

Or do you have a mother? If so ask her about it.

Hopefully I helped you alot.

Answer 21

I'm so sorry but yes your father is an alcoholic take it from me my parents were the same way my mother died when i was 8yrs old from drinking and my father who is an alcohlic still would yell at me and always blame his problems on me when he should have blamed himself. He would hit me if I forgot to do something.  Try to tell him how you feel about it. When some people like our parents go through stress they tend to feel that alcohol will make there problems go away but it only ends up hurting the people around them.

Answer 22

Talk to another adult.  Ask them to contact Al Anon for you (or call yourself).  Unlike Alcoholics Anonymous, it is a group for the families of alcoholics.

Answer 23

Sounds like he has a problem with alcohol. I'm sorry, dear. There isn't much you can do because this is something he will have to fix on his own. When he is in a good mood, try to talk to him about it. Tell him you love him and that you miss the old him. I know how you feel, I've been through the same thing. It will get better!!!

Answer 24

Yep. Sounds like an alcoholic to me. I grew up with an alcoholic father myself, so I know how you feel. That's a tough situation to be in.

What I didn't know, however, is that there is help for people just like yourself. You can start with this website here:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

You can also talk to your counselor at school for more help. Good luck!

p.s. Some people here obviously never had alcoholic parents. If you talk to him, he'll deny it. If you hide his stuff or dump it out, he'll get ticked off, buy more, and he will turn on you. Your life will be miserable. I can almost guarantee it. Talk to the Al Anon people. I wish I had when I was your age!

Answer 25

Yeah I think he is. My dad did this too when I was younger but he never lost his job. My mom and him ended up getting a divorce and I have not talked to him for years. I guess he is into drugs now too. Sadly there is not much you can do besides letting him know you love him and that he has a problem. It is up to your dad to realize that he has issues and that he needs to correct it. Try talking to all of your relatives and asking them for help talking to your dad. Good luck on everything.

Answer 26

well for one u can tell your dad how u feel about him drinking and how it hurts u and ur family.But the most important thing to do is to make ur father realize that its wrong and he has to be commited on stopping because it wont be as easy . and technically he would be considered an alcoholic, an alcoholic is any1 who is depended on a drink for example he wont be able to go through a day without drinking.

Answer 27

It seems your father may have a drinking problem, especially if he just lost his job.  If he gets mad a lot and breaks things, that's not normal and isn't okay.  If your mother is in the picture, I would maybe talk to her about it--or another adult you trust.  Eventually someone will have to confront your father before it gets too out of hand.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 28

Dear Normal Kid, I think you know the answer to this question already by the way you describe the situation. An alcoholic  is not one who drinks every day but is defined by not being able to stop at  their limit ( before getting drunk) on a continuous basis. It is unfortunate that you are in this situation, and I hate to say that your father will not stop drinking until he recognizes the problem and is ready to stop.  There is no doubt you love your dad, and I am sure he loves you. There is something that you can do and that is take care of yourself. You recognize his problems and pointed out the things you do not favor in your dad, and therefore you can make sure that you do not follow in that path. Work on making right choices in your life so that when he is ready to stop drinking he will have a kid   that he is proud of, as he may also be suffering from depression and may not be aware of the choices he is making in his own life. His drinking is not a reflection on you and you must remember that, do not take any thing that he does or says wrong when he is under the influence to heart. You sound like a really nice "Normal Kid"- stay on track with school and enjoy your life, do not sit around waiting for things to go back to the way things were, go out be with your friends. Sitting around in this environment could bring you down, do not let this happen. Find someone to talk to; maybe a counselor ( and suggest  an organization that helps families of alcoholics), or a friends parent- don't isolate yourself.I wish the best for you.

Answer 29

Yes, it sounds like it. It's scary. I learned at an early age that it was the alcohol that turned him into the "mean" dad. I had two different dads growing up. My sober, hard-working, devoted Daddy, and my raging, abusive, drunk dad.  I remember hiding my little brother and sister under the covers in my room while we listened to him terrorize my mom.  It' always ended the same way. She'd lock herself in the bathroom and he'd punch holes in it while she cried. It really messes with you as a kid.

Once I realized it was the alcohol, I stopped resenting him so much. I did learn to make myself invisible, though. As soon as he started on the second or third one of the night, he'd start getting quiet and angry. That was the time to make myself scarce. The best thing you can do is stay out of dodge. Try to be at your friends' houses a lot. Make it your goal to graduate and go on to college and pull yourself up out of the life you were born in to. Just because your home situation is one way doesn't mean you have to go on and continue the cycle.

Answer 30

Very sad situation. When you know for a fact he isn't drinking anything, try to talk to him about it. Bring up the fact that when he gets mad and yells, it scares/bothers you and you only want your normal dad back. Also, sometime later, try helping him find another job. It will get you some alone time together and he wouldn't be able to drink while job hunting. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 31

i'm sorry :(

maybe, you can hide his presious little cup.