Is my mother abusive?

Question

I am 16.i have a drivers license. my mom hates getting me food and when she does, she yells at me. she says i should be the one getting her food, because i am "sitting on my @ss all day." she says i shouldn't have to serve people.she refuses to take me to the grocery store and we have hardly any food in the house,i don't like to go alone there and buy a bunch of food b/c i always see students from my school there with friends buying a couple things, i live in a smalltown, and i think it would be weird if i had a huge cart full of groceries. so she said i need to see a psychologist. i told her, you are selfcentered why can't you just take me to the grocery store once please? she says, you get what you put out in life, if you were more giving maybe people would be more willing to do things for you. wtf. i am nice to people, and even if i wasn't she is my mother,shouldn't she take me?she makes me feel worthless and i feel she doesn't care about me.is there something wrong with me?

Answer 1

hey i answered the other question but i really do believe your mother is emotionally along with physically abusive to you you should totally tell a trusted adult like a teacher or even a counselor and psychologist

you definitely need to tell some one you can't allow this to happen to you it isn't good for you

you'll end up like me with depression and suicidal so please get help it's hard but you deserve better!

Answer 2

Sounds like you have no choice but to get your own groceries and forget about getting any nurturing from your mother.

Once you've gone shopping a few times you'll get used to it and you won't feel so self conscious anymore.  How about going to the store every day so you don't have to buy so many things at once?

Answer 3

i answered your other question,

and i change my answer now.

ask your mom to get help. she sounds a little crazy no offense. if she refuses, move out. find a friend you can live with. its not a safe environment for you and i think you deserve much better.

Answer 4

That lady is whack!

Have you ever thought about slapping her across the face?

Answer 5

I know what you mean. My mother is pretty cold. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with your mother. If your 16, she should still be taking care of you, you are not a legal adult until you turn 18. What I would advise you to do is avoid your mother. Don't say anything you know, will aggravate her. Get a job to support yourself to deal with the food situation and don't tell her anything. Finish high school and go to college to better your life. Then while in college, be a full time student and don't take any breaks from school, Trust Me. You still have a while before you have to face the real world.

Hope I helped.

Answer 6

Your mum does sound abusive.. I think shes the one who needs help - not you.

Maybe you should tell this to a teacher at school or something? They can refer you to a counsellor, which in turn can help you get some help for your mum... or they will contact her directly...

Either way, it sounds like your mum has some serious personal problems and I'm sorry to hear that she's taking them out on you.

Good luck with it all. I really recommend you tell a teacher; ask them if they can send you to the school counsellor who I'm sure will provide you with some help!!