Is my husband normal in his s*x drive?

Question

We are both young 18 and 21 and have only been married for 3 months. My husband says that I ask for s*x too often which is about 3-4 times a week. Most of the time I am only trying to tease and flirt but he gets mad and say I am demanding s*x all the time and only when I want it. I am just really attracted to my husband and a sexual person. He just doesn't understand that I want to flirt and enjoy foreplay. I want to please him and I try to be intimate in other ways but he is not very responsive and always starts a fight over s*x. How can I make him understand that I love him, s*x, and just plain sexually chemistry, I don't always need follow through. Please help, I'm losing my mind!!!!

Just to add a little more detail. My husband does find me attractive so there is no question there. I don't know if I could relate to his Post Tramatic Stress Disorder from his last tour in Iraq...Anyone with some more insight?

Answer 1

i think its his work stress which makes him to react like this, talk to him and give him some good food which helps to improve sexuality, and talk to him about you love him a lot and want to be with him happy

Answer 2

Honey, you've asked this already today. The answers aren't going to change much. I don't think you mentioned the PTSD before. That could explain everything. It could even lead to ED which could be why he's so defensive about s*x. You guys need help. There's no way around it. Time to roll up your sleeves and fight for your marriage.

Answer 3

All levels of s*x drive are normal, was he higher in s*x drive before deployment??  If so then you may have an issue, suggest therapy if that's the case..... If it's always been that way then that's just the way he is.

Answer 4

Whether he's the 18 or 21 year old usually guys that age are rabbits!  Maybe he was raised in a very non-affectionate family or he was abused sexually as a child??  

Answer 5

Just talk it out en be nice to him ,he can change  

Answer 6

Not an expert here but seems to me that carrying 150 pounds of gear through a 120 degree desert trying to not get shot, and trying to shoot at enemy soldiers and insurgents that want to kill you could definately alter your perceptions and s***w with your head.

Normally a healthy 21 year old cannot get enough s*x i know i was that guy a few years ago. I also know that stress on a person's mind can lead to a definant change in libido as at times when i've been stressed out in my life i didn't want s*x, and even the thought of my girlfriend wanting s*x could actually annoy me and cause me to say things like, "is that all you want to do is have s*x? i have more important things to worry about right now"  



Stress screws with s*x drive, talk to him about it maybe that's the problem, if that doesn't work maybe a therapist could add some insight.  

Answer 7

there are three words that can help you. 1. Counseling 2. Counceling 3. Patience

Answer 8

I don't know.  I have been with my gf for 6+ years and I would like to have s*x everyday if I could.  Maybe he's just not a very sexual person.

Answer 9

oh ya. post traumatic stress is a DEFINATE in his s*x drive. serious shiit happened in iraq. mostly americans killing innocent iraqis. but if ur killing innocent people it might be hard to show that effection.

being a killer and then being a playfull LOVING hubby is a clash.

get that shiit checked out. by checked out i mean investigate it yourself. find out what happened...etc etc how he feels and what not

Answer 10

everyone is different. my bf is obsessed with s*x. he wants it 2-3x a day. sometimes i feel that he sees me as an object, but i know he loves me.  

Answer 11

Stress will definitely hurt s*x drive. The two of you should try counseling, it sounds like both of you need help working through things. Good luck!