Is my relationship with my boyfriend weird? Be honest.?

Question

Many of my co-workers and family members think my relationship with my boyfriend is strange. We've been together for four months (broke up a few weeks ago but back together) and I've known him for about six months. I am about to turn 17 and he's 23. Most people think all he would want his s*x but he's a virgin at 23 and waiting until marriage and I'm waiting until I'm older and really in love. I am not sure about the whole idea of marriage.

He is busy getting a degree in accounting to become a CPA so I do his laundry for him no matter how busy I am. I hate filling my car with gas so every Thursday he comes and does that for me. We go grocery shopping together (my parents make me buy my own and he buys his own obvs.) & even workout together.

We don't do anything physical. We obviously kiss but it's how you would kiss your grandmother. We don't do more than that because we don't want it to lead to other things.

Is our relationship strange? Be honest & don't hold anything back!!

Answer 1

No it is defiantly not weird, i think that's how relationships should work! I envy you, you have obviously frond an Amazing Guy and if you are happy with the relationship it is not weird!  This is your relationship not anyone else's, who are they to say it's weird.

I just wish i could find a guy like that, does he have a brother ? lol

Answer 2

I find the stuff about your parents more strange what your relationship with your boyfriend. You're just about to turn 17, and they make you pay rent, buy your own groceries, and everything? If you're still in school I don't see how you have time to work to pay for all of that. I'm 19 and still live with my parents. They don't make me pay rent, buy my groceries, pay my insurance, or anything else. Of course, I have to buy my own clothes and anything else I want. I can see them doing that if you're my age, but 17?

Your boyfriende is 6-7 years older than you. I think that's a little odd. I'd rather be with someone closer to my  age. Sounds like you all have a great relationship though! You help each other out. Every relationship is different. If this is working for you, there's nothing wrong with it! =)

Answer 3

seems sort of weak.

you guys must not like each other too much, or you would take it to the next step?

Answer 4

A little strange.  You guys sound more like friends than boyfriend and girlfriend.  Whatever floats your boat though.

Answer 5

It kind of seems like you're acting like a married couple. It's like you're so worried about things leading physical that you're constantly trying to think of other things to do together. Like you're looking for distractions. Maybe you're spending too much time together too soon. Also, I think the laundry thing is crazy! It's like he's using you as a maid or something. Shopping. laundry, the gym. You're not going too fast physically, but you're going pretty fast in the relationship. Try slowing it down a bit.

Answer 6

It sounds like you guys are more friends. Or a old married couple.

I just don't sense any passion. Any fire. You CAN be more intimate without having s*x.

Personally, I see the physical aspects of a relationship very nice. I'm not saying base a relationship on it just include it.

Answer 7

I don't see anything strange about it "\

The relationship sounds good, atleast you guys are open ;)

Answer 8

Honestly: I do not think it's strange. If it's not about the s*x, then that's great. It's very good you guys are waiting, because that's how it should be. So, you shouldn't worry what your parents think. Don't let them live your life; live your own. Also, he seems like he is trying to make a great life for himself. And it seems you guys have a GREAT relationship if you do his laundry and in return he gets gas for you.

Answer 9

Well, I would normally tend to wonder what a 23 year old man would see in a 17 year old girl -- but from the way you describe your relationship, it sounds like it might be working for you.  You sound very grounded and practical about things.

I don't find your relationship with your boyfriend nearly as strange as I do the fact that your parents make you buy all your own food, at the age of 17.  Are you still in school? THAT'S weird!!  

Good luck to your bf for going after his CPA -- it's a tough course of study.

Answer 10

obvs you think it's weird or you would be asking. I'm not really sure why you're asking? Would you like it to go further? I'm not sure why a 23 yr old would be interested in a 17 yr old.

Why don't you "be honest & don't hold anything back"...

Answer 11

yeah it's strange but it seems more of a friend relationship like "We kiss like you'd kiss your grandmother.." is like your kissing family not your boyfriend and making out doesn't always lead to anything more.

Answer 12

Look, people will say "oh it's illegal, he's using you, he'll go to jail if you have s*x", but they don't know waht they are talking about.

You are just fine if you are only dating.

I don't understand how this is a wierd relationship. Seems like you are mature and working very well together.

Answer 13

You ask the question as if there is such a thing as a normal relationship. There is no longer an heterosexual requirement therefore there is no heterosexual s*x requirement. U'll know if it's right if it works for u. Ur not ur mother, ur aunt, ur friend, or me. What i need in a relationship isn't what u need from urs. If u look for what other people say they need and not what u need u'll never be happy. So is ur relationship strange to me? yes, just like mine would be to u. :)

Answer 14

i think you guys should talk and tell him how you feel but i think you guys could try being a little bit more intimate without having s*x

Answer 15

this sounds just like a happy HEALTHY relationship! this waz SOOOO much better than reading about 15 year olds think they're pregnant! u both sound like ur waiting until ur ready b4 u become "active" and that is perfectly fine! im sure a lot of other ppl feel that way too. u guys seem really close and not just bf and gf, but like close friends! most relationships now are more like the bf and gf getting together once a week to go out to eat, see a movie, go home and have s*x! the only reason why it seems strange to other ppl is because they're probably not the "type" of ppl who wait to have s*x and think that u guys should be doing it every nite! they're wrong so don't listen to them! just continue w/ ur relationship and have fun!

Answer 16

I dont see any real passion in this relationship...no real yearning to be with each other...just someone to take care of the things you dont like to do...more or less you have become good friends who help each other out...I am sorry to say this isn't healthy for you since you are not learning the healthy ways to be with someone..whether or not you are going to be physical doesn't mean you can't kiss like you mean it or get excited when you see each other...I am just not getting this from you..sorry to say but it sounds more like you have a friend

Answer 17

It seems like you are taking things slowly and theres nothing wrong with that. Just make sure you dont lose family and friends over this man because family is very important.

Answer 18

It sounds like you guys are having a really good relationship !

Its not weird at all but I do think maybe you should like be a little more physical as in not such as grandma kisses but like boyfriend girl friend kinda things because when the time comes that you are having s*x its going to be akward probily and unknown

Answer 19

It doesn't sound odd.

Answer 20

i don't think there is anything wrong with your relationship, i think it's wonderful that you both have your feeling regarding a sexual relationship and aren't feeling pressured into doing things you don't want to. 4 months really isn't that long a time to be dating so if you both would rather wait then stick to your guns and don't let anyone convince you you're weird. I'm sure a lot over people have had sexual encounters they have regretted it looks like you 2 are not going to make the same mistakes (myself i regret that my husband and I had s*x as early in our relationship as we did, even though we ended up married)

Answer 21

you sound a bit like an old married couple.

VERY old... that or best friends.