Is my self harm something to be worried about?

Question

i am already suffering from depression and i feel that my life is going down. but when i cut my self i feel happy and alive again but ive been told that this could lead to suicide if i continue.

i dont know what i shud do because if i stop then im goin to feel miserable but if i carry on i could make things worse in the long run somebody please help me.

Answer 1

here is the thing

who wants you to suffer

god or satan?

what do you think <<<you feel happy) yeah its a fake thing ,you feel pain so the pain you feel takes your mind from the sadness you feel

Answer 2

talk talk talk talk. i'm in the process of stopping self harm and it's a long road, but you can do it, as long as you wanna. like, self harm in itself is something to be worried about and it's always concerning, especially for the people around you to watch you go through things like that and be unable to help, but for you, self harm will make you happy and feel alive, and it'll make your tears go away because it's a vent, it's changing one emotion into another, but it's addictive and makes you do things you wouldn't normally do. it COULD lead to suicide but only if you let it, if you carry on you'll still feel miserable, it's a vent, it's not getting rid of anything at all, it's just changing things and making it difficult. it'll leave you with horrid scars and make you lie, if you can, get out before it gets too late. if you wanna talk, mail me, i dont bite and i'm always here :) x*x

Answer 3

My family has had the same problem with a sibling. Cutting yourself will not lead you to suicide. This cutting thing is more to do with release than anything else. But you will find that the more you cut yourself, the more you will want to do it, more cuts, deeper cuts, untill one day you will cut too deep. Find a release somewhere else. ANYTHING will do. Punch stuff, go shooting....something

Answer 4

You know it's dumb to cut yourself. That's obvious. You need to decide if mental health is important enough for you to see a professional to resolve your low self esteem and most likely depression too. Cutting yourself solves nothing and makes your problems worse.

Answer 5

i know what you're going through, the same thing can happen to me, most notably a few years ago when i used to cut myself every night. It makes you feel better because you are feeling physical pain not the emotional pain and it takes your mind away from it! I got through it by talking to my friends who were worried about me, and it makes the self harming seem so stupid, mostly because you can't justify your reasons to them, because they don't understand what you feel. But trust me, talking does help, and eventually, the 'downer' gets better, and you feel that you can live your life normally again. Don't get me wrong, the temptation is always there to do it again, and i have myself, but through support you will get through it. If you need to talk, just message me and I'll be glad to. Good luck!

Answer 6

There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting — healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led to the cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:

   1. Tell someone. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest — admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.

   2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing you to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble you're having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.

   3. Ask for help. Tell someone that you want help dealing with your troubles and the cutting. If the person you ask doesn't help you get the assistance you need, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If you get the feeling this is happening to you, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make your case for you.

   4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community.

Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.

Answer 7

please see your doctor and get some help so you don't have to feel so bad.  

Answer 8

Seek counseling.

Answer 9

This is so not good. Get to the Doctors first thing tomorrow. If you cut yourself you run the risk of bleeding to death, you deserve help, just ask, Please !

Good Luck

Answer 10

thats not right. see a counsellor

Answer 11

It is definitely something to be worried about. Please go see a doctor. You may need medication and help from a professional.

Answer 12

go to church

Answer 13

You need professional help.

Talk with your GP to start the process.

Answer 14

It could and the only reason it makes you feel happy is because it makes you feel free like your worries are dripping away. I would try to stop before it becomes fatal.

Answer 15

i went through the exact same thing as you. I knew that if i crried on it would becaome very serious but i couldnt help it. I suffered from depressiong too. I found alternative ways of hurting myself like crushing ice or pinching myself and eventually stopped. You can too. You can beat this.

My thoughts are with you. good luck x  

Answer 16

You know what, Danny? The fancy name for that is called "a coping skill." It may not be the best one. If it kills you, or leads to behaviour that does, it is definitely not a good coping skill. I would strongly suggest you begin by finding and talking with someone you really trust. First, because it is easier to talk to them than someone you don't trust, and second, when they tell you what to do, you will be more likely to do it.

The people who are telling you to seek counselling are absolutely right, and that is what I will tell you, too, but to just go and seek counseling is a big step, so I would have you talk to a trusted friend, first. It's just easier on you. There are a lot of coping mechanisms out there which will not hurt you. They will help you become better. For example, when I am stressed to the max, I go out and hug a tree and cry my eyes out. It looks foolish, yes, but it is like a safety valve and "grounds out" my stress very well. I can feel it leaving my whole body. That is one of the many ways I cope.

So, to get you on the right track here in a hurry - find a good friend, open up and tell them what's going on with you. I used to e-mail back and forth with an emo in Birmingham, U.K. who eventually saw this was not the right way to be going, and he actually stopped doing it, permanently. He began to learn how to love himself again.

I hope you can find some healing energy in my answer to you and I certainly will be keeping you in my thoughts for the rest of the summer. Sent with positive energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. I am 65, and have found many ways to deal with Life over the years. You never stop finding new ways to live better. All you need is to choose to go this route. I hope like that other individual in Birmingham, you will stop doing this and start living your life in a more healing way.

Good on you, reach out and go get the help you can really use to reclaim your good feelings about who you are.   - Chris!

Answer 17

Call your local mental health agency and get an appointment right away. This is a mental condition and need to be treated soon. You are not alone, many others suffer from this disorder and it is treatable. Get help now.

Answer 18

yes

Answer 19

yes - u need to talk to a counselor before you seriously injure yourself!  

Answer 20

youre messed up if you cut yoursellf

you will find more pain from cutting than from stopping,

what i mean is in the end you will be much more happy if you stop cutting yourself now, and suffer through than the depression. Its better than seeking a quick high by feeling happy by bleeding.

talk to someone you can trust and knows will help you, like youre parents or a close friend.

Answer 21

you ne ed to find help pet course you got depression   and mental health issues   there must be somthing deep down troubling you  speak to your gp  hope you ok i also suffer  wth  depression so i know what you are talking about hope this helps take care lolx i hve also  self harmed  i  think i know why i do mine

Answer 22

You might wish to seek a counselor.

Self-harm, from what I hear, only gets worse. It gets to the point where it takes more severe damage to relieve your pain. So yes, you should get help sooner, rather than later.

Answer 23

Self-abuse leads to suicide because your depression is probably making you think all these things that aren't true, for example, if you ever felt you were worthless or something. I don't believe you get happy when you cut yourself. When you cut yourself, you focus more on the pain than your mental anguish, which leads to guilt.

If you really feel happy cutting yourself, then I don't understand how it's depression. As always, anything regarding mental self infliction, go see a therapist, some kind of shrink to work something out.

Answer 24

seek help

Answer 25

Hi Danny,

This happens to loads of people everywhere and sadly they dont speak out. the good thing is you have talked out with your "bubble"

Even though its just a computer you have realised you have possibly got a problem. Id seek some councelling and help, its happens to so many people and loads recover and lead"normal" lifes once again.

Goodluck hun

x

Answer 26

it's not about u cut your self. it's about your happiness right? u find someone to talk about ur problem and my personal advice if u want to be happy u don't need to cut your self but think about happy times. if u want to be happy then there is no power in the world that will stop u. but if u want to stay unhappy then u will end up hurting your self and seeing the time go by. enjoy urself. go out in a rain. go make friends. feel the joy. be happy. and that's priceless. and still u have a problem then share it. this the best way to be happy share love. be happy man what is there that u don't have fresh air, greens, water what else u want? i have seen people how can't even get to eat one time food but still they are happy. be happy man. and remember that there is no one to stop u from being happy. if there is then ur are the weakest person in the world unleash ur power.

Answer 27

I know exactely how you feel. Last year i done the same thing not thinking much of it but when other people saw them they just think it as "a cry for help" or "attention seeking" but it makes you feel so good afterwards i can recall explaning it as artificial happiness and lookes forward to doing it over and over. Moral of the story you really need to stop it starts off with a few nicks here and ther then a few stiches and then a few trips to hospital you need to see a phycologist or i am unsure where toy live but here in New Zealand we have a phone line for people who are depressed that you can ring. But Seriousley get some help before its to late.

Good luck.

Answer 28

Please seek help in those who love you.

I have suffered similar problems in my teens and I know how hard it is to get out of feeling this way, but there are ways you can cope, I promise.

I suggest you go to your GP so that they may direct you to the support which is most appropriate to you. Everyone reacts differently to different supports, some find that support groups and counseling are right for them. I found that medication was, but this isn't for everyone. I have no weened myself off the meds and if I can do it, there is hope for everyone.

Good luck.

Answer 29

dont cut any more as i was like you i cut myself a felt great  but i got a boyfriend no  go and talk to a doctor as i am on pills now