Is my dad being unfair or am I being unreasonable?

Question

I can't ask my parents for much money because they don't earn much so I wanted to get a part-time job. I'll be 16 soon but my dad thinks it will get in the way of my studies. My mum is fine with it but my dad disagrees. Am I being unreasonable or is my dad being unfair?

Answer 1

i think your dad is being unfair. he should realise how important it is to experience the world of work and to learn the value of money. why dont you compromise and suggets to your dad that you will only work, say, 4-6 hours a week, and spend a little less time with your friends. then you will have just as much time to study, but also a little extra money.

Answer 2

he is being unresianeble

Answer 3

Well now, you could look at it like he is being unfair-BUT, he is looking out for what is most important-your education. Ask him to give it a test drive and if you start falling in your studies you will quit and concentrate only on your studies. You know when children start working and driving and all, to parents that tells them that you are growing up and they don't want that to happen, it is hard for them sometimes so it takes alot of talking and deal making. Remember---he loves you and is only looking out for what he thinks is best for you.

good luck

Answer 4

He has a good reason but there are alot of people who can handle work and studies. Try telling him that you will get a job and f you or him find that it gets in the way of your studies, then you can stop it. Hope it works out for you :) x

Answer 5

i think your dad isn't really being unfair... just overreacting. My dad does it all the time... -.-"

If you just give it a bit of time or something he might finally fold. If not... you might have to reconsider your arguemtn and set it back at him again... that's all. ^^

Answer 6

Your dad is being unfair. It feels great to have a bit of money for yourself, and if your parents can't give it to you there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be allowed to earn it for yourself.

Answer 7

If your grades are fine now, then you should be trusted to keep them up.  And in the long run, work experience is more valuable than grades anyways.  Why don't you suggest a trial period?  Get a job, and if your grades fall, you'll quit.

Answer 8

Consider this:  Make a deal with your dad that you will keep your grades at a certain level.  As long as you do then clearly the job is not hurting your education.  But if you don't keep the grades up, then the job goes away - no questions asked.  Tell your dad you are mature, responsible, and can be trusted to keep your end of the deal, and you'd like him to give you the chance to prove your maturity and responsibility to him.  Many dads will respond favorably to such an appeal.

Answer 9

So long as you can show that your part-time work wont affect your studies, I dont think you are unreasonable.  Many 16 yr olds seem to be getting part time jobs now, it makes you responsible for money and a bit of independence.

Sit down with your dad and have an honest chat with him and see if you can come up with an agreement, if you go in with some suggestions/times of part-time work perhaps he will understand.  I would suggest 3 evenings a week max tho so you can alot of study time too

Good luck !

Answer 10

your dads dumb. ship him off to england and make him work and then you can get the money.

Answer 11

I am 16 I have a job and I got a car. Your dad is unfair,  

Answer 12

ur dad is being slighty unfair. i understand where ya both coming from but he's concerned that if you get a p/t job you'll be working too many hours to be able to give your studies 110%. i would recommend talking to him n saying i'm gonna get a p/t job n i won't do too many hours. only working evenings and weekends would be ok as long as you try and keep the hours you do per week under 20 then you'll have enough time to do your studies as well. hope that's helped.

Answer 13

i think ur dad is being unfair in a way, i mean you need experience  and you can't get that from studying

im turning 16 soon and probably will get a part time job, my parents probably will understand, if they don't  then i'll get a job anyways :D

Answer 14

Your dad is doing what's right, your mom seems like she's trying to be your friend instead of your parent. NOOB

Answer 15

unfair!!!!!! tell him its to make ur c.v look good so when u du get a serious job theyll see that youve workd b4, and thats its for experiance. and that itll help u get an early start in the working world.

Answer 16

you dont want a part time job - part time is normally 16 hours.

Im at college and i work 9-6 every saturday. It gets me some money and it doesnt get in the way of my studies.

Just explain to ur dad that u need the money and if he doesnt agree with u getting a weekend job, what other way is there to get some money?

Answer 17

i just think hes being unfair.

i think getting a job gives you more responsibilty

it might get in the way of studies for a while.

until you know how to handle things

everything should be fine.

and since you have a job you dont have to keep asking them for money.

Answer 18

Both your parents have good reasons. He doesn't want you to get a job because he wants you to get grades so you can earn much more money in the long run, assuming you plan on going to college and getting a degree.

Your mom thinks it's fine because it's good for you to earn your own money so they don't have to give you money.

What I suggest you do is find a job, but work there only 3 times a week. It's good enough money to get you by, but gives you enough time for school work.

Answer 19

unfair

Answer 20

having a part time job isnt going to make you fail school

so many ppl that are 16 have jobs

you could definitely get one and be fine

Answer 21

It depends on how you have done in school in the past. If you have been doing kind of mediocarely then this job will certainly make things worse. But if you have been doing good and you feel like you still have time to work aobut 20 hours a week then try to prove that to your dad. Whatever you do keep in mind that sometimes at work they will want you to go at times that you might need to study at and for the most part they don't give a c**p about your school. But you should, keep in mind that that's the only way you have any chance of making real money in the future.

Answer 22

so you have to prove you can do both

Answer 23

well tell you dad that you will find a part-time job that wont interfere with you schedule , and i do think he is being unfair.

Answer 24

ur not being unreasonable it will help with finances. just tell him that u want to prove to him you can keep studies up. and tell him if you dont keep them up, you'll quit.

do you WATCH any sitcoms??

Answer 25

You both could bend a little.  See if he'll agree to a trial period of a month or two...until at least a card marking....if your marks fall, you have to quit the job.

You'll be smart enough to know that you won't have the money if you don't keep the marks up.

Answer 26

just  tell  him