Is my mom being unfair?

Question

I COMPLETELY think she is. Alright, so here's the situation:

I am almost 13 years old and want 2nd holes in my ears.

I asked my dad, & he said to ask my mom. So I did and

She said no. So then, I asked her why and she said

"because when you're older you wont want them"

Just because my mom doesnt want her holes anymore

doesnt mean i shouldnt be allowed to get them. Besides

they close up anyway.

Do you think she's being unfair?

& do you have any ideas on how i could convince her to let me?

Answer 1

Yes she's being fair. I'm 13 and I want a second hole in my ears. Wait until you're 18 or your mom lets you. Sorry, hon, thats the way parents work.  

Answer 2

I don't think she's being unfair.

She is your mother, you are almost 13 and you're her daughter.  She is still responsible for you so she gets the final say.

Sorry!

I might not make the same choice with my girls.  I was allowed to have double pierced ears at that age and you want to know what I did?

I used the piercing stud that was used for the double piercing and I made my own 3rd hole myself!

Sometimes when you give kids an inch they take a mile.

I'll probably let my daughters have multiple pierced ears if they want to have them but they're my kids.  You are your mom's kid and she gets to decide.

Sorry!

Answer 3

well its her money and she has to drive you where you need to go

but i think you should have a say in what you want to do with your own ears

so yes and no

just offer her a trade..."if you let me do this ill..."

Answer 4

i am nearly 13 and i got my ears pierced for the first time when i was 5 and the second time was when i was 8 so i have had both done since then so what i did was when i got my own money i got them done or get them done for your birthday or something or with your birthday money or get them done with out bein with ya mom i dont no but hope i helped!!   GOOD LUK!!!!!!

Miley England ^_^ xxxx

Answer 5

I think your mom is being reasonable. I'm 21 and my mom was like that in some ways. She didn't let me pierce my nose till I was 16, and I had to pay for it myself. I think you should reason with her and go for one hole, then another hole. If your talking like normal piercing why don't you try stick ons or clip ons and show her that you would wear something there everyday, show her your responsible and really want it.

Its like tattoos, you can't get rid of them once you have them.

Keep in mind, you are still a child and live in your parents house, therefore, you live in there house, you live by their rules. =(

Just try talking to both parents and show responsibility and be reasonable with them.  Offer to help earn money to pay for it.  And do NOT use the excuse that everyone else does it or so and so's mom let her...it won't work and will make the situation worse! My sister is 16 and when she does that its a definite NO later! lol. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

I think its weird for her to say no with that reason to back it.

Well...keep asking. good luck '_'

Answer 7

One way of convincing her that you really want them is by paying for them. Do some extra chores around the house or maybe find some volunteering that you can bargain with her. Show her that it is important to you and less than just a passing fad. Also, tell her that ear piercings are a lot easier to take out later than another facial piercing.

Your mom has a good point. When I was your age, I desperately wanted my nose pierced but my mom was against it. 10 year later, I am really glad that I listened to her advice!  

Answer 8

Just relax, and do what I did: I got my piercings at 18. No one to gripe and cause drama then. The nice thing about earrings is that if you don't like them anymore, just take them out. You'll have a scar, but imo, it's worth it :P

Ten years later I don't regret it, though I rarely wear more one set of earrings.

Answer 9

Well, as a 16 year old, I can say that pierced ears are enough without the additional 2 holes.  I think your mom's being fair.  Wait till you're older aka my age, and then see if you STILL want them.

Answer 10

Guess what....you dont own you. mom owns you, dad owns you. And by your dad making the smart move to say "ask your mom" was him trying to make you think he was cool.

So suck it up, and get it when you get old enough to drive yourself AND pay for it yourself.  

Answer 11

my mom was like that when i wanted to get my cartilage pierced but thanks to my cousin she finally let me so having someone convince her its not a big deal might work.  i got my second holes when i was in 7th grade. i dont were any of them except the one i had to have help to get any more cause all the earring's i have irritate my ears. but i hope she lets you get it done i always go to my mom and if she says no then i go to my dad and if he tells me to ask my mom i say i did and she told me to ask you i know thats a little deceiving and you might get in trouble latter but once its done there really isn't anything they can do about it. Good Luck!!