Is my friend being rude, or am I overreacting?

Question

My friend Beth and I arranged to go shopping this Saturday, but now she's saying she wants to bring her guy friend who I don't know with her. I'm a bit annoyed because I was hoping we'd have time to catch up on things, and I get really shy when I'm with people I don't know. Should I tell her I don't want him coming or not?

Answer 1

I understand how you feel. I hate it when my friends do this to me, too. :/ Just tell her that you wanted to spend personal time with her, not with her and some random person.  Or, let her bring her friend with her this time, but let her know how you feel about it and ask her to not do it again.  

Answer 2

Tell her you do not want him to come. Just explain just what you said here to her. Tell her you are shy and were hoping you two would be catching up on lost time. If she won't go because of the guy you may want to stop and evaluate your friendship.

Good luck and I hope it all works out :D

Answer 3

Yes, just tell her you were looking forward to a girls day out, she should get it unless shes dense

Answer 4

I am shy with people i don't know too and i would actually be annoyed because i would not feel as comfortable with a stranger there. On the other hand i would suck it up and say cool whatever. Maybe the guy will be fun. It is good to meet new people. Just act how you would with her there (but not as many personal details to share) and try and include him. She possibly was forced to invite him or perhaps she really likes him and can't bear to be away from him and wants you guys to meet. If it happens all the time maybe mention that its cool sometimes when you two just do stuff together but this time you are gonna have to let it go.

Answer 5

i think your being a bit of a l***o

do you fancy your friend or summit??

do you own a checked shirt and doc martins and play darts? if so you prob are a muffdiver

Answer 6

honestly i think your being a tad selfish!  Why not met someone new!  just because someone else is there don't mean you can't get caught up!

plus maybe this dude is cool and could offer a new friendship to you!

Answer 7

Go shopping, have fun, meet someone new. Bring a guy friend along too if you have one, so you don't feel like the third wheel.

There will be plenty of time to hang out just the two of you and catch up later, unless you make her mad over a stupid reason, then she may not remain your friend for long!

=)

Answer 8

Overreacting. It's not like you're having a dinner party and she's bringing an extra guest with her.  Maybe you've been acting too clingy and needy lately and she's bringing the 3d person as a buffer from that?

Answer 9

if you really don't want him to come along you should politley tell her that you were actually hoping to go just with her....  

Answer 10

That was rude of her. You should talk to her and let her know that she bugged you when she did that.

She can go shopping with her guy friend another time. This day was for you and her.

Answer 11

I think is kinda rude. But it could be really fun.