Is my life really worth living?

Question

Really- don't worry. I DO NOT have a gun at my head; I'm not going to hang myself; or cut myself; or anything... I don't know... consider the question kinda hypothetical, I suppose.

Well- here's the story. Let me begin by saying that I am 18.

1.) I've never really had any friends. I am reasonably "well-liked", but that really only means that people think I'm "a nice guy", etc.

2.) I have never had s*x with a girl... kissed a girl... been out with a girl... held a girl's hand... you get the idea.

3.) I have felt deep, passionate unrequited love for a girl who I have knowingly allowed to lead me on for two years, and who I now think I will never see again because of university, etc. Nevertheless, I don't know if I will ever feel the same way about any other girl ever again- it certainly doesn't seem that way at the moment.

4.) I am really pretty intelligent (well... only academically speaking, really). I have had straight As in every set of exams I've had over the past few years and I'm going to a pretty good university. However, I stupidly decided to take Philosophy and English Literature, thereby rendering myself entirely unemployable.

5.) Extreme self-contempt

6.) When I'm alone I desperately want to be with people; when I'm with people I desperately want to be alone.

7.) Slump into depression for long periods of time...

You get the idea...

Hypothetically speaking... I mean... really, does my life sound as though it's worth living?

Answer 1

Since I'm a twenty-year old guy, my outlook probably isn't going to be so different from yours so here goes:

1) Wait until you go to college, because then everyone will be an adult and you'll be free (hopefully) of high school drama.  The relationships with people that you meet will be deeper and more meaningful, trust me.

2) Don't value yourself by someone else.  I was the same way at eighteen, but everything flips by the time you get to college.  All the popular girls in middle school and high school will become trashy, unattractive, and they'll never go anywhere in life.

3) Trust me, you will.  You will.  Just meet other girls as regular friends, without the intention of dating.  One of them will make an awesome girlfriend.

4) Go to law school, or business school.  Or take the required courses for premed and major in those two majors, then go to medical school.  I have a friend from Tulane who majored in those two majors, now he's a first-year med student in Texas.  (Philosophy majors, as you'll soon find out, tend to be a bit...introverted, though...)

5) Get over it.

6) I felt the same way.  Here's something that helps:  get a roommate your freshman year.  Being not-alone is better than being alone, in the long run.

7) Meet others, read books, find new things to do, and get a dog.

You're only 18 so chill out.

Answer 2

live life to the fullest dont let it get you down.

Answer 3

Seems a little like the type of life I've been living. I'm 17 and I've had depression for a while. Your life does sound like it's worth living like my life or anybody's life. I'm sure you'll be fine. You're still young and you have plenty of time.  

Answer 4

yes. you seem to be focusing on negative things. your confidence is low because you feed into the negativity..look at the things that are good. you are a straight a student. you should be proud of that. the girls will pay attention to you when you carry yourself with confidence..