Is my exboyfriend over me??

Question

we took a break from our year relationship because we kept arguing. we are talking to get back together, but around the end of our relationship i would want to plan things...and whenever i would say do you want to go out on this day, he would act like he didnt know yet because of what him and his 'friends' may plan to do. he would usually do this on a saturday, after we've already hung out on friday.

he says that there is no other girl and im the one he wants to marry. I've gone out with my friends to the club and he would come to the same one i'm at with his friends. It's like he wants to be able to do the guy thing more than couple??

why does he do this???? is he wanting to move on, and not telling me? Instead keeping on a shelf until he finds what he wants??

Answer 1

He says he wants to marry you, and maybe he does, but if you guys are never 'really' talking and the conversation is always distant it sounds like you guys are on hold, and from what your saying he has not interest at this time changing that!

Maybe he still some raw feelings he's not over and he just need some time to heal, or maybe he's over you! The only answer is when your alone and in a semi intimant  and safe setting, ask. Talk about what you both need, what its going to take to get there, what it will look like and get a sense of what will make both you comfortable as you get there. If he's a man-boy good luck getting him to open up  if he's a man and he feels safe talking to you, you should be able to get a real answers to whats going on and work out something.

Answer 2

if he loves you and keeps telling you that he does then you somewhat have nothing to worry about. same thing happened to me once. it just that he got comfortable being single. it not that he does not love you or does not want to be with you, it's just that he got comfortable, being single, a little bit more free and spending all his time with the guys. that was the answer i got from my bf at the time we took a break. i was like, ok if you love me and still want to be with me then whats wrong. then his reply was that he got comfortable just being single, not hanging out everyday and doing his guy stuff. eventually we just hung out more, and he saw what he was missing. so there is still a chance. you just have to give him a kick in the butt form his somewhat comfort zone. for me we are still together almost 2years now. so just work more on making him realize what he had.

Answer 3

Maybe he wants to be with you but is hanging out with his buddies as much as he can because if you guys get back together the guy time decreases.

Answer 4

Ugh my boyfriend would do the same thing around the time of our break up, I would ask him if he wanted to hang out, cause we hadn't for a while, and he'd just say, idk, and I'd be like what do you mean, yes or no, it's not difficult, and basically he was just kinda like, idk if I want to.

he sounds difficult. I don't know what he's doing, i'll think about it and edit it in later.

Answer 5

It kind of depends on how old you are.  If you are still young and in HS or college, he probably just wants to do the normal thing a 20 something guy would do.  Young guys do NOT want to be in a married-type relationship when they are still able to go out to clubs and drink without many consequences.  Just give him space, if he wants to come back he will.  If you do get back together, let him have one night a week to just hang out with his guy friends and then he won't mind spending time with you when you make plans.

Answer 6

Sounds like the guys have a little more priority to him than you do. That doesnt mean he doesnt care about you, it just means you need to examine if this is something you are willing to accept or not.  

Answer 7

calm down, he jsut doesnt to always be at your call. thats why you guys are on BREAK. haha he wants some room! and if he hung out with you on friday saturday is just the next day so he probaly wants to be with his friends if he was with you the day before. you guys aren't going out so he isnt commited! good luck

Answer 8

well i think it you would ask him why and then if he kept it up then i would say well do you still love me or not and if he dose give you the right answer then you have a big bad thing happening to you i would watch out because he might hurt you and i would let him go and move on and it work