Is my husband cheating on me and if he is how would i know?

Question

i am supposed to answer all his calls and if i don't he is on his way 2 my work or our house 2 c if i am doing wrong, 100% of the time i am very good, but since we have been married its been 1 thing after another with him, gambling, drinking, an lately i am thinking he has someone else. when i say anything its an fight an turn around on me that he takes care of me and pays the bills, i a

m like well honey do you love me, when we are fighting its always the same no i don't love you right now, and maybe 24 hours later yes baby i love you, i am confused i am an honest person and all i want is 4 someone 2 love me the way i can love back equally. he has 2 business' and he does traveling recently he hired a twenty something year old 2 work @ his new store, 2day i walked n wit lunch an he had his laptop @the counter and the male worker was 2 the left in the corner, but the trick was sitting there talking about bible studies, in a short skirt i saw her panties they were white and i know if i did he did, he was sitting rite next 2 her, he couldn't miss it. but i gave him his lunch an walked out he followed asked me what was wrong and i didn't say, all i said was y r u2 sitting so close, o she is watching movie honey.. i rolled up my window and drove off. he blew my phone up the 7 minutes it took 2 git2 my work, along with 12 texts. saying he didn't want me2b mad n we fight but i didn't say another word after he said she was watching a movie, that little innocent girl act doesn't work wit me. i saw right through it instantly. but am not 100 on if he is cheating, an i do not wan2 make an *** out of my self.

Answer 1

I'm sorry, but I don't think you gave any reason to think he is cheating. Other then the fact that he is afraid that you are. Guilty conscious? Maybe...but just because he hired a pretty girl doesn't mean he's sleeping with her.

I'm more concerned about the addictive personality. Think really hard about his character and make sure you are not putting yourself at risk.

Answer 2

I don't think he is cheating if he 1) didn't look guilty... 2) she didn't look guilty and 3) if he or she didn't move from their spots when you walked in.  I think that he is paranoid because he maybe thinking you are cheating on him. I agree with one of the postings saying he has addictive personality... Take a step back and see what the bigger picture is.

Answer 3

No need to confront him directly. Hint a bit and see how he react to it then you take any actions if needed. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, wether he is cheating or not is it really worth the emotional stress of staying with him??

hes put you through alot and youve already stood by him yet he doesnt emotionally support you, and that is one of the most important parts of the relationship, with the most important part being trust which seems to be lacking.

Answer 5

Does he need to send you a telegram and tell you he is up to no good??? You have been given the evidence right in your face....