Is my husband crazy?

Question

i can just be sittin down singing to the song playing on the radio and he will start getting mad asking me who i am thinkin about, and i tell him no one im just singing and he gets all mad at me and says yea right!!! and keeps going on about it!! or we can be at chucke cheese with our daughter and he will start accusing me of looking at other guys when im not!!! if its not one thing he is accusing me of, its another! he thinks he can read my mind and gets mad at me for the things he makes up in his head? i have never done anything to make him think that way about me while we have been together, he just always brings up my past! and i explain to him the only reason i was that way is cuz i never loved anyone before i met him! i never cared so much about a relationship until NOW and he cant understand that!! oh and he has never heard about me doing anything! but 2 different times i heard that he did stuff with a girl and talked to a girl behind my back but he wont ever admit to it!!! WHAT DO I DO????????????

Answer 1

maybe he feels guilty and he doesnt wnat to be the only one who did something wrong that happens with my parents my dad hella cheated now he keep accusing my mom of things the stupidist things ever she dont even get out of the house anymore  there is nothing u can do to stop him from thinkin like that my mom did everything and he only gets worse and worse

Answer 2

Wow, you have a big childish SOB on your hands.  Not only is he jealous and controlling, he is making you change your own personal life.  You may not even realize it, but he is trying to control everything you do without the fear or caring about his own behavior.  I have gave this speech before.  Life is short,if something or someone is causing you stress or making you unhappy, then you get the problem out of your life.  It took me three tries to finally get it right, but I have finally found true love, and you will also.  Good luck.

Answer 3

j*p slap him lol

Answer 4

he is guilty and accusing you of what he is doing.  you will probably not listen and learn this the hard way.  you will probably forgive him and take him back after several breakups, after which you will either be smart enough to eventually move on, or you'll be dumb enough to get pregnant.  he knows you're not lying - he knows how you feel about him too....he also knows that as long as he can keep you frustrated and confused, your attention will be right where he needs it to be so he can continue faking like he's the world greatest playa ever to touch foot on this planet....

good luck.

Answer 5

The guilty ALWAYS accuse!!!!! I would either bank this as a red flag for the future or go out and get evidence because SOMETHING sounds fishy! He's also a control freak. Which should be another red flag. How many red flags you get before you get fed up is up to you though.

Answer 6

the same thing happened with my parents. my dad almost cheated but my mom  caught him and confronted him right their. they had a HUGE fight but after a while they got over it. and yes mymom does brirng it up when something  goes worng but he is just paraniod becuase he did something he thinks you wil do it too.

Answer 7

That's ur answer right there hun, he is cheating on you, the evidence is clear as day, the accuser is accusing you, usually when a person is the cheater, they tend to accuse their partner of cheating on them , to justify there actions, or to clear their guilty consciences, so if i were you the next time he starts with the accusations, just ask him who is he cheating on you with, that will shut him up quickly, or he'll get really defensive, and that will give you the proof that you need!

Answer 8

You sure he's not cheating on you? One of the classic signs of a cheater is accusing the spouse of it because they are so sensitive to anything that they themselves are doing. If he's not he's extremely insecure and you should consider couples counseling to work through it together. Are you sure you're not doing things purposefully to make him jealous? or even subconsciously? You shouldn't have to deal with a constant barrage of verbal attacks, it borders on abusive. If you really don't think it's anything but his insecurity I would tell him enough is enough and that you're tired of it.  

Answer 9

Judging for the final part of your question - I would day that HE has a very dirty conscience.

Answer 10

your husband is the one guilty of the things he's accusing YOU of.  It's likely he's putting you on the defensive so that he won't end up there.  This is an insecurity issue on his part, and he is likely cheating on you.

The signs he's showing are classics.

Not sure what to tell you to DO about it because it's your situation to handle, but from an extreme outsider's position, that's what I see.  Better to confront the issue head on rather than let it continue.  If you can't work it out, I would suggest moving on, because a life of accusations is no way to live.

Good Luck

Answer 11

I think he is so insecure because he thinks that you are doing or did something that he is doing. Only people who cheat and lie are so insecure.  

Answer 12

he probably has low self esteem got hurt before and definitely hurt someone else before. he has an agenda might be distracting you from something that he himself is guilty of. how do i know this? because i used to be a cheater myself. Now i dont cheat but i still got problems with jealousy. i think the only way for him to deal with his trust issues is to discuss them with you in detail. but it will be a long time before he is healed.

Answer 13

it sounds to me like he is insecure or as they say "guilty dog barks first" Talk to him and ask him why he thinks those kinds of things and if he says something about your past, tell him agian your not like that anymore and he needs to trust you or ask him what you can do to prove to him he can trust you. If he can't it will always be a problem. I know in some cases it has pushed some people so far away they end up doing it, whatever the case it may be...I don't kow sounds kinda fishey to me. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 14

Sounds like the accuser has a guilty conscience... Most times when someone accuses something else that seems crazy, it is because they themselves are guilty of what they are accusing of! Be careful!

I would start to watch what he is doing... I certainly hope he is just insecure, but you never know!

Answer 15

The guilty ones are always the first to accuse.. He is doing something behind your back and to make himself feel better about it he is going to try and make it seem like you are pushing him in that drection... The next time he accuses you just look at him and say "So, who are you sleeping with?" That should knock him off his rocker a lil!!

Answer 16

Take your daughter and LEAVE HIM.  He is crazy and he will not get any better.  

Answer 17

Your husband seems really insecure with himself.  Also, people tend to accuse others of things when they have a guilty conscience.

He's not crazy, just not very mature.  If you stick it out with him it sounds like it is going to be a long, hard road.

Answer 18

Force him to go to counseling! Yes he is CRAZY and so are you if you allow him to continue this abuse! (If you dont get help or get out of this for you, then do it for your daugheter).

Usually the people that are quilty are the ones that accuse!

Answer 19

Most of the time guys like this are projecting, which means he is guilty of the behavior you are accusing you of, and either trying to make himself feel better for doing it, or rationalizing that if he is doing it you must be too (and of course it's a double standard if it's ok for him  & not you.)

You guys need marriage counseling.

Answer 20

Because he is feeling extremely guilty about what he has done. So he is projecting it on to you. Yeah he's freaking crazy.

You tell him that he needs to cut the bullsh*t out and he had better do it now because you are not going to put up with it anymore. He is freaking out on you about nothing. And so what, you have a past. It means that you have a past. We have all done things that we are not proud of but it is completely unfair of him to keep bringing it up. It is childish and immature. And he needs to get over your past...you have.

His behaviour would drive me insane. And I would probably tell him that he either cut it out or else Im gone.

I dont understand how you can live in a marriage where there is no trust on his end. He needs something. Most likely a huge kick in the a**. Portray that any way you may but make it happen.

Answer 21

Be careful, whenever the two of you go somewhere just look at him the whole time.LOL Girl you better watch him he sounds like he is crazzzzzzzzzzzzzy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Answer 22

sounds like alot of trust issues going on in that head

Answer 23

he is not crazy! he's insecure.

Answer 24

hes crazy and you deserve better than him. if he cant beleive you and you always get in fights get a divorce and find someone else

or just go to counseling and clear things through both of yur heads

Answer 25

The thief thinks everyone around him is a thief... get it? he may be cheatign hunny...  

Answer 26

Sounds like he was disloyal with you, and now is scared you'll be disloyal with him. He realized how easy it was and how he can hide it and is scared you're doing it too.

I would tell him that I couldn't take it anymore. And that if he didn't stop, it would be over. I would also ask him if he was or ever did stuff behind my back. You should talk to the person you heard it from and find out.  

Answer 27

YOU FORGOT THE PART WHER WE WHERE SECRET LOVERS AND SNUK AROUND TO BE WITH EACH OTHER  HUH AND HOW OUR WHOLE RELATIONSHIP STARTED ON SCANDALOUZ MAYBE IM JUST AFRAID YOULL DO THE SAME TO ME BUT OBVIOUSLY IM NOT CRAZY SINCE IVE GIVEN EVERYTHING FOR YOU

Answer 28

When a guy is so obsessive in accusing a woman in that way it's kinda  visa versa maybe he's doing something behind your back and is afraid that you may do the same. It's kinda a psychological problem he thinks if he can be as rude and annoying and frightening to you about the subject that you wouldn't even dare to cheat.

Answer 29

anger management i see mayb his jus jealous

wen he says who wer u thinkin about u should have said him lol

Answer 30

not crazy, just incredibly insecure, probably because HE is the one who is cheating??? if he is insecure, he will never change, so either get used to it, or leave with your daughter