Is my daughter jealous of the new baby?

Question

I have a 3 year old daughter named Katelynn who I havent mentioned before because she was unfortuanitly not expected. I am actully 23, not 14. Just to clear that up!! I gave birth to two twin girls last week and unfortuanitly, one of them died! :'( So I only have one newborn girl named Allison.

Anyway, I brought my baby home 2 nights ago, and I've noticed that my 3 year old daughter seems to be a bit jealous of the new baby. So many things have changed like, she doesn't get to sit in the stroller anymore, or she doesn't get to sit in the shopping cart. I don't know how to explain to her that she's going to have to get use to her new sister, she's only 3!!!

Answer 1

You should have Katelynn dates.. Ask her what she wants to do.. go to the park or go get ice cream..

And explain to her before your adventure this is your special time.. try to set aside at least an hour of just ya;ll time.. Ask her questions while your out.. her favorite color, favorite Kind of cartoon, even her favorite t shirt

P.S. Just tell her shes a big girl now, explain how the baby's is so small and delicate even thought shes 3 she understands

Good luck

Answer 2

i was jealous of my sis i thought my mom was gonna like her more than me i grew out of it but its hard to be sisters with someone whos was born seven yers before u and thats so sad what was the babys name ( that one that died )

Answer 3

You need to make your older daughter a part of your younger daughters life and praise her as her helpful older sister. It is natural for her to be jealous and miss the attention she used to get so making her a new role in the family unit will make her much more happy.

Also: I have many times seen 2 children in the grocery baskets.

Answer 4

Make sure she is involved in the diaper changing now and clothes you are going to pick out for her and the baby, remind her that she is the big sister now to the little baby, that she isnt a baby anymore and that she has to be mommies big girl and be your helper..that should make her feel important and want to help you, let her hold the baby on the couch and read to her (act like shes reading a book..you know). Maybe go to a consignment shop and sell your old stroller and buy a double one there if they have one, so both can be pushed still. Just try and involve her in things around the house to like picking up toys and folding laundry. If anything talk to her about the baby like: Do you love your little sister, do you think she is pretty, then throw in there that everyone thought you are pretty too, grandma didnt want to stop holding you when you were born..stuff like that to reassure her that she isnt left out and old news. Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you're going to go trolling you should keep you Q and A's private.

Answer 6

Every only child gets jealous as soon as a new baby arrives. She'll eventually grow out of it. It's just hard on her seeing her Mom cuddling a different baby. Make sure to give her as much love and affection as you can or she'll end up feeling lonely all the time and she'll think you don't love her anymore.

Answer 7

Besides giving her lots of love and attention you should have her be a part of the process with the new baby.  Let her hold the bottle or assist you when you change the diaper or give the baby a bath.  Reassure her that the baby needs a big sister just like her and that the baby likes that she has such a great big sister.