Is my mom complimenting or trying to insult me?

Question

My mom is pretty rude to me and always has been. She didn't even acknowledge my graduation when I got my master's degree, but had a big party when my sister got her AA. I have naturally wavy hair, and if I let it dry naturally and she sees me, she ALWAYS mentions that I look much older with curly hair. The other night I went to her house to see my sister for her birthday. My mom said she needed to take a picture of me because she doesn't have any of me online for her relatives. She mentioned several times that she thinks my sister looks just like Christina Applegate. Then she said I look like Jayne Mansfield. I had heard the name but said I didn't know what she looked like. The way she said it was like it was a bad thing, like she wanted to make me mad. She pointed out my big lips and smile. The way she said it was like she was comparing me to the Jack Nicholson Joker.

Answer 1

It does not sound like she was trying to be complimentary, but Jayne Mansfield was hot, so I'd take the compliment, intended or not. Additionally, I hope you don't let your mother's favoritism poison your attitude about yourself. It doesn't matter what she thinks, it's what YOU believe.

Answer 2

Jayne Mansfield was a real hottie back in the day.  One of the early Blonde Bombshells who was often compared to Marilyn Monroe.  She was Mariska Hargity's (of Law&Order: SVU) mom.  Mariska looks just like her in the face except Jayne was a blonde.

other than that yeah you're mom sounds like she's insulting you.

Answer 3

just be upfront and tell her that you are tired of her back handed compliments. Jayne Mansfield was a big holloywood actress in the 50

s. Google her for a pic of what she looked like.

Answer 4

Jayne Mansfield was a major movie star and pinup back in the 40s.  She had a similar look to Marilyn Monroe - curvy, s**y, blonde, with big s**y pouty lips.  So it's a compliment.  And personally I think Jayne Mansfield is way prettier than Christina Applegate (even in her Kelly Bundy days).

Stop looking for insults and making assumptions.  Sometimes remarks are just observations, without any positive or negative connotations.

If you're upset that your mother made a bigger deal out of your sister's graduation than yours, then TELL her about it.  She isn't a mindreader and can't know you're upset or that you want a party unless you specifically tell her so.

Answer 5

Its sounding like your mom is being a pain......... Sweetie you need to confront her on this. Let her know how your feeling She shouldn't treat you like this. That's not what moms do. She makes you feel bad because she might think your the weakest and puts you down. So be honest with her and let her know whats going on. I am sure that the both of you can work this out. Trust me sweetie. Good Luck