Is my husband to demanding, or is it me?

Question

He expects us to be intimate every single night, and then again sometimes in the morning. I feel its way too much. It takes the enjoyment out of it. Is it common for men to have that much of a drive, or is he unusual? If we dont, he gets very angry and gets really rude and accuses me of cheating. He's very insecure.

Answer 1

Well, as someone who could be intimate that often and more we all have our natural s*x drives.  

The only difference is he needs to learn to take "no" for an answer and that being a jerk about s*x will only drive a wedge between you.

Unfortunately my wife seems to be stuck on the "No" part - but  perhaps you will be a little kinder to your man when he respects you more that way.

Answer 2

He is being to demanding and is only thinking of his wants and needs. s*x is a part of love. s*x is NOT love. What about what you want or don't want. Love is about sharing not getting and taking. How old is he? If he is very young then that may have something to do with it. But overall it sounds like he needs to learn what loving someone is really about. He may need some help. Good luck

EDIT:

Then I would say, have you been happy for the past 3 years? Will you be happy living like this for another 3 years? How about the next 10 or 20 years? Unless he gets help, Nothing is going change. Your life now, will most likely be your life in the years to come. You have to ask yourself is it worth it? I can tell you that I Was in a relationship very much like your, except I was older than he was. I am much much happier now.

P.S. Take away his Viagra  =)

Answer 3

he is not demanding man are like that my husband does the same thing but its take time it depends how long you guys are together  

Answer 4

He has an over active s*x drive.  I have more of a drive than my boyfriend.  

Answer 5

He kinda sounds like an immature s*x addict and  needs to grow up. My husband has a high s*x drive too and would love if we had s*x 2 twice a night, but he's realistic and knows that it's probably not going to happen. Tell your husband, while you're happy to engage in s*x with him, it's not always possible to give him everything he wants, that's what his hand is for.

wtf?? Being intimate is not a part of being a wife, being intimate is about having a loving connection with your significant other, and expressing your love physically. It's not a job or a duty!! Your husband seriously needs to grow up!!

Answer 6

Everyone has different drives....but the "expecting" it is what gets me.  You should NEVER just expect s*x.

Answer 7

Be happy and thankful he wants you that much and is not going elsewhere. He is wrong for becoming angry and rude if you don't want to that shows he has little respect for you feelings. You need to talk to him about that.

Answer 8

It sounds as if he is very insecure in your relationship and that is his way of claiming you as his.  If he is being verbally or emotionally abusive with you when you don't give him s*x you have a MAJOR problem.  He needs help....  He has some issue's he needs to get past before you can have a healthy relationship.  

Answer 9

He is too demanding and needs help.  You do not have to give in to him.

Answer 10

TELL HIM HE'S LUCKY TO GET IT THREE TIMES A WEEK

Answer 11

Yes it is too much.

See ladies, masturbation ain't so bad is it???

Answer 12

he's just haves a high s*x drive.

i don't think anyone should really

expect it everynight unless both

partners are into it. you should talk

to him tell him you don't enjoy it as

much by having s*x all the time.

Answer 13

ok.. my husband is very active too. he wants it all the time. but i dont! i am happy with 4 times a week. but my hubby does not get angry or anything. he goes on with his sleeping and that is it. ur husband has issues.... u guys need some kind of help. why is he acussing you of cheating when u say no.. that is wrong!

Answer 14

First of all he should be over that constant "need" at his age.  I'll bet that he doesn't think he's attractive enough for you because of his age or he thinks someone is going to steal you away from him so he's after you all the time to prove something to him in bed.  How dreary to be married to someone insecure...it's a real struggle to keep up with their emotional needs.

Answer 15

" I have talked to him about it explaining how I feel. He says thats part of being a wife, if I cant take it I should hire some help to take care of him. Hes very cold hearted about it. "

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This is the part that tells me clearly that the one with the problem is him and not you. You are perfectly ok and he sounds really selfish. And I don't know about how you guys function, but if I had to answer on this given the information I quoted above only and nothing else, I would say his "hiring" comment alone sounds like emotional love is lost in this relationship, at least from his side. Anyways, he sounds like a s*x addict to me, this will lead to problems sooner or later..... well actually it already did..... I can't help but wonder how 2 people can last 3.5 years in these conditions, I don't think any relationship can work well without good understanding from both sides.

Answer 16

Tell him his attitude and childish behavior turns you off and he'll be lucky if he gets it once a year.  

Answer 17

Yikes!!!  I have read articles that say too much s*x can be a bad thing... you should try to find them and tell him you need a break or get a doctors note:) I wouldn't be able to function if my hubby and I did it that often.

Answer 18

Well he needs to respect you and if you dont feel like having s*x then that should be ok and he shouldn't pout like a child. If you dont talk to him about it you will end up resenting him. Tell him how you feel,,,,if he doesnt respect you then you need to get out.

Answer 19

If you feel bothered by this then talk to him and explain how you feel.  

Answer 20

WOW.  I have the opposite with my hubby.  He is a great guy, but I usually have to initiate.  I would be stoked, but since you are not, I think 1 X a day is plenty.  I would explain that you are sore and walk like you just got off a horse.  Show him a lot of respect and love in other areas, so he knows you still care and love him.  I hope he is pleasing you too in all of that lovin.

Answer 21

too much.  it burns you out and then it becomes a chore.  you dont ever want it to feel like that.