Is my room mate g*y?

Question

I am a freshman in college and have recently moved into a room with a guy who is a year ahead of me (and a year older). He has been living in the room for the last year and his old roommate left to go to another college. When I first moved in he told me that he was relaxed about clothes and that I should make myself at home blah blah… I was like – ok.. not really sure what he meant… it was a bit odd. Anyway… pretty soon he’s casually walking around in his underwear or his jock strap... whatever. I’m ok with that… it’s his home. I do the same because I have brothers and it’s no big deal. It’s kind of cool to be able to relax and not worry too much about clothes. He has a girlfriend by the way so he’s not g*y.

About two weeks ago he walks from the bathroom to his bedroom naked… he had a towel that he kind of dangled in front of himself but he did not try to hide the fact that he is naked… in fact he stopped to talk to me on the way. I couldn’t help thinking that he was deliberately trying to shock me because he had this little smile and seemed to be watching my eyes to see if I looked ‘there’.

Anyway… cut a long story short… today I got home to find him laying naked on the couch… he was surprised to see me and kind of apologized by saying he was not expecting me home so early but otherwise he didn’t care too much. He was semi-hard and didn’t try to cover himself at all... he just lay there. He could tell I was uncomfortable and told me that he and his old roommate used to hang out naked at home and that lots of roomies do it. He asked if I was ok with that and I kind of blurted out ‘yeah!’ because I don’t wanna seem uncool. He said I don’t need to worry cause he’s not g*y or anything.

Can anyone tell me if this is normal? Do straight guys hang out naked with straight guys or is this guy really g*y?

Answer 1

I've been going to college for 3 years now, and yes, that doesnt sound normal at all, and I could never picture me or my friends being comfortable around eachother naked. Sounds like your roommate is pretty much openly g*y, make what you will of it.

Answer 2

dont just think it u should ask him cuz if not u wiil make the problem worse  but i dont think he is me an my best friennd seen each other naked all the time  an we not g*y  just as long as he dont try no funny ish then dont worry bout it hahahaha

Answer 3

haahahahaaha it can go either way! some people just REALLY like being naked.... straight and g*y. so  i mean i guess its normal, but kinda weird considering you don't know eachother THAT well...

Answer 4

Whether or not it is "normal" you are uncomfortable with this and it is your home too.

You really need to sit down with this guy (fully clothed) and have an honest talk.  Tell him that you are uncomfortable with him being naked and partially dressed and that you would appreciate it if he would at least cover up with a bathrobe.

You need to tell him this - it is not right that you are uncomfortable in your own home.

Answer 5

put on a g*y porno and see if he gets an erection

Answer 6

naked does not equal g*y.  if you ever wake up with your boy parts in his mouth, he's g*y.  in the meantime, if you're uncomfortable stand up for yourself.  the only thing worse than a g*y roommate is a sissy one.

Answer 7

your jumping to conclusions with the g*y thing

it sounds like he is just a nudist, nothing to worry about.

it is it common, no. but there's nothing wrong with it

Answer 8

I dont think so. Peolpe just like being naked and hes not shy! So maybe you should test him. You walk around naked and see if if stares at you!. Or just ask him.

Answer 9

i dont think he is g*y, just not shy. if ur not sure just flat out ask him.  

Answer 10

He probably not g*y. Just ask him to get some dang clothes on when your around him.

Maybe he's just showing off his junk

Answer 11

javelin, you mentioned in an earlier question that you like nudity, so I'm guessing you don't have a problem with either you or your roommate being naked together.  The fact that he was surprised to see you when you got home today tells you that he wasn't setting it up - it just happened.  He might have been thinking about masturbating and was getting ready to rock when you walked in.  Sounds like he's very comfortable in his own skin.  I wouldn't worry too much about it.  IF the both of you are straight, chill.

Answer 12

I didn't read all of the junk you wrote, just go ask him.

Why would you ask the internet when you just need to walk over to him and ask if he is bisexual?

Answer 13

You have been raised to associate nudity with s*x.  Your room mate has a different attitude.  People who are used to casual nudity don't associate it with s*x, they associate it with being comfortable.  Your roomie asked if you were comfortable with it and you gave a false answer because you wanted to seem cool.  It's better to answer that question honestly.  He was asking because he could see you were uncomfortable.  Most nudists are willing to adjust to some extent around non-nudist friends.  Have a talk with your roommate and tell him that you've realized that you're not 100% comfortable with him being nude so much.  Maybe you're trying to be, but you haven't escaped all your programming yet.  Work out with him how much nudity you can take, and work out a compromise where you infringe as little as possible on his freedom, and he infringes as little as possible on your sensibilities.  You can always change the rules later if your attitudes change.  Open, honest communication is key in these situations.

Answer 14

dude hes not g*y alot of guys do that but one thing they odnt hang around naked wiht eachother thats kinda weird but walked from one room to the other naked and not care thats no biggy but tell him no more being naked on the couch he was probally about to jerk offf tell him if he is gogin to jerk off to not do it on ther couch

Answer 15

Is he g*y?   Who knows.  Many guys are perfectly comfortable with nudity among themselves.  It's not unusual.  Perhaps he comes from a family of boys.  Lack of modesty does not necessarily make a person g*y.  I know it's your home too, but if it bothers you, perhaps you should knock before you come in if you think he is at home.  Don't sweat it, OK.

Answer 16

Dude, it's college!

people do what they want in college i LOVE being naked, but im not g*y.

just ask him and who cares what r u a homophobe or something? country boy? lol homos are everywher get used to it