Is my ex worth waiting for?

Question

I was dating a married woman on/off for the last 5 1/2 yrs. She has been seperated for 2, divorced for 6 months. We always seem to have road blocks in our relationship. She said she got divorced for me, but she was having problems before I came into the picture. I know we both are scared about our situation. Her ex will flip if he ever found out are/were together. Don't get me wrong, I know I have contributed to our problems also. I am trying to work on making them better. Recently she told me she wants to see if her relationship with her ex can work out. She is "seeing" him now. She has almost completely ignored me, if she talks to me then she will know that she loves me more than she will admit. She has done this in the past and after a few months she realizes that her ex is her ex for a reason. No job, no attention. She told me that the reason she was trying to make it work is, he's a nice person, he's trying to change, and he is the father of her two kids. They were married for 11yrs, together for 15. She always told her family that we have something that is special. I know that if we gave it another shot I would be the person she wants me to be. Her ex doesn't know we were ever intimate. She said if they do get back together she wasn't telling him. I love her more than my own life and when I see her we have that spark that everyone sees, they all know how good we are for each other, Please help. She my life

Answer 1

You're crazy to put your life on hold just so she can make up her mind.  The fact is, she chose her husband over you because she probably loves him more.

Answer 2

Move on without her. She's devious and likes to play mind games.  

Answer 3

Yes if you spend your whole life waiting then they will know how much you really loved them in the end.

Answer 4

uh... there will never be anything between the 2 of you... you were nothing but a fling. she didn't leave her husband for you. if that were the case.... u'd be together and she wouldn't be working things out with her ex... so when they get in a fight you can expect her to call you for comfort... she is using you, that's all it is...

Answer 5

this woman is very confused and she needs to make a decision already, or you will wait for her for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

A word of advice she is trying to piece her life back together and you are waiting on the side so you need to fix yourself and start dating someone for you otherwise you are going to be having drama and heartache waiting for her

Answer 7

she was cheating on her husband with you for 3 years

you and her obviously have no morals so i would say you are perfect for each other

Answer 8

There's only one person in this story that's a bigger sucker than you, and that's her husband.

She's got the two of you good and p***y-whipped.

Answer 9

no ex is worth waiting 4, thats why there ur ex!!

Answer 10

Move on! She is playing you like a pawn! She does not care for you. You're wasting your life!  

Answer 11

She has gone back to her ex and you complicate things for her. Get over her and move on. She has obviously made her choice.

Answer 12

One of her problems is that she's giving a large part of herself to you. You're just romanticizing the situation. You know it's wrong to be with her, and so does she, or else you would be together. Love somebody else.  

Answer 13

Wait and be there for her!  

Answer 14

If you really care for her like you claim you do then leave her alone to work on her marriage.  In the meantime, you need to move on with your own life and find another woman, preferably one who is single and not carrying any baggage around.