Is my ex-friend a sociopath?

Question

I had a friend who lied to me constantly. I was friends with her for 6 years. I started to notice inconsistancies in her words and told her about them. She denied all of them and made up more lies in an attempt to cover them up. I continued calling her out, telling her that relationships are built around trust and respect. If she could not be honest, then she could not possibly be my friend. She got upset with me and as a last attempt she turned everything around on me and called me a liar. She said she was so dissapointed in me. She ignored any further attempts to contact her and left me in a really dark place trying to figure her and myself out. It's been over 6 months and I'm still a little perplexed and depressed. Is she a sociopath or just a liar? She used her lies to get what she wanted and didn't think anything wrong with it. I just don't understand.

Answer 1

I actually don't know if your friend is a sociopath or not, but I am sure now that some of mine were, I guess I have learned the meaning of that word now, no I don't believe in calling people sociopaths either.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

She sounds like the most insecure person I've ever heard of.

She tells nothing but lies and then blames others for everything that is wrong. This kind of person will NEVER apologize because then one must admit wrong-doing and they are NEVER wrong. You will also find that this type of person will lie, cheat and steal to get whatever they want and never admit to it or always blame others for it.

Insecurity involves self-loathing and in order to overcome that, one must over-compensate and become the opposite which is to be confident and always be right, which helps them with their self-esteem issues. To admit wrong-doing would put them into a state of depression, which, to them, is the worst feeling possible.

I think you're right on the money as far as her being a sociopath which is defined as; A person who is completely unable or unwilling to behave in a way that is acceptable to society.

Answer 4

give her a good slap in the mouth.

Answer 5

I would try to move on if I was you. Dwelling on your past friendship isn't gonna make you feel any better.  

Answer 6

why do you bother caring if you talk to her anymore if you think she is a bad person?

Answer 7

She's possibly a sociopath, but the fact is, you have to dump someone who lies. Don't stick around and try to make things work.

Answer 8

Well... she just sounds like a liar to me.  I had a friend who I gave some cash to so her car wouldn't be repossessed, and two years later she made no attempt to pay me back, after she said she would.  I told her that I wouldn't be calling her again and she needed to try harder to be a good friend... she never called me back.  I was friends with her for over 15 years... ha... over some money.  Some people are just a- holes.

Answer 9

If her other social behaviors are not aberrant (different/strange), she probably is not a sociopath, but it does seem that she is a pathological liar.

Let it go.  You will have many friends and meet many people in  your life.  Not all of them will be mentally healthy.