Is my friend right? ?

Question

Yesterday, a friend and I went shopping. She has recently split with her boyfriend, although she hates him, and she was the one that ended it. So, she was venting to me about that, and then after a while, she said to me, how can anybody get to the age of 16 without ever having a boyfriend? Ive never had a boyfriend, not even one of those pretend ones in kindergarten. Im 16, 17 in a few months.

My friend is very pretty, she is a model, so she has guys throwing themselvs at her all the time. Im not. Im not really ugly, but im not really pretty either. I talk to guys, and try to be as confident as possible. Plus, the only reason ive ever made out with a guy, is when I was at a party and we were both really drunk.

But, is it really bad to get to the age of 16 (17 probably, I highly doubt i will be getting a boyfriend anytime soon) without having a boyfriend? Its really getting me down. I feel like a freak. Everybody at school has had one, except me. Help?

Answer 1

it will come boys a drama

Answer 2

no its not bad. it dosent matter what age you find a boyfriend. dont make your self have to go out with somebody unless you really like them.

Answer 3

if you really want one than just ask someone you like out

what will it hurt?

Answer 4

don't worry bout it. its different for everyone. you will get a boyfriend. just act normal. and one day you will find the right guy for you.  

Answer 5

there is nothing wrong with it! look at the plus side, you dont look like soe pathetic loser for "Venting" about the ex after you did  the breaking up!!

beside guys bring drama at that age. and all, but mostly in the teens

Answer 6

I'm sure not everyone has one. It just seems that way. I wouldn't worry about it. It's better not to date until you're ready to get married anyways, which isn't until after high school at least. Don't worry everyone matures at different rates. You'll date when you are ready. Don't feel pressured to dating, especially someone you don't like.  

Answer 7

My cousin is the same age as you, and she's never had a bf either, and there's nothing wrong with her! I was the kind of girl that always had a bf, got married really young too(18), but I think it's because I had really low self esteem and could never be alone. Although I got lucky with a great husband, I often wished I could be more like my cousin when I was in high school, but I was too needy(not a good thing!)  I think it takes a stronger and more independent person to like my cousin(who may not be a knock out, but isn't going to settle for just anyone just to have a bf) hope that helps!

Answer 8

Im almost 16 and never had one! But I dont really want one so...

But dont worry!! You will get one eventually and he may be perfect! XD!

xoxo

Answer 9

I was just like you when I was younger. I did get a boyfriend when I was 15, but it was only because he wanted to date my bff, so she told him to date me instead. But my bff was gorgeous and everyone loved her and I was just... me. I'd always complain to my mom about not having a bf and she'd tell me that Boys aren't worth the trouble. I never listened. I ended up getting a serious bf when I was 16 and have been with him since (5 years) but my mom was oh so right. Boys are a pain in the butt. Enjoy being single and independent while you can. It helps you develop yourself as an individual. It's not weird to stay single until your latter years in college, in fact, I encourage it. High school and college are so much fun and boys just add drama.

Answer 10

      Don't worry about it! You don't want to seem desperate, do you? Your friend sounds like a b*tch for telling you you should have had a boyfriend by now. That's pretty mean-who is she to tell you that? Who is she to judge? She goes out with people just for the sake of going out with them, just to say she has a boyfriend.

   Like I said, I really wouldn't worry about it. Eventually you will get a boyfriend. But don't rush it. In 10 years, you'll be happily married and your "friend" will still be dating random guys.

Good luck!

Answer 11

Two of my best friends went all the way thru high school without ever having a boyfriend. In general - high school boys are worth the drama so they simply chose not to date til they got to college.

Answer 12

No, you're friend is wrong.

Your friend is a model, so beside her, you may not feel as pretty as you really are. But, honestly, someday there will be guy who thinks you're the most beautiful girl in the world. Your friend has guys all the time, but that's not exactly special. When you find someone who loves you for more than your face, that's important.

Lots of people don't have boyfriends/girlfriends before they get into college!

My brother didn't have a girlfriend 'til he was like 19!

You'll find someone who really likes you, and you'll like him too.

Don't listen to your friend, she is probably just jealous that she isn't as nice as you.

There is probably at least one person at your school who hasn't had a boyfriend.

The time will come where you'll be the one breaking hearts, and going out all the time. Just wait for that time to come.

In the meantime, spend time with your friends. Friends are more important than boys.

Go and rent the movie 'Never Been Kissed', it will make you feel better.

Most of all, don't feel lousy or weird or awkward just because you've never had a boyfriend. For all you know, someone likes you right now!

Good luck :)

Answer 13

♪Take one step at a time

There's no need to rush

It's like learning to fly, or falling in love

It's gonna happen when it's supposed to happen

And we find the reasons why

One step at a time...♫

it's a very meaningful song...you should take a look at it and its lyrics: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzyys6kW8...

Answer 14

No it is not wrong.

Your friend may be prettier or not. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder.

Take your time with boys, focus on your education and boyfriends will come along.

If you just take care of yourself...physically and mentally, then everything will fall into place.

The old saying is true....good things come to those who wait and she may have several boyfriends...but were any of them any good?????

Answer 15

uhm.. you're right..!

it's not your obligation to have a boyfriend..

Answer 16

It is hard. But I will let you in on a secret.  A boyfriend is Not a necessity.  

Just make friends. Some will be males, Don't approach them like you are trying to mark territory.  Just friends.  In time they will get to know you and want to date you.  

Answer 17

you don't need tons of boyfriends, just the right ones. while she is wasting her time on needless drama and boys that will not ever make her life any better, you can spend it developing who you are and learning about yourself. that way you will spend less time with heartache and when the right one comes along you will definitely know it.

also, while she might not have that to you on purpose, she should think about other ppl's feelings before she says something like. most likely she isn't that good of a friend to say that and then not apologize.

Answer 18

You will get one when you find a good guy that likes and respects you too. You dont need to settle for less. Guys can be a pain in the butt and looking back I wish I would have NOT dated as many guys as I did I was better than most of them.

Answer 19

No there's nothing wrong with it.....Nothing at all.

Answer 20

I know how you feel i'm 15  and i still have never had a boyfriend I'm the same not gorgeous but not ugly so your not the only one. Just think about how your friends feel when they get dumped I've never had to deal with that so there are some positives but I feel so stupid because of that i just try and not think about it because it really is a waste of my time just keep yourself completely busy and then you have an excuse :)

Answer 21

no its not a bad thing to not have a boy friend at your age you realy should not want one because all they are is drama and *** holes  

Answer 22

a true friend wouldn't say that

Answer 23

First, I bet you are a lot prettier than you are giving yourself credit for.  Second, after high school, you will find the boys (men) become a lot less shallow and more interested in things like intelligence, humor, etc.  You WILL have many boyfriends someday.  For now, rest assured that there is absolutely nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend yet.  I didn't really have a boyfriend until after high school and now I'm 30 years old and just fine, married with a wonderful little girl.  It'll happen for you.  Just be the best person you can be!

Answer 24

Noooo.

Don't worry about it!

Its perfectly normal, I know tons of people who only had a first real boyfriend/girlfriend in their twenties.

It IS nice to have a boyfriend though.

You might want to try chatting it up with some guys :)

But don't rush! You have so much time.

Answer 25

That does sound a bit mean ,

but she could have said it by accident without thinking ... ?

I accidentally said who hasn't kissed a guy once in front of my best friend, but I felt really bad about it ...

But I know a ton of girls that haven't had real boyfriends or even any type of boyfriend . And some of them are 15 , some are 17 , some of them are even 20 .   It doesn't matter .

If you feel really bad about it and you feel like a "freak " ( Which you defiantly aren't ) Then why not go out with some guys then , Maybe find a boyfriend , but you're still young , you don't need to date , just be happy that you have friends .

good luck  :)

Answer 26

Your friend is wrong. High-school relationships suck. They are dramatized by your friends and his friends. And she might be pretty now, but she won't be when she's 7 months pregnant at 18. I'm 21 now, and just so you know...I talk to NO ONE that I was friends with in High-school. Advice: Always be yourself (even if you haven't "found yourself"  you know when your acting fake), never do anything you don't feel comfortable with, and I know I sound like a mom but friends and drugs and drinking are NOT everything. Truthfully, I had more fun when I could talk to and flirt with any guy I wanted, not just one - Remember, when you do find a guy, b/c you will, if the relationship isn't fun or happy anymore....It's not worth it!