OK,here's the deal.I've been w/my hubby for many years.He's NEVER been passionate on a steady basis,but I've been OK with it until the last several yrs.Because he USE to make an effort once every 3-5 times to "include"me.Now,I wonder if he thinks I should just"take care of myself,for my satisfaction,since I got tired of waiting...well,actually got a bunch of "toys" to "spice up"our love life.If he's not interested in "passion",but I am,what can I do?B4 you tell me,get toys(got a ton)or games(have em,but he's not interested)or lingerie(sez he'd prefer me naked)let me tell you the rest.98% of the time it's always "doggy",which I've grown to like,There's times when I hold my breath waiting for a touch of his hands.He is(and always has been)TOTALLY silent when we have s*x,whereas I'm pretty noisy and it's embarrassing to me sometimes,cuz I feel like I'm lettin' him know he affects me without reciprocal reaction.I love him,and am mad about him..as in want him,all the time.I don't know if he's always been so stoic,but for me(had an emotionally trying,to say the least,childhood)THAT is infuriating,since I seem to give him all my emotion and passion,but get nothing in exchange.I don't even know when he orgasms,until he slows his strokes.God,what do I do? I need more... so much more,I wonder if he can't stand to see me,if that's why it's all doggy all the time,when doggy use to be the finisher(if you catch my drift).He says he "loves"me(on EXTREMELY rare occasions) and "wants"me,and that I've got a great butt.(which is a definite plus when all your man wants is doggy)but how do I know if it's just his weirdness and refusal to change or if I'm not "it"for him?Like I said B4,I love him and want him DESPERATLY,but wonder if it'll EVER get better or if we don't belong w/each other.He's 42 and I'm 36.We have 3 kids together......this is the man I literally fell in love with almost at first sight.I want him to be happy,but I DESERVE happiness,too.I'm not the most beautiful chick in the world,but I'm not anywhere NEAR Quasimoto-esque either....Is it normal for a man to NOT want the "bells and wistles"of foreplay and s*x hardly ever????
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