Is my mom kinda overprotective?

Question

She's fine with my friends and my boyfriend mainly. But whenever she sees me texting she asks who it is. Whenever I'm on the computer and I laugh at anything, she asks what I'm laughing at. I wasn't allowed to watch almost any PG-13 movie until I was actually 13. I'd seen Legally Blonde several times, but that was about it. She has a thing with violence. I'm a really good kid. She knows I don't get influenced by what I watch. But whenever there's anything at all violent when I'm watching tv, she asks me what I'm watching and sometimes makes me change it. Once I was watching I Robot and during the part where a robot was tearing down the house and chasing him, no actual violence at all, she made me change the channel. It sounded like violence to her. I know she's not ridiculously overbearing, but this really annoys me. I'm 15. I want to be able to laugh at things my friends say online, or videos, or text my friends without being questioned about it. I want to be able to watch what I want to watch [within the ratings she sets...she should be happy about that]. My dad doesn't really care at all. I've watched a few R rated movies with him and he never asks what I'm doing. What's up with my mom? Just trying to "protect" me or does she not want me to grow up or what?

Answer 1

Of course your mom wants to protect you.

I'm sure she approves of your friends and boyfriend because you had good judgment in choosing them. You yourself said that you were really a good kid. Do you think you'd be such a good kid if you had a mom that didn't protect and care for you? Be happy that your mom loves you so much, and cares about shielding you from so much of the violence in this world. Every child should be as lucky as you!

One other thing I'd like to point out:

Mom doesn't want you to stop growing up.

Mom just wants you to grow up with integrity and morals.

She will be your greatest teacher !

Answer 2

well you know what u just wrote tell her just that!  

Answer 3

no mom wants their kid to grow up,if they do that's a bad thing. i admit shes a  little eccentric but thats what mothers do.

Answer 4

she's just trying to protect you, i wouldn't say she's overprotective though... just try to prove to her that u are mature enough to know the right from the wrong, it's kind of trying to win her trust...then she wont have to ask you those questions i guess.  good luck :)

Answer 5

She just wants to protect you. Just let her know how your feeling. dont be rude though. Tell her you know that she's just looking out for you, and then just try to compromise on some things with her.

Answer 6

haha all that you said was almost the same with my mom. eventually she just stoped caring about me so much. ya its not normal most parents arent so petective but eventually she will have to stop caring so much, and let u live ur life.  

Answer 7

Your mom may ask you a lot of questions, that's because she's trying to protect you. She doesn't want you to grow up too fast. Even though you're 15, she still thinks you're 8. The next thing you know, you're going to go away for college, and she's probably going to miss you. She's probably going to suggest a college near your town or something. So she can watch whatever you're doing and protect always. This may seem like she doesn't trust you at all, but maybe you just need to talk to your mom. And when you're dating, maybe she doesn't want to see you get hurt. But the main thing is, she wishes you were still a kid.

Answer 8

no im sure your mom is really doing this for your protection. im sure she loves you and is not trying to prevent you from growing up. just give her time because mayb she is having trouble with it. I have an overly protective mom 2, but i no she does it for my own good and because she cares

Answer 9

that sucks!! but she just doesnt want you to live your life :] thats how parents are...

Answer 10

Your Mom is just trying to protect you.  When she was young, there were hardly any of the dangers of today.  We hear of all the dangers that teens face online, and many "Moms" do  not have an iota of the computer knowledge that their kids do, and that makes it even scarier!  As for the movies, my guess is that "they" chalk so much up to TV/movie violence, she is just trying to avoid violent exposure to you.  You sound like a great kid.  Maybe ask her to let up a bit as you seem to have shown her that she can trust you.  As for online stuff - you have to be so careful, but the movies should be OK.  Good Luck!

Answer 11

Well, there are lots of types of people, and I think that when your mom told you to turn the movie "I Robot" off, it was a kind of overprotective. Anyway, but I think she really worries about you. You might think she is really annoying you and her action makes you think that she is really stressful to you. I have a cousin who feels the same way as you do. I think you are at the age of thinking those stuff. But you need to try to control and listen to your mom. If you trust your mom, then listen to her and follow her direction ^^. Also it will be great if you talk to your mom seriously about what you're thinking ^^. Good luck!

Answer 12

well In my eyes maybe she is scared for you to grow up are you an only child or are you the youngest...

   I would rather have a mom that actually cared, My mom didn't care what i did at all and I screwed up when I was young, I dropped out of school 9th grade my mom let me and she didn't even make me get my GED.. When I was 15 she let my boyfriend live with me and by 16 I had a baby... Yeah thats right a  baby... And my mom was happy.... I stayed with the father but after a couple years he became abusive but I didn't leave and I couldn't go to my mom cause obviously she didn't care..... So my opinion Be glad she cares cause obviously she cares and loves you a lot.....

Answer 13

You call that overprotective? wow.

Answer 14

there it is, right there. my dad don't care.. got to be one strict and one not . she wants to know if and when you make a mistake , she can say to her husband its your fault. she feels she has to put boundaries he ain't doing it. when you grow up and you say wow, i was good kid now you can say cause mom made me that way. dad only kicked in after i got in trouble, too late. thank her your luck. just ask her to sit and watch a movie and change that a bit. but the rest, its cause she don't want to hear, my mom don't really care. that hurts. i seen my friend lose her 3 kids cause she stopped caring, and the kids were perfect and now gone wild. shame

Answer 15

I think she is just not ready for you to grow up so fast!

I'm sure it's really annoying, but moms are just moms, and they try their best,

but she might be over doing it..

Answer 16

My mom is exactly the same lol! Moms are like that i guess, they just don't want their little babies to grow up so fast or for us to watch violent things that might tarnish our innocent little heads lol!

I don't think that any mom likes violence and I have to live with the same problem lol, oh well at least you can look forward to getting your own house.

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Answer 17

Don't worry. She's just being a mom and maybe she feels a little left out since you may be drifting away from her since you're growing up and all. She probably wants to keep close contact with you. I am 19, in college, and I have a mom just like yours. I can't even watch a kissing scene in a movie with her in the room. lol..

What you can do to help the problem is maybe share with her why you are laughing. She'll feel "cool" and hey even ask her for some advice that should really make her happy. Make sure she knows you are not hiding anything from her and say things like " some kids at school can be so mean. How can they have the heart to bully/fight/tag/tease/bla bla bla. I wish they knew better"

Anyways. Hope this helps and remember she wants the best for you that's why she is being so protective