Is my daughter safe in the nursery please advise me ?

Question

She is really not happy in the morning when we drop her off and While me and my partner were there in the morning .Another child was being naughty and would not stand up so the nursery nurse grabbed the child by the arm and pulled her up.I was really shocked my this that child was Apx 3 years old .My daughter started spitting and my and my husband have not being teaching her this so I said it in the nursery and the woman working there done it to my daughter while I was there .They dont feed her healthy she always has chocolate after dinner.I walked into the nursey the other week and there was a party and they were giving her so much sweets including smarties which she can choke on. and I collected her many times with marks on her body that I point out to them and they have not noticed but I see it wright away. when changing her and she has a poo they dont clean her properly so when she gets home and I wipe her there is still poo around her private parts .my daughter is ten months old

Answer 1

Well, being unhappy in the morning really isn't that big of a deal. Think about it, do YOU want to go to work every day?

HOWEVER, the way the nurse grabbed the other child, the lack of cleaning, and the spitting (!) would be a deal-breakers for me. I'd remove her ASAP and tell the director why on the way out the door.

The parties are a hard thing to control. At my son's school, the parents bring in the treats and not all parents have the same idea about what is acceptable for their child. It is very difficult for the staff to try to control this. My school tries to combat the "sugar high" by having all parties after naps and before they go outside to play and run the sugar off. You might suggest it to your school. It is terrible to pick up a hyper child and put them into the car after eating all that. As far as the smarties go, tell the director.

The bruises may or may not be anything to worry about. Considering what you was, could be, but when my son was 10 mos he was always getting mystery bruises and he didn't go to school until he was 15 mo. At this age, they start moving around more. So if you switch schools, you may still see some of this.  

Answer 2

Get her out of there asap - that is shocking - there is no way you want your child in that environment - you won't feel happy at work knowing that she isn't happy there - daycare/nursery should feel like a second home for them - a place that they can have fun, learn and make friends in a safe and caring environment.  You should be able to trust the staff 100% - when I was looking for a daycare for my son I went to about 6 before I found one that I was 100% comfortable with - there were at least 2 or 3 that I thought there is no way I am sending him there.  You can get an inuitive 'feel' about a place when you walk in - look at how the other children are - are they happy - if they aren't are they being cared for by an adult.  You should be able to just walk in to a daycare without ringing first and ask to spend a bit of time with your child there to see if it is the right place for you.

Answer 3

No she is not safe. Take her out of that nursery immeadatly and report them.

Answer 4

I would take her straight out of this nursery with immediate effect and report them straight away, you can never be too careful, and seein them pull a child up by their arm is awful, its abuse., imagine if that was your child, I would of said something to them there and then about it.

I am suprised with all the things that have happened that you havent taken her out before this.  

Answer 5

Please, please take her out immediatley. It is very important. She is young and dependent on the adults around her and she has to pretty much accept any abuse (if it is, which it sounds like it is) given to her. She is worth more than this, if you were in Central Florida, I would tell you I would care for her. I love children, they are so innocent and precious and they deserve only good, they should be treated with kid gloves. I am not saying perfect care all the time, but that is what care providers should strive for and it sounds as if this nursery is just stuck in a care system that is unhealthy. Please consider and do put her in a care system that you feel good about. Listen to your gut, and also if you have to take a couple of days off of work, it will be well worth it as this is a very impressionable age and very dependent. Thank you for listening. Good wishes

Answer 6

I would be scared if I were you. The carers do not seem to be good. Can you find another nursery?

Answer 7

Remove her from that nursery immediately!!! Your little one is way too young for smarties and sweets, she'll choke!! Just the first sign (and there are 10 further signs) being that she's not happy, is more than enough reason to remove her!!