Is my relationship salvageable or is it too late.?

Question

My fiance and I are just destroyed beyond belief. But I still find myself wanting to repair what we had. Our relationship has been rocky for a long time now. She is very difficult to talk to and it seems like all I do is walk on egg shells when we are around eachother. She has a huge anger problem and no self control over the anger. I know the person she can be and I am totally in love with that person but its been so long ago I do not know if she can come back. Alot of things have happened in her life recently and I think it is killing her inside. I am not the most sensitive person in the world nor am I the most understanding. In fact I would call myself very immature for my age. I know I need to pull my head out of my bum. I know what she doesn't like about me and I am willing to change. But the thing that crossed the line is that she brought her co worker over our house while I was at work "I work graves" and made out with him. She has told me she loves him and we have tried to work it out I have forgiven her and I am willing to fix things. I had only asked that she not talk to him anymore. But she can't or she won't I am not sure. It is gotten to the point that I am going crazy. We have a 4 month old baby and she has a 4 year old some from a previous mariage. I love that kid so much and it kills me that I have pretty much lost my family. I have tried to kick her out and end it completely but she comes back. She says she wants to move in with him, yet she stays. The guys she fooled around with is married still going though a devorce "so i'm told" . I want to get help but she says she can't talk to counslers. Am I wasting my time. Is she using me until they are ready to move in. She says she will stay and help me with everything finacially but I just believe she is doing it out of guilt. Do I need to give up and let go or fight and try to make it work I guess that is what I am asking. Help me please.

Answer 1

She already answered that for you.

let her go and travel the road she choose with this male.

On your part, your life is that little girl.

I Know this is going to sound harsh but are you sure this 4 month old is yours?

I kinda wonder why her 1st marriage .....ended. With this behavior, I wouldn't be surprised if this is just repeating itself.

Use your energy in raising that baby and that other child.  You can make arrangements/agreements if she is willing to still have that child in your life

Get an attorney and get custody arrangments set up. etc.  

Answer 2

She has no respect for you. She doesn't love you. You need to move on.

Answer 3

leave her at once. Take everything, leave her with nothing.

Answer 4

James!

The advise given to you by Mutchkin is the best you will ever get listen to her!

Answer 5

Happiness in life is about preserving your sanity and not letting people run over you or take you for granted.  It sounds like she doesnt respect you, so dont force her to be with you, and dont try to be with her. If you think with your brain and not your heart, you will make the right decision.  DOnt waste time with someone that wont love you back.  That is crazy, and in the end you will feel worst then if you just cut your losses now and went on your merry little way.  She doesnt sound like a nice person, if she wants to be with that guy, let her. And one thing for sure....the more you try to force someone to get closer, the further they will go from you.

Answer 6

you get to see now what a marriage with her would be like. cut your losses. as soon as she cheated, she ended your relationship. sorry.

Answer 7

I think you sound too good for her. It sounds like she is using you.

I think you should try and get custody of your baby and live a happy life - the way it should be.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Part your ways.