Earlier this past week I went to my moms house to talk to her about some problems my husband and I have been having in our marriage... I had already spoken with an aunt and uncle, and another really good female friend. After getting ready to leave my moms house I remembered my husbands good friend lived like 5 minutes away from my mom, so I called him and asked him if I could stop by to talk. I had talked with him on a general and seldom personal level before through email and myspace, but this night I wanted his advise too regarding the marriage situation and issues such as those. He told me I could stop by, and we sat on his couch and talked for about three hours. The first 45 minutes were serious talking about my pending decision to leave my husband, the remainder of the time was just small talk, and it felt really nice to be chatting and not be thinking about all the problems I was facing. The next day Tuesday, I went back over to my moms and then back over to this friends house, we talked over trivial things, and then I told him I was hungry so I was going to find something to eat in his kitchen. I made myself some pancakes and offered him some as well. We ate, talked a little more and I left. Wenesday I stayed home with my husband and children. Thursday I was online and happened to see an email that my husband had sent a female coworker. He had asked her out for drinks. I became irate and confronted him on it, where he denied that anything happened and said that it was a group thing at work. We kind of made up and that night I told him I was going to my mothers house, and he said he was probably going out for some drinks alone. I took my 10 month old daughter over to my moms, and when I arrived she was getting ready to leave.. Not wanting to go home, I called my husbands friend and asked him if he wanted to go out to eat. We went to grab a bite to eat, then drove back to his house and I was there for 20 minutes before another one of my husbands friends showed up at the door unannounced... I asked my friend to not answer because I knew it looked really bad... as soon as this other guy left the front door, I picked up my daughter and left. When I got home, I found a note on our back door from my husband and basically I knew that this other friend who had showed up unannounced knew I had been there after seeing my car, he called my husband who put two and two together... the last week has been h**l. MY husband believes me when I tell him that nothing physical happened (besides Tuesday night when I massaged this guys wrist and knee because I am trained in massage therapy). But he is devastated and claims that I had an emotional affair and that his trust in me is gone... he has asked for a divorce... I am so beside myself.. I really don't think I had an emotional affair... I have been miserable in our marriage failures and I talked to several people including my husbands friend... I know I was spending unnecessary time over there, but I really have no attraction to this guy, and I wasn't looking for anything but simple friendship and an non biased out side ear to listen too... was I wrong and does my husband have the right to call this an "emotional affair"???
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