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Is my motivation bullsh**? girls/guys help!

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Ok, so I just had a conversation with a friend and one of her remarks just bothering me.

So I was venting to my friend about how physically and mentally exhausting medical school is, more so than I every expected it to be.. and that my training won't even be complete for another 7 or 8 years. She asked me "why do you put yourself through such stress?" I told her its for my mother, and making her proud of me is my overall goal in life. Don't be mistaken though, I decided what career path I wanted, and sure the nice salary and helping patients (a dream) is great, my mother is my motivation.

She laughed at me and told me I was a fool for putting myself through all this stress (and debt) just to make my mother proud. She told me that my mother would be proud regardless what I do. I told her its not about me becoming a doctor that will make my mom the happiest, its about me fulfilling my dream that will really make her proud and happy.

She told me I was bullshit and live in a fairy tale... i was like, wtf?

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  1. No hun that's not bullshit at all! Your following a dream and thats great, good for you! And the fact that your doing it to also make your mum proud is so cute, it shows that your close to your mum and that you love her (which is seen as a very attractive thing in men).

    Sounds like this girl is either jelous (perhaps she doesn't have a close relationship with her mum) or she was expecting you to say something to her, because its a bit harsh saying you live in a fairytale and stuff.. x


  2. i think guys feel more of an attatment to their moms. so its fine, if its your motivation its your motivation and not a fairy tale. make your mom proud!

  3. As long as you and your mom are happy with your decision and you are confident about your future then why bother about what others say? Your ambitions are very good and of great Social importance. Your mom should really be proud of you.  

  4. no offence but i kinda agree with her. yu probably think dat pleasing ur mum and to reach yur dream and stuff but seriously. 8 yrs? dats a bt too much. don't get me rong. i totally suport dat yur lyk going for yur dream but deres more important things in life. yuhave a whole life ahead of yu and yur going waste 8 yrs of it learning medical stuff? have a bit of fun from time to time. it won't hurt to lsten to other pplz. ad im sure yur mother is alreadi proud of yu even without yu devoting 8 yrs of yu life t medical skool

    =D

  5. well your motivation is great! hope all of them guys have same as yours. yah that girl is bitter, maybe she can't do anything or she wants you to be annoyed anyway don't mind her...

    by the way your such a nice guy for you think of your mom's happiness.

  6. First you said its for your mom and that making her proud is your overall goal in life, then you went back and said that you fulfilling your dream is what would make her proud and happy. I think you're confused yourself about whether if this is what you want or what your mother wants. It really doesn't matter what people tell you on here. You've made yourself believe that this is what you want whether if it's true or not. People here can't change your mind.

    I think regardless if it's your goal or your mom's, you should continue to follow this path. Since your mother's happiness is your biggest concern, following this path is the right choice. If you're doing this for your mom's, her happiness will gain you happiness, and if you're doing this for yourself, then your happiness will bring your mom happiness. Either way, it's a win-win situation.

  7. do what you wanna do and dont let anyone stop you i know shes your mom, and all but once your sucessful she'll know she messed up.

  8. i'm takin up dentistry and my goal is  to make my parents proud.. and to have a good life later on =) and my motivator is my parents =)

    it's normal and i think you don't have to listen to your friend's opinion all the time,, cos there's nothin wrong having your mom as a motivator

  9. I think she is a bit bitter  u go follow your dreams  you have a great motivation

  10. Interesting how it appears that all the responses supporting your desire to make your mummy happy seem to come from women. That does make me wonder what's going through their heads and what being their child would be like.

    Personally, I think it's pathetic and unhealthy that pleasing your mother is apparently your major motivation in life. Your friend _should_ be correct when she says that that your mother would be proud of you whatever you do. But that's assuming that your mother is sound psychologically and your relationship with her is healthy. Based on what you say, I wonder if either of those is the case.

    Medical school is undeniably exhausting, but I imagine it's even more difficult if there's constantly a thought at the back of your mind that you're going through all the stress and c**p not because it's something you need to do for yourself, but because your mother wants you to.

    Nice that you mention in passing that (after doing what mummy wants and getting loads of money) you're also interested in helping patients. Personally, I always find it nice to know that doctors I seek help from actually have some small interest in making me feel better.

  11. i dont understand why she said that! thats great tat you are fulfilling your dream! and that is so sweet that your mom is your motivation! your friend has no idea what shes saying bcuz u r making u and ur mom very happy and proud! you shud b proud of yourself and even tho the training is hard i hpe it allworks out in the end! :]

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