I'm really annoyed with one of my best friends right now, and I'm not sure if she's really being inconsiderate or not. We've had this tension that's been growing slowly because she has this tendency to be really inflexible when it comes to certain things. Now, that said - she has been a really good friend for the past two years, and she's definitely been there for me on the major stuff. She just isn't very open minded when it comes to planning activities, for example, I love hiking, she doesn't. Our other friend asked her to go kayaking, she talked her way out of it. I know she's not doing it to be bitchy, but I do know she draws firm boundaries because she wants to be perceived as 'strong'.
Last Friday, we had this plan that we were going to go to the gym and then meet our friend at this group thing - and then the night before she changes her mind and says that she doesn't like that type of group.
It all came to a head this past week when, for like the fourth time, we were trying to plan her 'divorce party'. Me and the other friend went to this beautiful beach for a beach party, and decided that we wanted to take her there for her divorce party. Then I hear, "She doesn't want to go to the beach."
That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I got really angry, and sent her this long email that basically said I'm really frustrated with putting it together, and that I've put what I've had to offer on the table and I just don't feel in sync with where it's going, and that I don't think I should attend.
Now, I feel bad and like I'm overreacting. Do you think she's being inconsiderate? And if so - how would you deal with it?
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